LifeWork:The Podcast

This is how we make life work when we say so many things that have become a part of our every day lingo…but are they ridiculous or genius?

A fun episode where we dissect some expressions such as:

• Penny for Your Thoughts
• Call It a Day
• It Is What It Is
• Break a Leg
• Take it with a Grain of Salt
• Get it Out of Your System
• Bite Off More Than You Can Chew
• Go Back to the Drawing Board

Plus some bonus ones to think about!

How do we interpret them?

Do we say them often?

Do we agree with them or are they ridiculous?

Check it out and YOU decide! We'd love to hear from you so message us on Instagram and share some of YOUR faves.

This is how we make life work with the ups and downs of everyday life. What do we do in the gaps of the rollercoaster of life?

We have really great days where everything is firing and then out of nowhere the bottom seems to fall out. It's called life and it can be a bit of a roller coaster. There are some really great highs and some really crummy lows, so what do we do in the 'gaps'...those drops in the roller coaster?

We are human and frustrations can mount to a point of explosion, yet we almost can't enjoy those great days because we sense what might be coming.

How do we give ourselves grace and how do we move through the 'Tuesdays'?

We have a REAL conversation with REAL examples of how the bottom falls out and how we cope. Bad days, bad mindset, bad self judgement, bad body image...ALL the things!!!

Grace can look like:

• Rally! Sometimes we just need to rally and get ourselves together. Our problems/moments/complaints can snowball. One small issue can snowball and we can get more and more frustrated. Just like a snowball traveling down a hill...you may not be able to push it back up but you can stop it! We may not be able to back track our day, but we can STOP the mindset and keep it from growing more negative day by day.
• Gratitude! Find thankful moments in the little things. What are the small things that (even though life feels out of control) we can look at and say thank you. It's hard to be gracious to ourselves and grateful for what we have, but it's SO important.
• Live in it! Not for the long term, but just be in it. Accept it might be a bad day but not a bad life. A new day is coming, it is PROMISED to us!

Be aware, be mindful, figure out where it's coming from and move through it.

Unpack and Unload

Whether it's with your person who you can be totally transparent with or journaling your thoughts, its' so important to let it out. When we are able to unpack all of those things, we can look and see WHERE the problem lies, WHAT it looks like and HOW we can move forward.

Staying in the Word and staying equipped for hard moments sure does help. Hide those words in your heart...NOT TODAY SATAN! Life wasn't promised to be easy, but finding grace and gratitude in those gaps is key.

Favorite Finds time!!!

RICE WATER?!?! Is this something you can buy or something you make? Do you drink it or what?

Here's the deal...you make it and put it on your hair to help it get stronger, healthier, thicker and just BETTER!

This is how we make life work when trying to establish boundaries. Whether it's with friends, coworkers or family, how do we heed the same advice that we might lend to others? Is our happiness being sacrificed to keep others happy?

Are you a people pleaser or an empath? Getting involved in others people's drama, trying to fix people and not saying NO can be a REAL struggle! but our 'yes' puts our life into more chaos. It's time to draw some boundaries!

Empaths feel EVERYTHING

The instict to fix it and make everyone feel better can put us over the edge. We can still be helpful but not get pulled into it. Sure we just want to be helpful but we somehow get in the middle of it. If we are fixing other people's 'stuff', we are just putting our 'stuff' to the side!

You dont have to say anything right away.

When others in turmoil, they will cling to those they feel are their saviors. Be aware so that you can draw that boundary line...here is the advice and back out! Do a real good gut check and see if it's worth it in the long haul to get involved.

What is the motive and intention?

If your motives are pure and intentions are good, then move forward. But if you can say no to either of those, you have to take a step back.

It's easy to become the problem instead of fixing the problem if there is an unhealthy boundary.

We HAVE to learn to say NO

Perspective and age play a big part in realizing what our life priorities are and where we need to start saying no. We can set the stage upfrong to avoid conflict and guilt in the future.

The pile on is real...by not saying no to getting mixed up in other's people junk, we sacrifice what really matters. We hurt those around us instead of doing the opposite. Putting other people's happiness ahead of ours really doesn't work. It's a vicious cycle and SO real!

Contribute to other's happiness but don't be responsible for it!

We contribute to their happiness by just being ourselves. We aren't responsible for other people's happiness...we can contribute but we are NOT responsible. That is not our cross to bear and we haven't been called to play God.

HOW do we set the boundary to NOT fix other people's junk?

If praying is your jam, you need to pray about that! Ask yourself if you're helping them with the long game so they learn how to handle issues in the future with grace and wisdom.

When it comes to saying no, draw up those life priorities. Be ok with disappointing people, because we WILL.

