Life Next Level

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you? Good folks, I hope you're all doing well today. And uh coming at you with another episode here, hopefully the front didn't get cut off. Everything is a little bit wonky right now with the software I'm using, it cuts the first around 3 to 6 seconds off. So I don't know exactly where to start. But another episode of the Life Next Level Youtube Channel um Today, I want to talk about confidence or courage uh self confidence specifically, and I look back in my life and I look at all the things that I didn't do because I, I implied to myself that I didn't have the confidence to do it. And I watch other people do the things and I think to myself, wow, they have this confidence, but I'm too scared to do it and I want to talk about that a little bit because we all look at confidence incorrectly. So whether you look back at a job you didn't go for or the girl that you didn't ask out because you were too scared and other people did you think again, they're better than you because they have better confidence. That they have more confidence in their more self confident and courageous. And um I want to tell you that you have that confidence. I 100% about that because confidence is not not being scared to do something. Confidence is being scared to do something, but doing it anyway. So think of something in your life in the past that you regret not doing and just know that you were scared for a reason. And if you listen to my past episodes, I talked about fear being being something to motivate you because when you are scared to do something, it's usually a good sign because then you're going to step outside your comfort zone and you're going to grow into your growth zone, you're going to grow and you're going to have personal growth and personal development. And we all want that none of us want to stay stagnant and and not growing. And so the next time you think about something, you're a little scared to do it. Just know that it's ok. Confidence is being scared but doing it anyway. So think about that today. And as you go forward thinking and you want to do more, want to grow, want to step outside your comfort zone, confidence is being scared. But doing it anyway, hope you have a great day. Great seal. See you next time.

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Hey, everyone j here with another episode of Life, Next Level podcast, Youtube channel, all that good stuff. Um Today I just want to talk about one of my favorite quotes and if you have listened to my podcast before, I know that I brought it up in some of our longer foreign podcast, but I felt it's worth bringing up in a podcast many episode as well. Um hopefully you can take something away from it and I'm also going to go a little bit in depth into what why it means so much to me. So on my personal growth journey of which I've touched down a little bit. Um there was, there was a point in time that I moved to Hawaii, I moved there alone, but I had my girlfriend at the time was gonna move with me in a few months, so I moved out there, found us a place, all that good stuff and then she didn't end up coming. So I'll get into that story another day, but it hurt me a lot. I was, I was far away from all my friends and family and all of a sudden I was alone and you've never felt so alone is when you all of a sudden move, what is it three or 4000 miles away from where you were at and, and and then you just kind of totally alone And it was very hard for me, I was in paradise but miserable for for a long time. So I went through a personal growth journey that really helped me be who I am today. So the quote that I'm referring to is I had heard it on the tim Ferriss podcast, I've never been able to look back and actually attributed to somebody, but I heard it on there and I've heard other people say other variations of it, but the one that always sticks with me is when tim Ferriss said it on this podcast, which is sometimes life takes something you want in order to give you something you need. And I fully believe in that. It took me a while to get over everything that I was going through. But now that I look back on it, I am a completely changed person. I went through a lot of personal growth myself. I was getting comfortable in life and comfortable isn't where I want to be. And so looking back, I realized I was had been unhappy for a while and uh and so it wasn't just my relationship, I still think she's a great person, but it was, it was my job, it was just a 9 to 5 and I went in and sleepwalk through the day and then came home and watch netflix on the couch and well, I mean whatever, but I just didn't have that ambition and to grow to personally grow and now, I mean I'm growing in new ways every single day, so if you're thinking or maybe you're going through something right now or maybe you're thinking of a situation you're still not quite over If you can look back on and look at it like that and make an effort to change and say, hey, you know, I'm going to be who I want to be. Maybe this is one of those instances that life took something I wanted to give me something that I need and if you can better yourself, then then all the better for you. So um again, sometimes life takes something you want to give you something you need. Uh if you have another favorite quote, that's kind of along the same subject lines, drop it in the notes. Otherwise, if you're going through a situation like that, please reach out, let me know. Um I would love to help any way I can. All right. I hope you'll have a great day and we'll see you next time. Hello? Ha.

