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A native of Atlanta, GA, Daryl began his professional career as a classical singer. His musical talents have taken him to concert stages in Europe and throughout the United States, including a performance in the White House. Daryl made history when he became the first African American to sing Spirituals in St. Peter’s Basilica in Vatican City for Pope John Paul II. Turning down an opportunity to tour with Harry Belafonte, Daryl followed a new passion that leads to the work he does today.

Daryl is regarded as one of the most powerful, inspirational, and relevant speakers and trainers on the subject of workforce diversity. Daryl is the founder of Diversity Resource Group (DRG), and the Professional Diversity Practitioners Network. Daryl works with organizations to help create an optimal work environment – an environment where every employee feels recognized, appreciated, valued, and that his/her talents are being optimally utilized. Daryl has consulted with organizations that range from small non-profits to Fortune 500. Daryl received certification as an EEO Investigator from the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission.

An award-winning diversity practitioner, Daryl has presented at numerous diversity conferences, including the national SHRM Diversity Conference. Daryl was cited in HR Magazine for his expertise in the area of workforce diversity. Daryl served as an EEO Officer in the US Army, the Director of Multicultural Services at George Fox University, and the Chief Diversity Officer of Multnomah County, the second-most populous county in the Northwest. Daryl earned his BA degree from Morehouse College and Master of Divinity degree from George Fox University.

In this episode, Daryl and I have a raw and incredible conversation about anti-racism, diversity, and what is happening in the world today. Daryl opens the conversation revealing why talking about race isn’t “courageous.” Traditionally, white people haven’t had to talk about race, whereas people of color talk about it every day. When you don’t talk about race, you’re sending the message that it’s not essential. There is nothing wrong with talking about race – it’s a beautiful thing, we should embrace it.

Later, Daryl says what we need to do:

–      If you see something, say something.

–      Be more aware.

–      Do the deep work.

–      White people need to have conversations about race.

Stay tuned as Daryl questions when America was ever great? Black people have always been living in terror and fear. The phrase “Make America Great Again” is merely insulting. Daryl loves America – he fought for this country and would do it again in a heartbeat. However, America has never been great.

In This Episode:

• About Daryl Dixon [ 1:00 ]
• If you’re not talking about race, then it doesn’t matter [ 10:10 ]
• Why white people are resistant to having a conversation about race [ 17:55 ]
• Imagine what black children go through in society [ 24:20 ]
• About the Racism Doll Test [ 27:10 ]
• What we need to do [ 28:55 ]
• Why the true protestors aren’t looting [ 44:35 ]
• When was America great? [ 49:30 ]

Quotes:

• “Traditionally, white people haven’t had to talk about race.”
• “Why does it take courage to talk about race?”
• “When you don’t talk about it, you’re communicating so much.”
• “Guilt, blame, and shame are a waste of our time when it comes to racial issues.”
• “Be more aware.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• Find Daryl on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daryl-dixon-56371b3/

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Darcy Luoma, master certified coach, dynamic facilitator, and engaging motivational speaker, has expertise in leadership, team development, emotional intelligence and personal effectiveness. Her optimistic attitude, warmth and intuitive style has helped hundreds of clients achieve remarkable results, including greater work/life balance, a clearer vision, and enhanced leadership. Darcy works with organizations to navigate change and successfully plan for the future by creating high-performing teams through systems coaching, designing and facilitating staff retreats, and executive coaching. Along with her favorite job being a mom of two daughters, she enjoys adventure travel, spicy chai lattes, competing in triathlons, and afternoon naps.

Darcy previously worked for a leadership consulting firm, did national advance for presidential campaigns, and served 12 years as the Director of U.S. Senator Herb Kohl’s office and is now a full-time leadership coach and organization development specialist. She designed the ICF accredited Professional Life Coaching Certificate program at UW–Madison and served as the Lead Instructor for five years and is now the Director of Training and Curriculum.

In this episode, Darcy Luoma and I talk about truth-telling with your children during a family crisis. How much do you tell your kids, and when is the age-appropriate time to have in-depth conversations with them? Darcy dives deep into her story and reveals her husband’s secret that changed everything. Darcy explains why pausing is essential – we should have the ability to choose how we respond. The choice is at our core. Don’t forget, we have to train our choice. To handle ourselves thoughtfully in any situation, we need to prepare.  Stay tuned as Darcy describes the importance of sharing our stories, the difference between doing + being, and why we need to learn how to forgive.

