In this episode, Clare and Steve discuss mistakes. Not only the idea that it’s ok to make mistakes in coaching – and if we don’t, then we perhaps are not challenging our clients enough, risking being “sacked” – but also the idea of making mistakes in what we bring to supervision. They decided that it’s not possible to make mistakes in what we bring to supervision, but often we hold ourselves back from bringing something for fear of it not being the “right thing” to reflect on in supervision. How can you get over that fear and bring what matters most to supervision?

Continuing the series, chatting to coaches from non-traditional backgrounds, Clare and Steve were delighted to be joined by Charlotte Blair. Now living in Australia, Charlotte began her career in tech sales and now works as a Clifton Strengths coach. Having explored Charlotte’s journey to coaching, supervision and mentor coaching, the conversation moves to reflecting on how our strengths might be one pointer to how we relate to people - which in turn, as coaches, will influence our networking, chemistry, CPD, supervision choices and how we build our business.

Find Charlotte at...
www.thestrengthspartners.com

www.charlotteblair.com.au

Steve and Clare walk you through the 7-eyed model, developed by Hawkins and Shohet. This model is often in mind for your supervisor when you come to supervision, and provides them and you with a way to break down and identify potential stuckness or simply to reflect more effectively on your work. You may recognise a question your supervisor has asked you?

Steve and Clare talk about all of the considerations for pricing your coaching. Whether you are new into the independent marketplace or are thinking that it’s time to revisit your pricing model, this poddy is for you. It draws on the research by Clare and her colleagues Michelle Lucas and Sebastian Fox. They wrote a series of articles about pricing for coaching, supervision and team coaching, which won the Coaching at Work award for best series of articles in 2021.

If you would like to read those articles, you can find them here:
https://www.coaching-at-work.com/2021/03/01/charging-point/
https://www.coaching-at-work.com/2021/05/07/for-what-its-worth/
https://www.coaching-at-work.com/2021/07/04/name-your-price/
https://www.coaching-at-work.com/2021/09/02/fees-time-to-step-up/

Clare and Steve discuss the emergence of strong feelings towards the other party in the relationship - maybe the client, maybe the coach, maybe the supervisor? Maybe you dislike them? Maybe you fancy them? We are human after all. This DOES happen, so when it does, talk to your supervisor about it. Normalise it - others in the supervision group might also have experienced this.

In today’s episode, Clare and Steve explore all of the different permutations of the rhythm and balance of work that we take on. The peaks and troughs, the phases of exploration and the exploiting, homeostasis that stops us from getting out of our comfort zone. If your rhythm is not quite as you might like it to be, maybe that is something to take to supervision to process.

In today’s poddy, Clare and Steve welcome Sam Isaacson, coach, coach supervisor, author of How to Thrive as a Coach in a Digital World, to talk about technology that can support us in coaching and supervision. We went all over the place, including AI, ethics and security (pay attention if you send recordings/transcripts of your coaching via email to a mentor coach!!).

He mentions several technologies that you might want to find out more about (though bear in mind that, as he said, these are not the only technologies out there):

* vTime XR https://vtime.net/vtimexr
* Jamboard https://jamboard.google.com/
* ProReal https://proreal.world/
* Swirly dots for random picture generation https://www.points-of-you.com/play/welcome
* Magnetic Poetry http://magneticpoetryplayonline.com/original/

He also mentions our previous guest Steve Chapman and his Sound of Silence podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/sound-of-silence/id1378986797

As always, we hope this podcast is as useful for you as it was for us. And if you are looking for a coaching supervisor, come and talk to one of the three of us!

We would also like to thank McGraw Hill for their support with this podcast

Steve and Clare discuss our relationship between past, present and future, noticing how our present state is often influenced by our past or by our future. Is this different when past and future experiences are held or imagined as positive or negative?

Could the negative past be a comfort blanket protecting us? Is the current penchant for selfies and recording our experiences on social media, moving us more away from the present experience? Are we becoming more comfortable in making our present experiences, past experiences? Also, how does our language influence this unconsciously? Do we unwittingly ask a future intended question in the past tense? What sequences do we habitually follow as we consider an experience or decision - past, future, present or future, present, past ... or something else? And is the sequence different in different situations? Could we learn from our children's ability to be very present?

Steve and Clare (yes Clare switches it up) talk with Clare Smale about the concept of finite and infinite games, applied to the world of coaching and supervision. Is either right, better, wrong, bad? Those very words are of course the finite game perspective. What’s your baseline position on the finite infinite continuum? To what extent do you feel safer in the finite world of title, qualifications, training, rank, expertise, right not wrong etc? To what extent is it more comfortable for you in the playful, free, learning, endless, ambiguous, unfinished space?

The finite game, driven by time, position, rank, expertise, competition, power, win, lose, right, wrong etc.

Finite and Infinite Games - James P Carse
Clare Smale - https://www.inspired2learn.co.uk

Clare and Steve continue their mini series of podcast episodes talking with coaches who have followed ‘non traditional’ routes to coaching and experiencing supervision; they talk with Tony Worgan, exploring his journey from journalism into coaching and supervision. Tony compares and contrasts relating in coaching and in journalistic interviewing and our threesome go on to explore the potential unconscious questioner agenda within questioning. Tony shares his first experiences of coaching and supervision. Our conversation turns to the maturity of the coach, comparisonitis when turning up in group supervision; how the real work starts when we reflect on how we are showing up and have shown up in supervision, and grow from that reflection (into my soul).