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Hey folks, I hope everyone's having a great day. This is another episode of the Life Next Level Youtube Channel. Um, I just wanted to briefly talk about something that I experienced a little bit recently and that's learning to say no, we all have a really tough time saying no, but so for example, a couple weeks ago I had a potential trip plans and some friends were meeting great, sounds like a great experience and I had contemplated saying no for quite a while. Um, and I knew that I should say no, even though it was just a long weekend, I just knew it was gonna be exhausting and I had a lot to finish by that friday and I have to finish this month, but I said yes because you know, I love my friends and my family and, and so I said yes and I went on it. Um, and that's okay, but there comes a time when you're working on something that you have to make the hard call and actually say no, even if you want to say yes, even if your friends want you to say this, even if people are going to guilt trip you because I came back and then I was, you know, I went through a stage of why did I do that? I spent more money than I wanted to spend. I'm now behind on all my stuff. So I guess what I really want to elaborate here elaborate on here is that you can say no and it's okay. One of the best things that you can do, especially if you're, if you're looking to to be successful in another realm or maybe you're going above and beyond and you know, you're going to school while working or you're starting a business while working and you don't have the time to do that. There comes a point in time that saying yes no longer aligns with your purpose or it doesn't serve you anymore at that time. And so it's okay to say no. Whether it be a weekend vacation, whether it be a happy hour because you just know that you have to stay home and get stuff done because you have to focus on you and that's okay. So today, I just want to let you know it's okay to say no sometimes. Um and in fact, I would really encourage you to say no under certain situations, especially again, if you're if you're if you are working hard at your purpose or you're really doing something that you want. But if you say yes all the time, it's just going to set you back and back and back. So, you know, fine, of course you have to find time for yourself and and hang out with your friends and whatever it is that you all do. So make sure to make time for yourself. But sometimes you have to say no as well and that's okay no matter what I'll catch you next time. Remember, learn to say no a little bit more. All right, see you

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Hey folks, this is jay here with life next level. Just throwing another video and podcast your way. Just the mini one. Um today I want to talk a little bit about uh I want actually you need to do a little experiment. I'm assuming some of you are in the service industry or you want to help others in some way, shape or form. That seems to be a lot of people I talked to end up in that if they're not already in that category, that end up wanting to help others, whether it's through coaching or or you know, they went to school for therapy or anything like that, but there are many ways to help others. But I've also noticed that what happens to me, it happens to everyone. We get we get imposter syndrome, were scared like who am I to help someone else? We get imposter syndrome, we have just self doubt creeps in and then we don't end up doing anything about it because we don't think we can help people just because I don't know, you don't go to school for 10 years or, or whatever. But what's happening now is that a lot of people are looking for help from people who have been there before, Not necessarily people that were just educated in it, but people who have went through what they're going through. People who are going through heartbreak want help from people who have been through heartbreak, you know, for example, and, and I think that's that's becoming a very huge thing right now. And so it to try to get over that imposter syndrome and self doubt him. Um I want you to do a little experiment and that's just to talk to yourself from five years ago. And what would you tell them? What would you tell yourself from five years ago, through all the experience that you've gone through in the last five years? What would you tell yourself to better yourself, to make yourself maybe Go through better experiences or to avoid some pitfalls, then try that from 10 years ago and sit down and really like, have this genuine thought process of a conversation with yourself, what would you tell yourself? And then think about this? There's thousands, hundreds of thousands, possibly millions of people out here out there who are in the position that you were in five years ago that you have done all this stuff and there where you were five years ago, so that's how you can help them because you've had that experience going through something that they're just they're just starting on their journey, going through an experience that you went through, And that's how you can help people um or 10 years ago, whatever it may be. So, think about that a little bit, if if that's industry or something that you're trying to do with your business or your side hustle or just or just in everyday life, think about that a little bit, and especially when you when you're like, full of self doubt because that will give you a good example of how exactly you can help people because you the people that you will help our people, you're basically talking to yourself in five years ago. So keep that in your back pocket. Think about that when things get a little bit rough and you're trying to figure out, you know, who am I to help people out of these situations. That's who you are because you've been there before. All right. I hope you all have a great day.

