On December 18, 2025, the UK published its Violence Against Women and Girls Strategy. A 10-year commitment to halve violence. Within hours, I saw the same pattern: applause, promises, and a missing piece I know too well, coordination infrastructure.

I’ve spent a decade watching strategies give hope, then quietly fail because there’s no accountability to deliver them. No one is tracking who does what. No consequence when responsibility scatters and disappears.

In this episode, I explore what happens when coordination fails—not in policy documents, but in people’s lives. The retelling. The gaps. The fragmentation. I experienced it when I reported. Hundreds of thousands have experienced it. That’s not a coincidence. That’s design.

I’m sharing what accountability infrastructure actually looks like, why the UK won’t build it, and what it means to lead from informed concern rather than stuck anger. This is about pattern recognition and what happens when we choose to use what we’ve learned to improve experiences for those who come after.

Take what resonates.

Leave the rest.

J’K

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Prevention doesn’t fail because we lack strategies.It fails because we refuse to be honest.

In this episode, I explore:

-What the manosphere really is — and what it isn’t

-How culture, profit, and silence intersect

-Why prevention can’t work without naming harm

-The myths we’re told about perpetrators

-Institutional power and moral accountability

-Unfinished stories, shame, and survival

-Where personal truth meets systemic failure

Listening note:This episode discusses sexual violence, online radicalisation, and institutional harm. Please listen at your own pace and take breaks if needed.

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In this episode, I take a closer look at the UK’s 10-year strategy to end violence against women and girls through reflection, lived insight, and questioning rather than instruction.

Themes explored:

- Reduction versus eradication

- The gap between policy and lived reality

- Institutional responsibility and design failure

- Who gets protected — and who gets left behind

- Urgency, tolerance, and time

- The idea of “the village” beyond sentiment

Listening context:Best listened to with space. This is a reflective episode — not background noise.

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In this episode:

- How entertainment teaches us to accept violence as normal

- The "dazzle" effect: when harm is wrapped in beauty

- From C-dramas to conflict minerals: the loop connecting entertainment, technology, and violence against women

- The Economy of Apathy: why corporations can afford to wait out our outrage

- What we can do when we finally see the pattern

Content Warning: This episode discusses sexual violence in media, drug-facilitated assault, exploitation in fashion/entertainment, human trafficking, and violence in the DRC.

Resources mentioned:

Organizations to Support:

DRC/Conflict Minerals:

Panzi Foundation: panzifoundation.org

ENOUGH Project: enoughproject.org

Global Witness: globalwitness.org

Anti-Trafficking (UK):

Unseen UK: unseenuk.org | Helpline: 08000 121 700

The Salvation Army (UK Anti-Trafficking): salvationarmy.org.uk

ECPAT UK: ecpat.org.uk

VAWG Support (UK):

Women's Aid: womensaid.org.uk | Helpline: 0808 2000 247

Rape Crisis England & Wales: rapecrisis.org.uk | Helpline: 0808 500 2222

Refuge: refuge.org.uk

Full UK Support Directory: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1mVbCZxYHt8ItGJUymJNi_Uk9hIC9Wa6E0n0SFMIvxaM/edit?usp=sharing

If you need help:

US National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888

UK Modern Slavery Helpline: 08000 121 700

Samaritans (UK): 116 123

Listen wherever you get podcasts.

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A reflection on abundance, shame, and remembering what was never lost.

In this episode, I explore:

- The psychology of scarcity and suggestion

- How shame enters and teaches us to hide

- Why abundance often goes unnoticed until it feels threatened

- Discernment between voices of truth and lack

- Healing as participation, not passivity

- The courage to receive support

- Eden as an inner state, not a destination

Listening note:This episode reflects on shame and healing through a spiritual lens. Please take care of yourself and pause whenever you need.

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Episode:3 – What’s in a Name?

Podcast: Like Me Officially

Host: J’K

In this episode, J’K explores:

- Why names carry power beyond words

- How labels can become identities — without our consent

- The psychological impact of being named by others

- The difference between survival and becoming

- Why some labels help… and others quietly limit us

- The body’s role in remembering what the mind avoids

- Choosing a name that allows growth, not pressure

- Why naming yourself is an act of agency, not rejection

Content note:

This episode includes references to sexual violence and identity after trauma. Please listen at your own pace and take care of yourself.

Reflection invitation:

What name are you living under right now — and did you choose it?

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Life After “Survivor”

What happens when the word survivor no longer fits?

In this episode of Like Me, J’K explores what it means to live beyond survival, not by erasing the past, but by loosening its grip on identity.

For years, surviving became both a skill and a label. It shaped how the body stayed alert, how safety was negotiated, and how patterns of loss and stability quietly repeated themselves. Even when life became calmer, the nervous system continued to operate as if danger were just around the corner.

This episode reflects on how trauma lives in the body, not just in memory and how healing is less about fixing what broke and more about teaching the body that peace is safe.

Drawing on personal reflection, neuroscience, spirituality, and the rhythms of nature, J’K examines the weight and limits of the word survivor, the difference between endurance and evolution, and what it means to live within what’s next, rather than beyond what was.

This is a conversation about identity, awareness, and becoming about choosing to live fully, not just live past.

In This Episode

Survival as a skill and how it becomes identity

Why the body holds trauma long after the threat has passed

Learned fear vs learned safety

The limits of the word survivor

Healing through neuroscience, spirituality, and nature

Moving from endurance into evolution

Key Reflection

Survival may keep you alive, but it doesn’t have to define who you become.

About the Host

J’K is the host of Like Me, a reflective podcast exploring identity, self-advocacy, healing, and life beyond survival — into courage, self-insurance, and thriving.

Listen, Reflect, Share

If this episode made you pause or reflect, consider sharing it with someone who might need space to breathe today.

For UK support, access the Support Directory

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Like Me Intro...

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There was a long season where I didn’t recognise myself…and I wasn’t sure if I even liked who I saw.

This episode marks the beginning of Like Me - a personal and immersive podcast about life after the violence, the shame, and the labels that were placed on me without my permission.

I’m not teaching. I’m not fixing. I’m not holding myself up as an example.

I’m sharing from my own experiences the questions I had to ask myself, the stories I carried for years, and the moment I realised they weren’t the full truth of me.

If any of this lands with you, sit with it. Breathe into it. Take what you need, leave what you don’t.

In this episode, I explore:

Why I created this podcast

The stories I internalised about myself

How experiences can turn into identities

The moment I realised I was more than what happened to me

What it looks like to move from surviving into something fuller

Support

If anything in this episode brings up feelings or memories, I’ve created a UK-wide directory of specialist sexual violence and mental health support. Access it anytime here: Support Directory

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