The Comfort Zone is something that everyone thinks they know and understand. If you can't jump outside your comfort zone, you can not truly succeed in business or in most of personal life. Most people think they move out of it on a regular basis. After listening, you may have a very different view. Dare to enter! Comfort Zone for Social Skills, Networking, Business is so important and yet so scary that few dare to truly roam.

The Comfort Zone is hugely misunderstood as people only look at themselves. Far more important to breakthrough success is the zone of others.

The Comfort Zone is hugely misunderstood as people only look at themselves. Far more important to breakthrough success is the zone of others. This episode is meant to supply comfort zone examples.

Most people talk about the comfort zone, but few every truly go outside it. Why? Why can pushing the envelope be a bad thing?

Your comfort zone in not the only comfort zone that holds you back. Everyone around you has a comfort zone, too, and those will affect yours and stepping out of your comfort zone. How do you overcome this (go to Episode 20)?

Today I’m going to talk a little bit differently on a topic that most people feel that they know fairly well, and they probably do to some extent – the comfort zone. We have lots of opinions, ideas, and thoughts on it, but I want to try to think about it in a little bit more expansive and different way.

Of course, the comfort zone is where you go in where you’re needing to learn new stuff or you’re going to learn new stuff. That is you go outside the area you’re comfortable with to get into something that is different.

It is learning what makes you uncomfortable. It is also social situations, whether in person, online, meeting new people in uncomfortable situations, networking, etc., at first you're going to have some level of discomfort. There is some level of uncertainty of the outcome. It’s part of learning. We’ll figure part of that out in a little bit. Also, in social situations, meeting new people, will you be accepted? Will you be embarrassed? All those situations are outside the comfort zone.

A little bit of a warning, in a sense, because thinking about this, we get back to the concept mentioned in the first episode on causality; cause and effect of being in a situation or on the edge or outside of your comfort zone, you are going to have certain other things take effect. That is: when you’re uncomfortable, why is that? Your judgment is going to be a little off, you’re going to be in a risky, stressful, uncertain situation.

Many people think of the comfort zone as pushing the envelope. Let’s think of a diagram of a circle with a dot in the middle.

When I was at one company, my boss brought me in for something and said: “Gee, I’m very concerned.” I was actually brought into this company to make changes. My boss said: “I want to make sure that people are not uncomfortable.” I said: -“May I borrow your whiteboard?” -“Yeah, sure.”

So I scratched off some of the junk that was on there, put a dot and a circle, with a dot right in the center of the circle.

I said: “Think of this as a comfort zone. You don’t want me to just push slightly on the edge of it. You really want to make change, here.” He said: “Yes, absolutely.” I said: “Change that’s going to be new and different, that is going to make people uncomfortable.”

Needless to say, we soon realized what those implications were. This guy is really bright, and even somebody like that, people that don’t understand or talk about the comfor...

1p-image-262 size-full" src="https://www.lifeunsettled.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Simon-Granner.png" alt="Simon Granner Entrepreneur" width="258" height="300" />In a Great Episode, Simon Granner and I touch on Financial Security, the Comfort Zone (see Episode 15 click here) dilemma, what not to do to build confidence and a wealth of topics that every success driven entrepreneur needs to contemplate to achieve their goals. At one time Simon did financial planning and you will see our discussion on what people need to do for their future.

Remember in episode 2 where Steve Thompson (click here to go to it) talked about investing in your past, your present and your future. Simon delves into the difficulties people have over time. Are you willing to work toward your future.

We discuss the 3 components of retirement. Simon says, you can't pull out what you don't put in.

Listen for the information that you need to calculate your future. It's easy to get your status.

We discuss what you can do if you are off target in your retirement. Along with this, what do you do if your skills are getting antiquated. Most people's skills are becoming outdated.

How and when do you need passive income?

No matter where you are, age and income, must you jump outside your comfort zone?

How can you jump outside your comfort zone and still not get embarrassed nor lose confidence, but actually gain confidence.

We discussed finding a mentor and listening and mimicking your mentor (Easiest Path to Success, we go deep in Episode 7).

Simon likes and uses the following quote - (and see why this advice helped at a younger age, dating)

"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."    - Wayne Gretzky

How to Contact Simon:

http://www.simongranner.com

 Recommended Book:

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck

1p-image-262 size-full" src="https://www.lifeunsettled.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Simon-Granner.png" alt="Simon Granner Entrepreneur" width="258" height="300" />In a Great Episode, Simon Granner and I touch on Financial Security, the Comfort Zone (see Episode 15 click here) dilemma, what not to do to build confidence and a wealth of topics that every success driven entrepreneur needs to contemplate to achieve their goals. At one time Simon did financial planning and you will see our discussion on what people need to do for their future.