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Again, I'm just gonna babble upfront here a little bit because waiting for my software to catch up and it always cuts out the beginning. So if you're hearing this, I'm just babbling to get started. I think around 10 seconds I'm good. So back with the life next level YouTube video today, I want to talk a little bit about other people's highlights and this has happened to me. And in fact, again, I'm going to go through, I'm gonna go through some of my past stuff that I went through and relate to. Some stuff that you have went through have gone through and probably will or maybe are because we're all going through struggles at that point sometimes. But I remember when I went through a really bad breakup and I would go on facebook and I know I knew not to, my friends told me not to, but what uh what kept happening is I'm seeing all these other people in great relationships and posing together and having families and getting married and getting engaged and everything's all roses and butterflies and cotton candy. And it was very depressed. And it's very hard. I just I love to be happy for other people. But it was very hard in that moment to be happy for other people when I was just so freaking miserable. And um it took a lot out of me. What I realized in reading a lot of stuff and everything is that people only put their highlights on social media. People only tell you about their highlights unless you're a deep and close friend and so don't so evo if and when you're having a bad day or going through a bad time, don't go look on social media because it will not help. And also, I don't believe that everyone is having a perfect life in the opposite situation of you because they're not everyone, everyone is going through their own internal struggles. As you walk down the street, everyone you pass is going through their own struggle with something, whether it be their relationships, their job, they're scared of something, they're sad about something everyone, so don't be fooled about that. So, I just want to let you know when you're having a bad day or bad week or bad month like that. It's ok. Everyone goes through that you're not alone and I know that everyone likes to go out alone, but you're not alone. So just remember that and I just want to leave you with a quote and actually should have memorized this, but it's it's hard to remember exactly what he said. His name is jesus and I don't even know if I pronounce that uh zh n but he said um this was a long time ago, he said, people will only show you what they want you to see, remember everyone has a chapter in their lives that they don't read out loud, so don't be fooled by the perfect front that people put up, you'd be foolish to believe all that. So, always remember that when you're going through a tough time, everyone else is too, you're not alone. So, um, and it's okay. It's okay. It's okay to be sad for us. Okay. Okay. To have a bad day. It's okay to go to sleep at six PM and just live for tomorrow for a day when you're having one of those bad days. It's all okay. All right. I'll talk to you next time on the Life. Next Level channel. See you.

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Hey everyone, welcome to another episode today. I want to ask you a question to take with you for the day, We all want to accomplish more, whether it be in business, personal life, whatever, maybe, maybe a combination, I find that a lot. Um and I'm sure we've all heard the phrase that goes something like we are the equivalent of the five people we hang out with the most. And you know, if you've read any business books or anything or any entrepreneurial books that people are very big on the network, they hang out with, the more successful the person, the more they credit the network that they hang out with. That's why you see a lot of groups that meet every week that are entrepreneurs. When I lived in Thailand, I was able to find groups on facebook and online that would meet weekly, That was, that was a bunch of digital nomads that were starting their own business over there and stuff and they have that everywhere. So I want you to think about that, Who are you hanging out with? And I'm not saying that to drop old friends, but we all change, right? I have old friends that I still hang out with, but I don't maybe network with as much because their content in their life, which is great. Um and I still love them, we're just different people and I'm not content. I'm always growing so I think we should all look internally and say, who is it that I could hang out with, maybe weekly, that will push me forward and then I can push forward find a networking group. So what I want you to focus on is think about what can you do in the next month or two to start building your personal network and start expanding that and maybe maybe get involved in monthly meetings or weekly meetings or biweekly meetings. However, that may go to keep you pushing your dream forward while you're helping other people push. There's what I've noticed when I'm networking and now I'm in Arizona, what I've noticed is I meet people out that have that are very similar to me and I get their information and I'm putting together like a mastermind group that can meet once every other week and we'll all get together and share our story and we can all help each other. The great thing about groups like this is not only did they push you to be your best and you push them and everyone pushes each other so everyone grows exponentially, but you have all of this, it's like a mind meld in one room because people, you've been through stuff that I haven't been through, I've been through stuff that you haven't been through and we can educate each other on that information. So it's always a great idea to have a great network if you want to, if you want to grow if you want to get outside your comfort zone, whatever it is that you want to do if you want to grow in life, it's great to have a network of people that have the same aspirations as you. It will only help in the long run. And again, the most successful people swear by having a group of people that they can talk to, that they've met and have the same aspirations. Everyone will move up together. So give it a shot again. What are the things you can do in the next month or two to start building and growing your personal network? To help you and help them hope you have a great day.

