Do you love learning and growing?

Does it stress you out to be dependent on others?

Have you ever been so caught up in researching or studying that others felt you were ignoring or abandoning them?

Thanks for joining me for part 6 of decoding the puzzle of human emotions. We’re unpacking what makes us tick. What motivates us? We’ve broken down 4 out of the six human motivations or needs so far, and now it’s time for the motivation that can sculpt us into our best selves and propel us into our dreams.

Today is for you if…

Need #5…Growth

We’re either growing or dying. 

It doesn’t matter how much money you have, accolades you receive or accomplishments you can check off your list. 

You won’t be fulfilled and happy unless you feel you’re growing.

Growth could be your top need if these beliefs hit home:

What the Need for Growth Looks Like:

Strengths 

Growth Tactics If You Need for Growth Is Holding You Back:

Goals for Growth:

What Can You Do to Achieve Your Goal?

What Interferes With Your Goal? 

How Others Can Support You In Your Goal? 

Homework:

In the next episode, we’re tackling our final human need––Contribution and not just talking about giving to charity.

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You’ve got this, and Father’s got you!

Thanks a Bunch for listening!

Until next time, Live Fearlessly Free

Do you feel most worthy when you’re loved and can love others?

Have you ever struggled to receive a gift but are continually giving gifts?

Do you need meaningful connections with others regularly, or are you unsatisfied?

It’s part 5 of decoding the puzzle of human emotions. We’ve unpacked three out of the six human needs so far. It’s time for the need that can make or break you.

Today is for you if…

If you’re tired of being disappointed when others don’t return love to the level you do.

If you desire to finally share your needs instead of only fulfilling everyone else’s.

If you’re ready to shed the guilt that keeps you giving, giving and never resting and receiving.

In this series, we’re talking about our top needs as humans. We all have these six needs, but each person’s top needs are different. We also can get our needs met in healthy and unhealthy ways. 

The goal is to grow ourselves so we can get our needs met in healthy ways that help instead of hurt us and others.

Let’s talk about Need #4…

Do you Believe any of these statements? 

You might have love and connection as a top need.

What the Need for Love and Connection Looks Like:

Strengths 

Check out heatherbunch.com/blog/264 for more detailed show notes.

Homework:

If you enjoy this podcast, please rate, review or share it with a friend.

You’ve got this, and Father’s got you!

Thanks a Bunch for listening!

Until next time, Live Fearlessly Free

Do you struggle with shiny object syndrome or FOMO?

Have you ever started a routine or habit and quickly shifted to a new one before establishing the old one?

Are you always up for an adventure but feel like those around you are poo-pooing your adventurous spirit?

It’s part three of decoding the puzzle of human motivation. It’s time to tackle the need that can lead you to a life of fun but miss out on what matters most.

Today is for you if…

If you’re tired of people thinking you’re flighty.

If you desire to learn how to focus on what matters.

If you’re ready to apply your exuberant energy to reach new heights.

There are six human needs. We need them all, but a couple of them drive us and shape the quality of our lives. This can be positive or negative depending on how we’re trying to meet our needs.

What the Need for Uncertainty/Variety Looks Like:

Strengths

Believe that happiness comes from having many different experiences and challenges that exercise my emotional, intellectual or physical range. 

To have balance in life, there are times when you have to prioritize stability and responsibility in relationships.  Sometimes, it’s necessary to focus on subjects and tasks that are not interesting so you can obtain rewards later on. 

The Consequences:

Goals for Growth:

What Can You Do to Achieve Your Goal?

What Could Interfere with Your Goal?

How Others Can Support You in Your Goal.

Others can support you by encouraging and praising you when you stick to a task that isn’t particularly exciting.

Homework:

If you need more help overcoming an excessive need for uncertainty or variety, check out the Joy-Filled Life online course. One of the benefits is you’ll learn how to focus your thoughts better. It’s on special for only $7 until 9/15/23.

I also have the Mirror Moments devotional on sale for $5 plus shipping. So, if you need help shifting your focus from negative to seeing yourself in Christ, check it out. Heatherbunch.com/store

You’ve got this, and Father’s got you!

Thanks a Bunch for listening!

Until next time, Live Fearlessly Free

Do you or others struggle to live up to your standards?

Do you feel happy when you’re respected, seen or heard and unworthy and unloved if you’re not?

