The death of someone you care about is often painful, but the grief felt  by family members and friends can be more complex when the cause of  death many Americans die from suicide every  year. Even though many people are touched by suicide, the stigma  surrounding the suicide can mean that family and friends feel stigmatized and isolated.

 Why Suicide?’

Family and friends may struggle with the question of why the person  chose to end their life. Suicide is complex, often with no single  explanation for why they died.

Grief is a healthy part of the healing process, and shouldn’t be  viewed as poor coping. Usually the intensity of grief will rise and fall  with small periods of relief between emotional times.

Family and friends describe the grief felt after a suicide as  different to that felt after other bereavements. In addition to the  powerful feelings of grief, people can struggle with anger, guilt and  confusion.

Some of the initial feelings of grief after a suicide may include:

Some people may feel guilt after a suicide. It is not unusual to feel  guilty, and that you ‘could have done more’. You may feel they should  have picked up the warning signs, or blame yourself for things you did  or didn’t do in the period leading up to the suicide. Many people also  feel anger and betrayal.

The reasons behind each suicide are unique. So too are the reactions,  grief and coping processes of those left behind. It’s important to take  care of yourself during this overwhelming and upsetting time.  Suggestions include:

References: Better Health Channel;https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/ConditionsAndTreatments/suicide-family-and-friends

“Some of our most vulnerable children also face the threat of  being victimized by commercial sexual exploitation. Runaways,  throwaways, sexual assault victims, and neglected children can be  recruited into a violent life of forced prostitution.”

According to socio-biology, genetic preservation is at the core of human  behavior. Because it is inherent in our genetic structure to ensure  survival, individuals are predisposed to take measures to guarantee  their genetic survival. In other words, they favor strategies and  methods that will increase the likelihood of their family lineage being  carried on. This is done through positive and negative methods.  Positively, people have children so that their genetic tree can be extended to further generations.  Negative methods of preserving genetic lineage also exist and include violence and aggression toward people who are not blood relatives. Based on  these theories, it could be assumed that stepchildren are more likely to  be abused by parents than biological children. In fact, some research has provided evidence  of a 5-fold increase in risk of child abuse for step-children compared  to biological children. 

References: April 9, 2013 • By A GoodTherapy.org News Summary;– Deputy Attorney General James Cole speaks at the National Strategy  Conference on Combating Child Exploitation in San Jose, California, May  17, 2011.

Change

Historically speaking,  is  basically a variation in the common way of doing things. Whenever people  perform a task in a certain way, they get accustomed to them. They  develop methods which they can implement routinely to achieve these  tasks. Any variation in these methods is nothing but change

Why is the world so messed up? 

The very simple answer is greed, corruption, crimes, poverty, mental illness.  What do we see when we look out on our world today when we read the newspapers, as we watch the television? We find that social media and manipulation, corruption, poverty, unsound mind,  has impacted the way people live. The caveat is that it distorts individuals' ability to think clearly.  People today are feeling emboldened to have dominion over others. Today social media, news, have an advantage over the environment society lives in.  As individuals, we decide what is right and wrong rather than abiding by the law. Then, Society tries to redeem itself through technology identifying perpetrators who commit the crime. Too often do we hope. and think if only all these evil people would get their act together, then the world would be a better place to live. Unfortunately, many never hold up the mirror themselves as the true leaders that can lead and or reform a world that is so filled with lust, evil, greed, vanity, and corruption. 

Society will define success, happiness and greatness, as a way of winning out over others. The need for power is widespread in people and the power to order others around and make decisions that for you that will impact others as if you cannot see talk or walk for yourself.

Do let people have dominion over your own self-worth Many people see the world in the form of a pyramid because the world promises joy to those who sit there. Success,.

The journey into self-love and self-acceptance must begin with self-examination. Until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life.–

References: Iyanla Vanzant

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that comes and  goes with the seasons, typically starting in the late fall and early  winter and going away during the spring and summer. Depressive episodes  linked to the summer can occur, but are much less common than winter  episodes of SAD.

Signs and Symptoms

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is not considered as a  separate disorder. It is a type of depression displaying a recurring  seasonal pattern. To be diagnosed with SAD, people must meet full  criteria for major depression coinciding with specific seasons  (appearing in the winter or summer months) for at least 2 years.  Seasonal depressions must be much more frequent than any non-seasonal  depressions.

References: NIMH

It is essential to take care of our health, family and love ones and to lend a helping hand to others 

Doctor Taylor, is a mother of six children and two of them are twins, Dr. Taylor worked her way through the educational system with all the struggles of motherhood and raising children at such an early age. I was 17 when I had my first daughter and on welfare, then at 19 I had my son., the struggle was truly real. However, I vowed that I will not be a part of the welfare system and set out to accomplish my goals. 

I worked two jobs while going to college it was not easy, the days were long, and the only way I could study was at night, at work, on break, during lunch, on outings when ever I had a chance with the kids, on long drives listening to audios etc.,. I eventually earned two Associate of Art's degrees, a Bachelor's in Psychology, Masters in Psychology, an M.B.A, and a Doctorate degree all while my children were growing up. In addition to, serving in the military reserves as an officer lieutenant (Direct commissioned with no prior military experience), and holding vocational teaching credential for a stint, and leveraging myself with a Realtors license. Oh did I mention I had opened a few corporations for 7-10 years while working in State Government. You see I believe in leveraging myself, ensuring failure as not being an option in life.  The only thing I could do was cry at my graduation due to perseverance and will power, pain and suffering. The educational Journey was long my youngest twins were 13 years old when I earned my Doctorate and I was every bit of 50 years old. 

I never gave up, and neither should you. Learning is a life long process and education has no age limit,. If you set your mind to achieve your goals nothing is impossible no matter how impossible it may look. I didn't grow up wealthy, I moved out of the house when I was 15years old, after I graduated from high school, and made a life for myself despite the many obstacles that stood in my way. Absolutely nothing is impossible, failure is not trying, if you have tried you have already succeeded.  "Follow your dreams"