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Hey everyone again, I'm having some technical difficulties. So that beginning tends to get a little cut out. So I leave a little dead space there and then I started by rambling a little bit. So you guys won't miss the beginning anymore. So today I'm gonna talk about focus a little bit again. This is the Life Next Level Youtube channel. Um please comment below if you have any thoughts on anything or I'm gonna ask questions, answer the questions or if there's anything else I can touch on on personal growth, personal development motivation, you name it mindset, I love talking about this stuff, it's my jam. So, but today we're gonna talk about focus and its importance in your success and getting anything done big or small when we have something, especially again if we're jumping outside our comfort zone and into our growth zone, our brains start to freak out. They think of all the bad that can happen. What if we lose their money, what happened? What are people gonna think if we fail? Oh my gosh, I'm going to spend all the time on this and it's not gonna work and our brains just focus on that and I'm sure that you've had that where you're sitting at your computer and you just start daydreaming about what's going to happen if you fail and then you walk around and you think you act like you're failing, you walk with your head down as if you've already failed and I have more stories about that. But what I really want to talk about today is the phrase where your focus goes, your energy flows and that's incredibly true. So if you are just focused on the negative and what could happen if you fail, that's what's going to happen because because that's all you can focus on and I realized that for a lot of us this is a problem for most of us because that's what our brains tend to do because our brains are trying to keep us safe, They don't care about success or happiness, they just want to keep us safe. And if we go outside of your comfort zone, our brains freaked the hell out. And so um where your focus goes, your energy flows. So in Nascar they teach you when you are training to become a driver and you get into an uncontrolled spin, the first thing everyone wants to do is look at the wall because it's what they want to avoid, inevitably they hit that wall because that's where their focus is, even though their focus is on trying to avoid it, that's that's where they go. So what they try to teach you is to focus on the open road, stop focusing on the wall, focus on the good focus on the good that could happen. And that's a really good lesson for everyday life. If you're doing something, whether it's a project for work, it's incredibly hard whether it's a career change, whether it's something big and drastic if you focus on the negative, that's where you're going to have and it takes work don't get me wrong, like meditation and visualization, all of which I'll talk about on this channel, but um it takes repetitive work to get your mind to start focusing on the positive that could happen. So instead of focusing all the time on what could happen. If you fail, focus on what could happen if you succeed, what are all the great things that could happen. Instead of focusing on all the money you could lose. What about all the money could make? Instead of focusing on the negative of asking someone out, focus on the positive because when you start to focus on the positive doesn't guarantee success. No, but I will tell you what there's a hell of a better chance of succeeding if you focus on the positive versus focusing on the negative. So it's all it's all an odds player. So again, focus where the focus goes the energy flows. Think about that with whatever you're working on and when you find yourself focusing on the negative snap out of it and start focusing on something positive and really ingrained that. In fact, I would do it every morning. But again, we'll talk about visualization techniques in a later episode. But again, remember today, every day where the focus goes energy flows Alright, appreciate you and we'll talk to you next time

