Live at Desire - Xine - Have Pleasure Now! 

Christine  lives in the San Francisco Bay Area and, although busy, is always looking for new friends, community, and activity partners! If you'd like to get in touch, the best way is to send her a Facebook message or friend request (https://www.facebook.com/Xine.story) You may also email her at [email protected] for a slower response. Also @RainyDayMondays on Instagram

This was recorded at Desire Riviera Maya in Cancun. My sweetheart and I were there with the folks from Life on the SwingSet for a little event they call "Swingset takes Desire." Desire is a swinger resort in Cancun Mexico that is taken over by a group of what I think of as freaks and queers: poly, swinger, kinky, queer, sex positive folks. Some new folks, lots of returners.

I interviewed several people and this is one of those. They are a bit out of recording order because of various logistics like getting people's bios and so on so ignore all that. These were recorded with my iPhone so I've done my best with the sound quality.

Also the episode references Nomy Lamm – queer, fat icon. Who happens to be one of the fat queers that I also connected with in another place in Fat community. I met met Nomy at https://nolose.org/

I reached out to her to see if she wanted to comment and this is what she said:

"hi briana! this sounds amazing. my website is www.nomyteaches.com.

you could also mention that I'm the creative director for Sins Invalid - sinsinvalid.org. also if people want access to the first issue of 'i'm so fucking beautiful' (released in 1993!) here is a link: https://drive.google.com/file/d/0BxM9mTeuGlNaUm5ScUtDNkVXc0k/view?usp=sharing "

So now you can reach out to Nomy and her work and see what a bad ass she is too!

Also she'll hopefully be on an upcoming episode and you can hear her yourselves! Now on to the show snippets!

• How did you become sex positive? Christine: Oh, I was always a horny little slut.
• On her partner struggling: not being able to communicate well meant that he didn't have the words to describe how he felt or really to identify it so it was hard to talk about.
• "Actually all, all of my partners are, are queer men currently, but, um, so he, he's, his main interest is in, in guys like sexually. But he's a varsity cuddler!"
• On Bi men "There were a lot of men putting their mouths in a lot of places. And we like that!"
• Queerness and queer invisibility and seeing internalized homophobia.
• "You know, we didn't know you were queer. We thought you were straight. And he's just like. Well, I have the purple bead, I have the rainbow necklace, I have the rainbow bead. My toenails are painted rainbow. My fingernails are painted. I'm wearing ladies' flip flops. More do I have to do?"
• We give a lot of love to bi men!
• "You don't have to be 100% love your body to, to use it in a way that's pleasurable"
• Also @RainyDayMondays on Instagram