Remember in episode 2 where Steve Thompson (click here to go to it) talked about investing in your past, your present and your future. Simon delves into the difficulties people have over time. Are you willing to work toward your future.

We discuss the 3 components of retirement. Simon says, you can't pull out what you don't put in.

Listen for the information that you need to calculate your future. It's easy to get your status.

We discuss what you can do if you are off target in your retirement. Along with this, what do you do if your skills are getting antiquated. Most people's skills are becoming outdated.

How and when do you need passive income?

No matter where you are, age and income, must you jump outside your comfort zone?

How can you jump outside your comfort zone and still not get embarrassed nor lose confidence, but actually gain confidence.

We discussed finding a mentor and listening and mimicking your mentor (Easiest Path to Success, we go deep in Episode 7).

Simon likes and uses the following quote - (and see why this advice helped at a younger age, dating)

"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."    - Wayne Gretzky

How to Contact Simon:

http://www.simongranner.com

 Recommended Book:

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck

Dave Austin took years of learning and excelling in athletics and reflections on his success to helping others through his coaching. He discusses how, while on vacation, a life changing decision with his wife changed his whole attitude and outlook as he works with others. Dave continues a lifelong mission from athletics to coaching.

He uses animals as examples of behaviors that are important for success. Then he takes those same examples and they become triggers so that when someone is in a stressful situation if learned well, they come to mind for you to act well under pressure. Dave points out that we have 60,000 thoughts per day. These can be a huge number of distractions and he focuses on extreme focus.

Just before he made the decision to go on this journey, Dave and his wife lost everything as they were hit in a major real estate crash and leveraged out. It was his re-evaluation which makes an incredible story and fortunately for many a new career. He explains how much he learned from his different coaches and noted how athletes performed based on their coach.

Dave urges people not to do something you don't like, change your direction. In that light, he mentions the famous quote, 'you are the average of the five people closest to you.' You need to make changes and find people that will have a positive influence on your future.

To contact Dave Austin:

http://www.extremefocus.com

Book Recommendations:

Outwitting the Devil: The Secret to Freedom and Success - Napolean Hill

Your Invisible Power - Genevieve Behrend

Dave Austin took years of learning and excelling in athletics and reflections on his success to helping others through his coaching. He discusses how, while on vacation, a life changing decision with his wife changed his whole attitude and outlook as he works with others. Dave continues a lifelong mission from athletics to coaching.

He uses animals as examples of behaviors that are important for success. Then he takes those same examples and they become triggers so that when someone is in a stressful situation if learned well, they come to mind for you to act well under pressure. Dave points out that we have 60,000 thoughts per day. These can be a huge number of distractions and he focuses on extreme focus.

Just before he made the decision to go on this journey, Dave and his wife lost everything as they were hit in a major real estate crash and leveraged out. It was his re-evaluation which makes an incredible story and fortunately for many a new career. He explains how much he learned from his different coaches and noted how athletes performed based on their coach.

Dave urges people not to do something you don't like, change your direction. In that light, he mentions the famous quote, 'you are the average of the five people closest to you.' You need to make changes and find people that will have a positive influence on your future.

To contact Dave Austin:

http://www.extremefocus.com

Book Recommendations:

Outwitting the Devil: The Secret to Freedom and Success - Napolean Hill

Your Invisible Power - Genevieve Behrend

Chris Cerrone gives an incredible review of his growth over his life and his insights into success and business as a successful entrepreneur.

Chris made a logical calculation to start his path in life. Interestingly for him and me, we both were very successful in real estate. He made one choice while I made the other. Both were successful decisions. We explain how that can be.

We talk about the ideas and needs for research before starting a business. Yes, action is important, but when do you pull the switch?

We discuss when a decision is made and whether or when to pull the plug, i.e. not to fall in love with an idea.

Chris beautifully describes the importance of looking into all the 'little things' when you are looking into or running a business. This topic brought us into an important discussion as to one major reason why so many businesses fail

We discuss everything from the importance of location and why people don't delve into the detail before starting a business.

Chris took a 5 year hiatus into corporate America and solidly learned why corporate America wasn't a good place for someone who drives for excellence. We discuss briefly my first move out of corporate America, finding myself starting a company that competed against, Merrill Lynch, Chase Manhattan, McGraw Hill and Thompson Publishing. A quick hint, it went very well for me, and we discuss why and how.

Almost everyone has a story and Chris brought out an amazing point. Many people don't know really how significant part of their story is. People are surrounded by purpose.

