Clare and Steve explore coaches coming to supervision seeking a ‘how to’. Our podcasters reflect on how often supervisees see the supervisor as the mentor, the guru, the experienced one, the wizard even, who can offer them an idea or a solution to their stuckness. They explore approaches they use in supervision to build reflexivity. To support supervisees in developing new ways of seeing their stuckness or understanding their own relationship to stuckness or this particular example of it. In group supervision they may support the group to develop their questioning in service of the stuck supervisee. Clare and Steve talk about parallel process, and how as coaches we don’t set out to offer solutions to our clients, yet sometimes we come as supervisees to supervision expecting our supervisor to do just that - offer a solution or make a ‘how to’ suggestion.