In This Episode:

• About Darcy Luoma [ 0:50 ]
• Darcy dives deep into her story [ 6:25 ]
• Why we need to take a five-second pause [ 12:40 ]
• How we can control our automatic fight or flight reaction [ 19:45 ]
• How Darcy found peace within herself [ 25:30 ]
• When we share our story, we can write the ending [ 29:15 ]
• How secrets can create a disconnect within our families [ 33:15 ]
• The difference between doing + being [ 41:25 ]
• Darcy explains how things are with her daughters [ 49:30 ]
• Why we need to let go of anger and judgment [ 54:30 ]

Quotes:

• “The pause will kick you off auto-pilot.”
• “Automatic reactions are not going to serve us.”
• “Tap into empathy in our hearts and souls.”
• “Secrets will create a disconnect.”
• “Own your truth.”
• “All we have are our reputations.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• Bailey’s Instagram
• Darcy’s Website
• Sign up for Getting Through Crisis with Thoughtfully Fit®

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Brandon Farbstein inspires millions of people across the globe with his universal message of living life on your own terms and building the framework for personal growth. At just 20 years old, he is a renowned empowerment speaker, Gen Z activist and author. Brandon was diagnosed with a rare form of dwarfism at the age of 2, and has turned his life experience of suffering, isolation, and victimhood into empowerment, impact and influence. After a severe battle with cyberbullying in high school, Brandon decided to share his story – to both offer hope and to enact change.

Whether on tour with his recently published book Ten Feet Tall, sharing his message with students at schools across the country, or working with Fortune 100 companies like Facebook and HP, Brandon consistently delivers tools to audiences of all ages to shift perspectives and strengthen their mindset. In 2018 Brandon was named in TigerBeat & Instagram’s #19under19 as one of the 19 most influential teenagers in the world with his mission to elevate empathy.

In this episode, Brandon goes deep into his story and explains his rare form of dwarfism – there are less than 100 cases in history. Brandon divulges how he landed on the TEDx stage and reveals his deepest darkest sorrows. Fortunately, Brandon has a fantastic support system in his family who dug him out of rock bottom. Brandon’s mom tried to get as many answers as she could – she also had to innovate loads for Brandon and taught him that there is always a way to find the answers. Plus, my sons chime in and relate to Brandon’s story.

Later, we talk about the importance of telling our stories and the ability to be vulnerable with others. We can all relate to feeling the same things at different points in our life. Plus, Brandon speaks about how overwhelming technology can be for him – it’s so hard not to answer every single person in his direct messages. Boundaries are essential for any person with a social media account – it’s also crucial to realize that you can’t advise everyone, you’ll burn out. Stay tuned as Brandon explains how he finds the strength to share, what it’s like to be an easy target, and what Brandon would like to tell his generation and their parents.

In This Episode:

• About Brandon Farbstein [ 1:00 ]
• How Brandon landed on the TEDx stage [ 9:15 ]
• About Brandon’s deepest sorrows [ 16:25 ]
• My sons relate to Brandon’s story [ 21:40 ]
• How Brandon’s family suffered with him [ 24:45 ]
• Why technology can be very overwhelming [ 31:10 ]
• How Brandon finds his strength to share [ 42:50 ]
• What it’s like to be an easy target [ 49:35 ]
• What Brandon would like to tell his generation and their parents [ 53:30 ]

Quotes:

• “We have to be the most us version of us.”
• “We have to innovate our own solution.”
• “We should not be following people that are hateful.”
• “You have to make positivity louder.”
• “With one post, we could end somebody’s life – it’s not a joke.”
• “Do not be afraid to have difficult conversations with your kids.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• Brandon’s book Ten Feet Tall: https://amzn.to/2W1PkE8

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Licensed psychotherapist and coach Amy Van Slambrook uses her personal journey of healing lifelong traumas to help others do the same, by giving voice to the unhealed wounds affecting their lives and relationships. With over 20 years professional experience in healthcare administration and finance, genetic and psychological research, domestic violence, and entrepreneurship, Amy brings vast experience to her work in post-traumatic growth and overall wellness in mind, body and spirit.

In addition to a Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and a Bachelors in Psychology, she has trained with some of the foremost experts in the fields of faith, relationships, trauma, women’s issues, abuse recovery, brain health and functional medicine, including Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk and Dr. Daniel Amen. As a licensed psychotherapist, certified life coach, experienced consultant, and published author, she has helped countless women and couples heal their trauma, find the gifts it gave them and go on to have lives and relationships of purpose and passion they never imagined possible.

In this episode, Amy and I have a powerful conversation about trauma. Amy dives deep into her background and explains the traumas she has suffered, including toxic relationships and a painful divorce. Amy got on the scale one day and realized she really did suffer from anorexia. From that point on, she has been on a journey of health. We talk about the holistic approach to trauma and how we can accept love after trauma. Later, we speak about letting our hearts do their thing and why we need to spend more time in nature.

In This Episode:

• About Amy Van Slambrook [ 3:15 ]
• Amy dives deep into her background [ 6:30 ]
• Connecting our emotions with the traumas [ 12:10 ]
• How to accept love after trauma [ 15:15 ]
• How we can entertain future possibilities after traumas [ 21:10 ]
• About holistic approaches to dealing with trauma [ 30:00 ]
• How to let your heart do its thing [ 42:45 ]
• Why we need to spend more time in nature [ 50:00 ]
• About Amy’s coaching business [ 56:00 ]

Quotes:

• “We don’t have to be afraid of our trauma.”
• “When we face our trauma head-on, we can heal because of it.”
• “Trauma puts us in a two-dimensional world.”
• “I never thought of myself as having intimacy issues.”
• “Love and joy are both intertwined with pain.”
• “I purged all my wounds onto paper.”
• “Your brain is so beautiful.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• Bailey’s Instagram
• Amy’s Website
• Get Amy’s Free Guide to Overcome Anxiety & Overwhelm

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Acclaimed author, speaker and life coach. Tim Storey is well known for inspiring and motivating people of all walks of life, from entertainment to executives, celebrities and athletes, to adults and children in the most deprived neighborhoods in the country. Tim has visited 75 countries and has spoken to millions of people. He often meets privately and counsels high-profile leaders in various industries.