To contact Chris Cerrone and find more about him and his interests:

Websit:  http://www.cerroneshow.com

Book Recommendations:

Think and Grow Rich – By Napolean Hill

The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles – By Steven Pressfield

The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

Chris Cerrone gives an incredible review of his growth over his life and his insights into success and business as a successful entrepreneur.

Chris made a logical calculation to start his path in life. Interestingly for him and me, we both were very successful in real estate. He made one choice while I made the other. Both were successful decisions. We explain how that can be.

We talk about the ideas and needs for research before starting a business. Yes, action is important, but when do you pull the switch?

We discuss when a decision is made and whether or when to pull the plug, i.e. not to fall in love with an idea.

Chris beautifully describes the importance of looking into all the 'little things' when you are looking into or running a business. This topic brought us into an important discussion as to one major reason why so many businesses fail

We discuss everything from the importance of location and why people don't delve into the detail before starting a business.

Chris took a 5 year hiatus into corporate America and solidly learned why corporate America wasn't a good place for someone who drives for excellence. We discuss briefly my first move out of corporate America, finding myself starting a company that competed against, Merrill Lynch, Chase Manhattan, McGraw Hill and Thompson Publishing. A quick hint, it went very well for me, and we discuss why and how.

Almost everyone has a story and Chris brought out an amazing point. Many people don't know really how significant part of their story is. People are surrounded by purpose.

To contact Chris Cerrone and find more about him and his interests:

Websit:  http://www.cerroneshow.com

Book Recommendations:

Think and Grow Rich – By Napolean Hill

The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles – By Steven Pressfield

The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

If anyone wants success, whether in business as an entrepreneur or in sports, you must be willing to sacrifice. Time is at least part of that investment to be used effectively for success.

I discuss the Importance of Sacrifice for your Future.

At midnight, your day starts. You are given 86,400 seconds. They expire at the end of the day. How will you use them?

Extremely Good Results require sacrifice, but we can discuss the idea and need for a balanced life. So, what does that balanced life mean?

Success is brought by a combination of factors and you can do better than someone who is truly better skilled! I explain how.

Thomas:     Welcome to episode 11 of Life Unsettled – New Path, Better Future. This episode is about sacrifice, and the importance of sacrifice to your future. No, sacrifice doesn’t have to be a lifelong thing; it can be very, very temporary and yield extremely good results.

Let me explain. Looking to my background, I didn’t really have any optimistic vision of a great future or a professional future of any kind. I realized, though, a few things while in the military. While in the military, my eyes were opened considerably. I realized, of course, that college was going to be important, but not just college as an end to itself, but something that went probably a little bit beyond college, whether it be a professional school, a law school, whatever the case may be, it had to be something beyond that.

Now, how was I going to get there? I didn’t think a whole lot of myself at the time, but I did realize one thing, that even if I may be not as good as many other people, if I put more effort in that they did, that is: if I put in 20% more effort than everybody else, then I would probably have much better results than them. Then I started thinking about college and what that would mean. I had about three years left of college.

As a backdrop, I’ll point out some of the things I’ve done in the past or point you in a direction so you can look them up, but I looked at what I had done in college, what I could do in college, and I said: “Gee, there’s about three years left, the last semester doesn’t matter because you’re already approved or accepted to whatever you’re going into, so it’s really about another two and a half years. Gee, if I could turn around and push myself for two and a half years, that could be the ticket to the rest of my life.” That’s the way I looked at it.

I did some things. Like, I said: “Okay, I’m going to give up TV.” What I did instead is I put on classical music or something, just backgrounds that filled the air. I said classical music, because I didn’t want to have some music that might have meaning or cause other thoughts to be in my mind, other than being able to concentrate. When I say eliminate everything like TV, I mean everything except NCIS, except whatever other great show you have out there, Person of Interest, etc. because even if you’re looking at those, the person that’s not doing it is moving ahead of you.

It sounds like a lot, but consider: it’s two and a half years for the next 40, 50, or more years. So really, it is a small investment. It’s just like saving a little bit of time. If you haven’t, go take a listen to what Steve Thompson did in episode two, starting out with only putting aside $50 a month.

I went into Hofstra University, worked like that, worked really hard seven days a week, and was well rewarded; got a lot of accolades, positions, and everything else. I was actually one of the two faculty representatives to the Board of Trustees. I also was offered the Danforth, Rhodes, and Rotary Fellowship nominations for Hofstra.

When you take a look at my bio on the Life Unsettled website, you see some of the things I’ve done over time. Where did these come from? The ticket for all of them were in that set up for that two and a half years. Little bit of sacrifice, little bit of investment. It may seem like a lot when you think two and a half...

