Step eight of AA is all about making a list of people I’ve hurt and finding ways to make amends with them. The difficulty is that making amends with people looks different for every person I hurt. This is a process that can take months or years and may not give you the results you want, but it’s part of the process. 

 

Key Takeaways: 

 

[2:31] Step eight of AA 

[4:46] Making amends with people is different than just apologizing

[7:06] Some of the people I’ve made amends to 

[8:10] You can’t skip over the basics when you’re doing something complex

[10:57] What if a bond is unrepairable or an amend impossible to make? 

[13:01] AA works because people show up years and years after becoming sober

[15:13] I think Kenny is too forgiving 

[16:13] What non violent communication is all about 

[19:55] The addict has to work on themselves

[22:13] Liberal vs conservative thinking, horizontal and vertical thinking

[25:52] You can’t just make an apology to make yourself feel better 

[30:07] How I make amends 

[32:22] I’ve been hurt and people haven’t apologized 

[33:24] Listening to both sides of peoples experiences 

[34:26] I’m great at self blame 

[35:50] I hold onto anger from being lied to 

[36:28] It’s not easier for me to forgive anybody 

[37:27] This step can take months to do 

[39:37] Traditions seven and eight 

Resources:

 

• Breathing Underwater

 

 

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