In this episode, Tim dives deep into his background. Sometimes we don’t realize how dysfunctional our families are until situations arise. As a teenager, Tim was exposed to people who were in the area of education. Humans learn through education, conversation, and observation. Tim was fortunate enough to get great teachers in high school who opened his eyes.

We all have assignments, and we have to cooperate with the call. There is also a character-building side and a courage side. We don’t have to chase anything; we have to stop, look, and listen. Your calling will always call you. Align yourself with what you think your calling is saying – this is a challenging thing to do.

We need to forgive. If we can’t learn to forgive, then we will be stuck. Instead of people becoming offended, we have to find the right thing to do. We need to choose to let go of negative feelings and cease animosity toward the offender. Everyone has the choice to forgive. When you have unforgiveness, it dries up your bones.

Tim speaks about the importance of garnering the courage to find forgiveness. Let’s work on finding the courage to keep pushing through and have the fuel to find success. If we aren’t willing to do the work, then our baggage will be with us for a lifetime. We need to help each other with their unforgiveness. Stay tuned as Tim speaks about enjoying the journey and how to find balance and peace.

In This Episode:

• About Tim Storey [ 2:20 ]
• Tim dives deep into his background [ 7:00 ]
• We don’t have to chase anything [ 12:40 ]
• How our character will lead to forgiveness [ 21:00 ]
• How Tim deals with forgiveness  [ 24:00 ]
• We have the choice to forgive [ 29:30 ]
• Why we need to consider the source [ 33:15 ]
• We need to listen to our inner compass [ 36:55 ]
• Why we need to enjoy the journey [ 44:30 ]
• How Tim finds balance and peace [ 49:20 ]

Quotes:

• “Some things in life we decide, and some things in life we discover.”
• “Your calling will always call you.”
• “If you don’t learn to forgive, you won’t go forward.”
• “Forgiveness will set you free.”
• “It’s none of my business what you think about me.”
• “You may not be what you want to be, but thank god you’re not what you used to be.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• Bailey’s Instagram
• Tim’s Website
• Read Tim’s Books

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Lisa Valtierra is the cross-cultural marketing director of a major pharmaceutical company where her work touches on both health disparities and representation. She previously worked with AIDS Service Organizations (ASO) as a patient advocate for women with HIV and other underrepresented communities. During that time, she saw conditions so dismal for underserved populations, it was easy to assume the larger industry would be no better.

Lisa has a passion for health care and for finding solutions that reduce health inequities and serve as many people as possible.  She lives in her hometown of Los Angeles with her cat, Princess Pixie Starburst the Assassin, and earned her degree in Communication Studies from UCLA.

In this episode, Lisa shares her story of adjusting to her new life and learning how to take back her power post-diagnosis.

Lisa realized that her happiness was her responsibility. This took her down many different paths and brought so many adventures. From scuba diving, to dating, to speaking about her experience across the nation. The years have also brought Lisa several challenges like unemployment, divorce, and depression.

Holding Lisa together through these trials and tribulations is a deep understanding of the lessons that she had to learn from her diagnosis. HIV was a wake-up call, it was the universe kicking Lisa and telling her she was on the wrong path. The paradigm shift that occurred after the diagnosis brought a new perspective on happiness, judgment, compassion, and vulnerability.

Now, Lisa does not let her diagnosis define her or control her life. For the last decade, Lisa has focused on finding her happiness. This path looks different for every person, but for Lisa it meant dating, finding a meaningful job and living life to the fullest. Lisa closes by reminding us that what you do with your life, despite whatever challenges you face, is up to you.

In This Episode:

• About Lisa Valtierra [ 3:00 ]
• Who am I outside HIV? [ 05:40 ]
• Finding happiness [ 18:00 ]
• Intergenerational trauma [ 25:00 ]
• Dating with HIV [33:00]
• Understanding the need for compassion and vulnerability [ 45:00 ]
• Ending a relationship and unemployment [ 60:00 ]
• Lisa’s greatest life lessons [ 80:00]

Quotes:

• “Whatever God you pray to doesn’t want you to be unhappy.”
• “If I’m not happy, that’s on me.”
• “Love is a verb”
• “HIV became a small little speck on my shoulder”
• “You can dislike someone and still have compassion for them”
• “My test wasn’t HIV; it was what am I going to do about it.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• Bailey’s Instagram
• Lisa’s LinkedIn
• Lisa’s Twitter

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