Has anyone ever thought you’re arrogant or full of yourself?

We’re continuing our series on decoding the puzzle of Human motivation. Every human on this planet has six basic needs. I’m not talking about food, shelter and water. I’m talking about the needs that motivate what we do.

Today is for you if…

So far, we’ve learned about the need for certainty; we all need a level of knowing what’s coming or stability, but we also need some uncertainty or variety, or things will get too stale.

The problem with our needs is if we try to meet them in unhealthy ways.

Let’s talk about human need #3 - The Need for Significance.

Listen, we all need a level of significance and feel valuable. What matters is how we try to get this significance met. If you only think you’re valuable while you’re achieving or are essential, when you’re not, you’ll feel worthless.

Remember, you are worthy because Jesus made you worthy. 

Your Heavenly Father always loves you.

You are the apple of His eye.

Fearfully and wonderfully made.

Rest in that, knowing you’re significant.

If you enjoy this podcast, please rate, review or share it with a friend.

You’ve got this, and Father’s got you!

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Until next time, Live Fearlessly Free

How do you react when you can’t control your circumstances? Do you overreact, act like it’s no big deal or scrabble for control?

Do you have a burning need for life to be certain?

How do you seek certainty? Faith? Positive outlook? 

It’s part two of decoding the puzzle of human motivation. In each episode, we’ll break down one of the six human needs and how to ensure we’re using them to help and not hurt us. It’s time to unpack the first human need.

Today is for you if…

There are six human needs. We need them all, but a couple of them drive us and shape the quality of our lives. This can be positive or negative depending on how we’re trying to meet our needs.

We’re starting with our first human need, and that’s the need for certainty.

What the Need for Certainty Looks Like:

What Certainty Believes: Need to feel secure, safe and comfortable now and in the future.

What Certainty is costing you:

Goals for Growth:

What Can You Do to Achieve Your Goal?

1. Stretch Yourself

2. Experience More Positive Emotions On Purpose

3. Learn to Enjoy a Challenge 

Homework:

Pick a goal that requires you to get comfortable being uncertain.

You could try living in the present or taking a risk.

Then:

1. Find ways to stretch yourself.

2. Experience more of the positive emotions that come with growth.

3. Enjoy the challenge.

4. Get help or perspective from others if you need it.

If you feel you have a severe need for certainty, try reading this prayer when things feel out of control.

PRAYER FOR SERENITY by Reinhold Niebuhr

God, grant me the serenity

to accept the things I cannot change,

the courage to change the things I can,

and the wisdom to know the difference….

When you use the need for certainty in positive, healthy ways, it’s a beautiful thing that helps you be that reliable person people can count on. But when it’s out of control, it steers your life in unhealthy ways and can create what you’re trying to avoid…uncertainty.

In the next episode, we’ll tackle the need for uncertainty. We need some of that because God has a sense of humor.

If you need more help overcoming an excessive need for certainty, check out the Joy-Filled Life online course. It’s on special for only $7 until 9/15/23.

I also have the Mirror Moments devotional on sale for $5 plus shipping. So, if you need help shifting your focus from negative to seeing yourself in Christ, check it out. Heatherbunch.com/store

You’ve got this, and Father’s got you!

Thanks a Bunch for listening!

Until next time, Live Fearlessly Free

How do you currently cope with situations that feel unpredictable or uncertain in your life? Or do you ever feel like life is boring you to tears because it’s the same thing over and over?

Have you ever felt like your efforts went unnoticed or unappreciated, and how did that make you feel?

Have you experienced feelings of loneliness or isolation? Do you remedy that in healthy or unhealthy ways?

We’re starting a new series on decoding what motivates us because it’s vital to know why you do what you do.

Today, if for you if…

Why do we do what we do?

When you understand why you do what you do…you gain clarity for your purpose, achieve meaning and fulfillment and create deeper connections with others. 

We’re all different, and yet, we’re all wired in similar ways.

All human motivation can be explained as the desire to meet one or more of our six primary human needs.

1. Certainty: The need for stability, safety, and comfort

2. Uncertainty/Variety: The need for stimulus and change

3. Significance: The need to be special and worthy of attention

4. Connection/Love: The need to feel connected and that you

belong

5. Growth: The need to learn and expand your abilities

6. Contribution: The need to give to others without expecting anything back

We have varying degrees of each need. 