If anyone wants success, whether in business as an entrepreneur or in sports, you must be willing to sacrifice. Time is at least part of that investment to be used effectively for success.

I discuss the Importance of Sacrifice for your Future.

At midnight, your day starts. You are given 86,400 seconds. They expire at the end of the day. How will you use them?

Extremely Good Results require sacrifice, but we can discuss the idea and need for a balanced life. So, what does that balanced life mean?

Success is brought by a combination of factors and you can do better than someone who is truly better skilled! I explain how.

Thomas:     Welcome to episode 11 of Life Unsettled – New Path, Better Future. This episode is about sacrifice, and the importance of sacrifice to your future. No, sacrifice doesn’t have to be a lifelong thing; it can be very, very temporary and yield extremely good results.

Let me explain. Looking to my background, I didn’t really have any optimistic vision of a great future or a professional future of any kind. I realized, though, a few things while in the military. While in the military, my eyes were opened considerably. I realized, of course, that college was going to be important, but not just college as an end to itself, but something that went probably a little bit beyond college, whether it be a professional school, a law school, whatever the case may be, it had to be something beyond that.

Now, how was I going to get there? I didn’t think a whole lot of myself at the time, but I did realize one thing, that even if I may be not as good as many other people, if I put more effort in that they did, that is: if I put in 20% more effort than everybody else, then I would probably have much better results than them. Then I started thinking about college and what that would mean. I had about three years left of college.

As a backdrop, I’ll point out some of the things I’ve done in the past or point you in a direction so you can look them up, but I looked at what I had done in college, what I could do in college, and I said: “Gee, there’s about three years left, the last semester doesn’t matter because you’re already approved or accepted to whatever you’re going into, so it’s really about another two and a half years. Gee, if I could turn around and push myself for two and a half years, that could be the ticket to the rest of my life.” That’s the way I looked at it.

I did some things. Like, I said: “Okay, I’m going to give up TV.” What I did instead is I put on classical music or something, just backgrounds that filled the air. I said classical music, because I didn’t want to have some music that might have meaning or cause other thoughts to be in my mind, other than being able to concentrate. When I say eliminate everything like TV, I mean everything except NCIS, except whatever other great show you have out there, Person of Interest, etc. because even if you’re looking at those, the person that’s not doing it is moving ahead of you.

It sounds like a lot, but consider: it’s two and a half years for the next 40, 50, or more years. So really, it is a small investment. It’s just like saving a little bit of time. If you haven’t, go take a listen to what Steve Thompson did in episode two, starting out with only putting aside $50 a month.

I went into Hofstra University, worked like that, worked really hard seven days a week, and was well rewarded; got a lot of accolades, positions, and everything else. I was actually one of the two faculty representatives to the Board of Trustees. I also was offered the Danforth, Rhodes, and Rotary Fellowship nominations for Hofstra.

When you take a look at my bio on the Life Unsettled website,

Tony Bodoh's background seems satisfying with steady growth.

Tony Bodoh’s background is in customer satisfaction and, in particular, in the hospitality industry in guest satisfaction. The real and interesting story is the path to where he is today and the lights that went off as he learned what makes him so much happier now.

Tony started as a high school teacher and then quickly moved into the corporate world. As a person who was good with numbers, he was quickly into the analytical area of guest satisfaction. He moved to another company with an opportunity to head guest satisfaction. That company was soon acquired by Marriott.

Tony's story and transition from the corporate world registers strongly

His story of ‘inside the corporate world’ is fascinating and will register with anyone who is either there now or was in the past. He reveals the stress  of that world and compares it to his current situation.

We have a great discussion about the different kinds of stress and the means of managing or coping. He had a significant health scare and moved out to start his own consulting company.

Now, first thoughts have to be, isn’t the stress of owning your own business much worse and higher? Well, his explanation and our discussion reveals some amazing insights.

Trauma or Tragedy is a Blessing in Disguise

About half way through the interview, we discuss how the trauma of a flood that destroyed most of everything he had, caused him to reset his perspectives. It served as a wakeup call. In the midst of this tragedy, he woke up to realize what he needed to do; how to redirect his efforts and become a successful entrepreneur.

Recommendations:

A motivating thought and quote that spurs him on is from the book, which he recommends:

Your Invisible Power by Genvieve Behrend

The thought is that – in order to bring about the life we want, we must realize there is nothing to fear. Tony Bodoh explains this as the fear is our enemy not the course of action. He quotes Franklin D. Roosevelt, “The only thing to fear is fear itself.” (you’ll understand this better than ever after listening to Tony in this episode.)