Think about what you would tell your daughter or son...how would you advise them on boundaries? Take that into consideration and use it for yourself!

When it's all said and done, we just want to end the day well, so how does that look to each of us??

This is how we make life work when pondering balance. Christi sits down to talk about BALANCE...what is it? how do we attain it? DO we attain it?

Finding Balance in life is kinda laughable!

When life feels like a tigh rope we just hope that there's a safety net under us.

As women, we are overwhelmed by so much and we always feel guilty. Do we put that pressure on ourselves or does society? Who are we listening to?

Too busy is NOT a good badge to be wearing!

We recognize that our to do lists are ridiculous, but that badge of honor needs to be taken off.

The simplicity isn't held to the same standard as it used to be because we want MORE.

Let's reframe the phrase of BALANCE...HOW???

Realign! Stop and look at where we are and where we want to be. What has to come off of our lists? What doesn't bring joy and get us closer to where we want to be?

Check in on our priorities...take the difference makers and make our days work around those. Measure the mundane against those difference makers. If it doesn't align, it's an easy NO. Align, Realign, Check, Recheck.

Adaptability! Realize that each day may have to look different and be ok with making those changes. Things come at us unexpectedly all the time, so we have to really think through and learn how to adjust. Be able to reset and make it work for YOU!

Restore! Where's the restoration in BUSY? Restoration can be different for each us, but it's SO important! Maybe it's scrolling, maybe it's reading, maybe it's getting in the word.

You have to keep the main thing the main thing!!!

This is how we make life work when we want to go from surviving during the holiday season to THRIVING! Natalie sits down with Dr. Desire Taylor to dissect all things during this time of year.

Dr. Taylor is a clinical psychologist with her private practice in the Dallas area. She grew up all over the world as her parents were both in the military. She eventually settled in Texas where she obtained her bachelor's degree in African American Studies from the University of Texas at Austin. From there, she earned her doctoral degree in Counseling Psychology. Her training continued with an internship at the University of Colorado School of Medicine in Aurora, Colorado. Then she completed her post-doctoral fellowship at the South Texas Veterans Health Care System in San Antonio, Texas.

We discuss some GREAT topics along with strategies to combat the struggles!

Why are we so stressed this time of year?

• Holidays have become taxing. We are preparing, consuming, acquiring, and out of our rhythms.
• Great deal of expectation/comparison/pressure
• Many of the things take a lot of physical and mental energy which leads to being overwhelmed and overloaded
• This time of year seems to highlight relational conflict/challenges whether with family/friends or alone

Why do we seem more emotional during the holidays?

• This is a sacred season, we are meant to feel and be moved during this time, BUT we don't consider that and treat ourselves as such
• Holidays highlight grief and loss in a real way
• Unrealistic expectations mean we are not prepared for the realities of our beautiful but dysfunctional families.
• We might shift into being more rigid and less flexible to try to meet those unrealistic expectations
• We go into feeling personal failure, criticism, judgement, all of which disconnect us from ourselves and loved ones

Why are holidays harder after trauma?

• The message is that this time of year is supposed to be joyful and cheer but those who are experiencing the impact of trauma feel anything but that.
• If we edge into faking it, it makes the situation even worse
• We have memories of past holidays where the trauma was NOT there so it can act as a reference point and highlight a clear before and after
• Nervous system is hyper vigilant following trauma, so adding more stress to a body that's already pretty taxed is a tough combo

How do we deal?

• Treat this as a holy time, a sacred time
• Shift away from what the holidays should look like and and ask yourself 'How do I want to FEEL after the holidays are over?' to allow that to be your guide through the season
• Pause...physically, mentally, schedule wise. Really make sure quiet time is locked in and respected
• MAKE SPACE...what does that mean?? THIS is good!!!!!!
• Identify and take stock of your common triggers beforehand. Figure out how you want to navigate that and how you might retreat
• Challenge the expectations!!!

You can follow Dr. Taylor for more of her amazing wisdom via her Instagram at @doctor.desi and reach her via emal at [email protected]

This is how we make life work when we untangle the Christmas season. How do we focus more on Presence over Presents? Is it even possible?

We don't have the answers and know the 'how tos' for it all BUT we want to just have a living room chat and see what comes up.

There are some things we aren't going to negotiate on such as memory making with gingerbread houses and all the mess that comes with it. But what CAN we cut back on? Maybe it's drawing boundaries with families so that we can stay put on Christmas morning. Maybe it's realizing that in one year from now our kids won't remember the gifts they got.

Come hang out with us and let's see what we can do together to validate the craziness of Christmas while keeping the joy of the season!