And seasons can change the degree we need each need as well.

Also, whichever one you value most will vary from what someone else values most…including your spouse if you have one.

That’s where conflict can come in. 

Say you’re #1 need is certainty, and your spouse’s is uncertainty. 

Can that cause some issues?

Story….

We tend to have two top needs.

Which two do you think are your top needs?

Homework:

Tap into your inner needs.

1. What’s your priority?

Break up different areas of life into three manageable parts.

Three Spheres of Life: 

1. Yourself

2. Your Work

3. Your Relationships

In what order do you prioritize these spheres of life? 

#1

#2

#3

What needs do you meet through Sphere #1?

What needs do you meet through Sphere #2? 

What needs do you meet through Sphere #3?

When you know what you need and why, you’ll become more resilient and motivated to keep pushing on. Again, you’ll create more and deeper connections and more meaning and fulfillment.

Hang on to this info, and we’re going to dive deeper into each human need and unpack 

If you need more help tapping into who you are and what drives you, I’m offering my Joy-Filled Life online course on special for only $7. 

I also have the Mirror Moments devotional on sale for $5 plus shipping. So, if you need help shifting your focus from negative to seeing yourself in Christ, check it out. Heatherbunch.com/store

You’ve got this, and Father’s got you!

Thanks a Bunch for listening!

Until next time, Live Fearlessly Free

When you make a mistake, do you say things like, “dumbing, moron or idiot? 

When you’re feeling down, what’s your body doing? Is it full of energy or about to drag you down?

Have you ever felt like when it rains, it pours?

It’s part 3 of Ordinary to Extraordinary: Unraveling the Secrets of Living an Extraordinary Life. Are you ready for the secrets that control the quality of your life?

Today is for you if…

What controls and determines the quality of our lives?

1. Meaning

2. Emotion

The meaning we assign to what happens to us creates an emotion. Then, the feeling creates the quality of our lives.

Whatever you want in life, you want because of a feeling that you believe you’ll get when you get what you actually get what you want. 

Did you know you can have that feeling right now if you want? You just need to make some simple shifts to create the emotions you want and live in an extraordinary state of life.

Three Patterns that Create Any Emotion:

1. Physiology

That just means what you do with your body.

Motion creates Emotion.

Whatever you’re feeling right now relates to how you use your body. This includes your face.

To live an extraordinary life, you must be intentional with your physiology.

2. Focus

Your focus is your reality, even if it’s not really reality.

Whatever you’re focusing on, you’ll eventually believe.

“Where focus goes energy flows.” – Tony Robbins

Is your energy flowing where it’ll lead you to an extraordinary life?

3. Language/Meaning 

Belief is a phrase you say over and over again until you believe it.

Certain words create different meanings and change the way you feel.

There’s a significant difference in the feeling those words create.

Change your words and change your life.

Create Intentional Incantations: Incantations are like a mantra. They’re repeated phrases with emotional intensity added.

Use positive incantations that support your extraordinary life and do it with emotional intensity.

When you align your physiology, focus and language with what God says, you’re not just creating an extraordinary life to live one day; you shift your emotions to start living it right now.

Homework:

1. What is your body doing?

2. Where is your mind focused?

3. What language are you using regularly?

One final thought on living an extraordinary life–look for the extraordinary in the ordinary.

Life is full of ordinary moments. Live them, love them, experience them in the moment.

That, my friends, is how you can take your life from ordinary to extraordinary.

If you need more help creating an extraordinary life full of joy, I’m offering my Joy-Filled Life online course on special for only $7. I also have the Mirror Moments devotional on sale for $5 plus shipping. So, if you need help shifting your focus from negative to seeing yourself in Christ, check it out. Heatherbunch.com/store. No coupon code is needed. The sale ends on 9/15/23.

You’ve got this, and Father’s got you!

Thanks a Bunch for listening!

Until next time, Live Fearlessly Free

258 - How to Create an Extraordinary Life Part 2

Do you feel like life can be hit or miss? Sometimes, you feel great; others, you feel like you’re in the depths of despair.

Do you know the forces that shape the direction of your life?

Do you feel empowered or disempowered to live an extraordinary life?