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[00:00:00] :  my friends, my friends, it's good to see you again. This is jay with a Life Next level Youtube channel. Uh just wanted to bring something up today, I've been talking a lot about fear lately and and kind of keeping on that theme a little bit, I wanted to tell you something that that drastically changed me, that one of my coaches at one point had asked me, I had a lot of trouble in my past, I always wanted more in my life and I think I described that in my introductory video, that I never really realized that, or maybe I realized that deep down, I knew I always wanted more. I was always a dreamer. I always want to start a business, always wanted to help people, but I never really did it. I would read books on it, I would, I would Um talk to people and I had a coach at this point and I would take classes on it and I just never really got there as much as I wanted to, I just kind of shove it down and and you know, stay in line and live in society like everyone else does and work for that 41K even though I didn't care for my career, as good as it was, you know, I have a girlfriend and just come home and hang out with her and that was it. What, you know, it's fine for some people, not for me, maybe not for you either if you're watching this, but one thing that he said to me that I now think about a lot when I'm thinking about, what do I want to do next. How do I want to help someone next? And when I sit down and really think about it a lot of times with the journal, I write down, what would you do if you weren't afraid? Because fear has a distinct effect on what we choose to do and what we don't and how and how we fail and whether we have acid or go all in and because we're always scared of something failure. Someone else, what someone else thinks, you know, I can go through time and time again, but it is always almost always based in fear. So the next time you have something on your mind, maybe you do right now, maybe you want to go for a promotion and you've been thinking about it all week. Um, you know, who knows? Maybe you want to ask out the brief step that you see every morning. Um, I don't know. But what I want you to sit back and think today and put it in the comments if you will. But what would you do about that if you weren't afraid if there were no fear at all? If you could just sit back and think about that for a second, what your life would look like if you made this one change today that you've been wanting to make, but you weren't afraid to do it, what would you do? Would you do it then? Maybe that's a signal that you should figure out a way to do it because fear should not stop you. So I want you to think about that today. Think about some things that you want in your life and then ask yourself the question and really sit down and think about it. What would you do if you weren't afraid? Alright. Until next time? I hope you all have a great day, love talking to you and we'll talk to you later. Yeah.

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[00:00:00] :  hey everyone, it's j with life next level and I just coming at you today to talk to you a little bit about one of the number one things that people never do in order to succeed. Um and I want to encourage you to do that today on something, so, and I've been in the same boat, I still am, sometimes you want to do something, you continue to learn about it, you, there's always again, a million reasons not to do something and it all comes, it's all fear based, but really the biggest thing is to take action. I used to read thousands of books, I never thought I was ready, I had to read another book before I tried something new in another book and talk to someone else and do it with someone else. And my problem wasn't any of that, it was just that I wouldn't take action and that that's it, that also came to fruition with with my podcast or this. Um and I know I talk a little bit about a lot about fear and to do things scared, but the fact is that we all want to do something else, we all start to look into it, we all start to read about it, Maybe we take a class on it and then we don't do anything about it. And uh uh Tony Robbins once said and I actually think jim Rohn said it before him and said don't let knowledge, don't let learning lead to knowledge, let learning lead to action. And I think that's a problem with a lot of us, we all learn what we want to do, but we don't do it for a number of reasons. And so today I just want to encourage you to think back on some of the things that you really want to do in life, some things that you're learning, um, that you're reading about right now and take a step today to put it into action, Take a step tomorrow to put into action. Even if it's just a little step, just keep taking steps, baby steps every day to put into action what you really want to put into action because that's the only way you're gonna grow and be, get to where you want to be in life if you want to be happier and you want to be doing something that you love in life or you want to be taking vacations or working as a digital nomad or teaching people something, you just have to take action. I didn't know what the hell I was doing when I started my podcast, I just decided I had to do it and let me tell you, I, I could have done it six months earlier. I just sat there on it because of fear and I didn't take action and I was always like, well tomorrow or the next day or when I have a little more money or when I have a little more time or when I know a little bit more, But the fact is the same with this Youtube channel, it's going to be rod first. But you know what I'm doing it, I'm getting out there and I'm doing it and I'm focused on continuing to do something with it every day in, in, in a month from now, a year from now. Who knows? You know, and so that's what I want to encourage you to do today. Think about, put it in the comments, if you want to think about something that you are either big or small, the goal that you want to, that you're striving for a dream that you want to live and how can you back into it and take action? How can you take action a look even a little bit today to get that needle moving forward and then a little bit tomorrow and make that action. I have it even if it's five minutes a day. So today take action on something that you really want in life. Talk to you next time. Nice to talk to you.