Lifing-it

Off the heels of social media backlash around Mo'Nique's comments about black women and bonnets, Eli and Marisa discuss the pivotal questions: do what women wear in public reflect how they feel about themselves? When a woman wears a bonnet in public is she "blocking her beauty?" Should black women even care about society's thoughts on their appearance? Does the previous generation hold onto traditional ideals  of "supposed -to- bes" that they project on today's generation? The ladies dive into the conversation and it is apparent that they are on different sides.

Ever feel like you’re on this treadmill called LIFE where everything feels important all of the time and the demands never end? Ever shame yourself into being “busy”? When was the last time you picked up a hobby just for the sake of bringing yourself pleasure? Recently, Eli and Marisa forced thmeselves to unplug (to address all the questions mentioned) and get out of hustle mode. It was the best thing that could have happened…find out why...

In this episode, Eli and Marisa discuss the blindfolded journey they are on called motherhood.   Exploring their personal definitions of motherhood and juxtaposing it to traditional views is the thread that runs through this episode.  Sprinkled with their trademark honesty, they share their daily challenges and celebrations and try to create a new definition of momlife--one that fits their life.

Are you healed or just trying not to think about it? What does it mean to be truly healed? In this episode Eli and Marisa get deep and vulnerable to unpack this question and try to figure out who and what is interfering with their healing process.  Be ready to tap into all the feels as they learn that the only way to get to the other side of the healing process is to go through it.

It's easier to make a bad choice then to live with regret...or is it? In this episode Eli and Marisa discuss the tough decisions and life choices they have had to make without always knowing the outcome. Dive into the conversation as they share how it currently feels to sit with the results of thier past decisions and the lessons they have learned along the way about making head versus heart choices. If they had to choose all over again, would they make the same decisions?  Would you make the same decisions? One thing is for certain...it's never too late to make a choice!

What is a people pleaser? How do you know if you are a people pleaser? Is it better to be selfish? Eli and Marisa try to figure out if they are poeple pleasers and diagnose where they fall on the scale. Are you in a people pleasing predicament right now? Then listen up!

In this episode Eli and Marisa continue their series of We The Women  and chat with Tirzah Evora, Editor-in-Chief and Djamila Evora, Editor of Kriolada Magazine.  Hear the story of how Tirzah's and Djamila's childhood In Cape Verde and the Netherlands and lack of representation in the modeling and fashion industries ultimately led them to carve out a space for themselves and give birth to the inaugural issue Kriolada Magazine.  Kriolada Magazine is a dream turned into pages of reality and proof of the power women have when they unite.

Are you more likely to collaborate or compete with others? Do you "send the elevator back down" to help others succeed? Do you judge others for choices you wouldn't personally make? In honor of Women's History Month, Eli and Marisa are pulling out all the feels in this episode as they reflect on the meaning of sisterhood and examine their relationships with women.

Is there a difference between saying "I'm sorry" versus "I apologize"? The Lifing-it Ladies think so! What do you want people to say and do when apologizing to you? What happens if you never receive an apology you believe you are entitled to, how do you forgive and move on? If you don't know the answers to these questions, this episode is for you!

Has your back ever been against the wall forcing you to make a life changing decision? Have you been thinking about leaping into the unknown but are scared you won't land on your feet? This episode is for you! Get comfortable as we listen to Quintin's story. As the owner of Fitness by Q, Quintin discusses his path to becoming a successful trainer, the role martial arts and self defense plays in building confidence and why it's important to push past the unknown.