This is how we make life work when we UNmask! Are we sharing the REELs of our lives or the REAL lives we lead?

We know that all of us would rather share that highlight reel as we seek to avoid insecurity, but what does that lead to? Envy, comparison and a spiral of mental health. But what do we do?

Before you post it or say it

Do a gut check! Is this living your most authentic self? Are you hiding behind a mask or unvailing who you truly are to your core?

Legacy building

We always talk about ending the day well! Each day adds up to a life well lived and leaving a legacy to those we love and those who know us. What are we doing with the in between moments?

Get off Social!

Yeah, we get it, we get sucked in too! But get off of social when it doesn't matter so that you can live your REAL life vs. your REEL life

Start your day well

We want to end the day well but what about how we start? Are you reaching for your phone first thing or having a bit of introspect time? Setting the tone for your day is so crucial!

Go check out the BIBLE APP!!! It's YouVersion and is one of our most favorites and what we both use on the daily.

And remember Shein from our swimsuit faves?!?!? You definitely want to check it out again heading into fall!!!

This is how we make life work when tragedy strikes! We believe that God places us in the EXACT places we are supposed to be at all times...good, bad and ugly. As a Breast Cancer Survivor, Natalie knows that her responsibility is to now pay it forward! But how??

Natalie shares her story and message to #washwithyourhands!

By finding her own mass, she now shares her message with anyone she can to wash with your hands! Even if you aren't comfortable doing a self exam, make it your monthly habit to wash with your hands on the first of every single month. Pay attention to what you are feeling and take note of any differences from month to month. YOU are your best advocate!!

She encourages you to educate yourself!

What's with all the pink? Sure we know it stands for breast cancer awareness, but it's what's behind all the pink that matters. How do fighters feel about it? How do survivors feel about it? It can vary from person to person but one thing remains...the color is pretty but the disease is NOT. Educate yourself on the disease, on the foundations your money goes to and the slogans that stand. At the end of the day we are ALL doing our very best at any moment, so try to relinquish the judgement!

She champions the cause to make sure you take care of you NOW!

Natalie is SO passionate about making sure YOU know that you can't wait for tragedy to strike before you start taking care of yourself...physically, mentally, spiritually. By knocking on death's door, she was and is so grateful to have been building her strength all these years. We will all face a battle and we can't wait for that to come along. If you start taking care of yourself NOW, you will be stronger for whatever comes your way!!!

Favorite Devotional: Jesus Calling

Book Recommendations:

Goliath Must Fall

Hope in the Dark

Live Fearless

You Are the Girl For the Job

Podcast Recommendations:

Elevation Church

Hope Fellowship

Made for This

Daily Grace

This is how we make life work through a bit of rest. Let's face it, neither of us are real 'restful' souls, so this is a really hard subject for us. But we also realize that there is renewal amongst the rest that we allow ourselves.

We don't enjoy when people tell us to rest! Why? It makes us feel anxious and lazy. But that's NOT how it should be!

We love fitness but we also know that our results don't come if we work our muscles 24/7. The growth comes when we rest our muscles and allow them to recover. That doesn't mean sitting around all day while they recover, but it DOES mean allowing rest.

How can we help YOU to grasp onto more rest so that you are the best version of yourself?

Flip the Script...

• RESTORATION...rest is at the root! It's a renewing of something that has been lost.
• Rest is taking a break from the stressful and strenuous activities

Be true to you...

• What does 'rest' mean to you?
• What would YOUR ideal rest period look like?

Communicate with your loved ones...

• Define your perfect 'rest' period
• Share that with those in your household

We challenge you to REALLY take a step back and look at how you can rest more. Your mind, body and soul ALL need that restoration!!!!

This is how we make life work when we make it through summer and kids are back to school! Sure, we have bumps and bruises but we made it y'all. Join us as we discuss all things surviving this time of year!

How do we untangle all the noise between PTO, sports, fees, schedules, meals, etc.?

Communication in household is a huge plus...but how??

• Having a weekly sit down to communicate all the things
• Central home calendar
• Organization within the home

How do we budget this time of year?

• Work in reverse with lists/priorities
• Seek out resources such as Platos Closet, Poshmark, Five Below, DH Gate and MORE!
• What IG accounts do we love for this?

Have a LOOSE menu to help the weeks flow...

• 4 Dinners...can kids take one night over?
• School lunches and accounts

So many great things to think about to help us feel we ended the day well throughout all the noise!

Fave Face: Macabeet

Faver Fashion: Oofos Sandals

Fave Foods: Individually packed items (BabyBel, Guac, Hummus, Peanut Butter, Ranch)