It’s time for part 2 of How to Create an Extraordinary Life. In the last episode, you discovered in your own terms what you want your extraordinary life to look like. You also uncovered what’s keeping you from that life and what you need to shift or change. It’s time to dig in further and unpack the beliefs that get in your way of living your extraordinary life to the fullest.

Today is for you if…

If you’re tired of life feeling like one big rollercoaster.

If you desire to let go of the excess stress and worry in your life.

If you’re ready to remove the old thoughts that sabotage your life, create a new story and life.

It all starts with a thought.

We think > We Feel > We Choose

First, you think a thought.

Then, that causes you to feel a certain way.

Then you make a decision or choice. You act, don’t act, or react.

The life you have now is directly connected to the choices you’ve made up to this point.

Your choices are your actions or inactions.

If you’re not fully living your extraordinary life, it’s time to dig into thought life and see where it’s leading your choices - your actions, inactions and reactions.

Change your story and change your life.

1. Check Your Thoughts

Ask yourself:

What are your two most stressful thoughts that consistently show up?

You know the achiever’s word for fear is stress. If you’re stressed out, you’re afraid of something.

What tends to trigger those thoughts?

A trigger is something that sets off an action or response. 

So, what sets off your stressful thoughts?

Fear is your imagination undirected. So, let’s get that imagination working for you instead of against you.

2. Choose a New Thought

Now ask yourself:

What is the antithesis or the direct opposite of your stressful thoughts? 

Or what would be an empowering thought instead?

Change your story and change your life.

When your triggers, switch out your disempowering thoughts for your empowering thoughts.

3. Focus on what you can love and appreciate.

What can you love and appreciate in this moment? 

Focusing on love and appreciate will take you from fear to faith.

We think > We Feel > We Choose

Homework:

1. Check Your Thoughts with These Questions:

What are your two most stressful thoughts that consistently show up?

What tends to trigger those thoughts?

2. Choose a New Thought

What is the antithesis or the direct opposite of your stressful thoughts? 

Or what would be an empowering thought instead?

Now, switch out the disempowering thought for an empowering thought when triggered.

3. Focus on what you can love and appreciate

What can you love and appreciate in this moment? 

Your beautiful, extraordinary life is not just about achievement but who we become on the joinery and enjoying our beautiful life along the way to where we’re going.

When you focus on what’s lovely instead of the stressful/fearful thoughts, you keep yourself in a resourceful state of mind that helps create your extraordinary life.

You can live your extraordinary life, but remember, you’ve got to be willing to do what’s necessary to make it happen.

If you’re enjoying this podcast, please share it with a friend who could use some help creating an extraordinary life.

You’ve got this, and Father’s got you!

Thanks a Bunch for listening!

Until next time, Live Fearlessly Free

Have you ever seen that person know what they want in life and take the bull by the horns and think, “I wish…”

What makes up an extraordinary life? Money, success or meaning? 

What is your definition of an extraordinary life? Are you living it?

Today, we’re starting a new series to discover how to create an extraordinary life. God is calling us to this life, but are you living it? Do you want to have it if you don’t?

Today is for you if…

If you’re tired of living a life below your potential.

If you desire to live life to the fullest,…full of joy, fulfillment and meaning.

If you’re ready to shed whatever is holding you back, step into your extraordinary life.

An extraordinary life is a life that’s a life experience on your terms…not someone else’s. 

1. Define Your Extraordinary Life

You can get somewhere if you haven’t defined where you’re going.

Here are four questions to help you define your extraordinary life:

What does an extraordinary life look like to you?

What would it look like at the next level? So, it’s not the end game but just another level up from where you’re at.

Where would you live emotionally?

What would fulfill you?

2. Uncover Why You’re Not Experiencing Your Extraordinary Life Yet

What’s prevented you from creating your extraordinary life in the past? What’s gotten in your way?

What’s getting in your way right now?

Suppose you said other people, circumstances or anything outside yourself. In that case, please take a moment and uncover what is going on in you that’s preventing you from living your extraordinary life.

We can’t change anything until we take 100% responsibility for what’s in our control. And that’s ourselves. 

A bad circumstance may have knocked you down, but you’re responsible if you get back up again.

3. Change What You Can Change to Make Your Extraordinary Life Happen

You can’t change others, but you can change yourself.

What do you need to change now to make life happen on your terms? 

What shifts do you need to make?

Homework:

1. Define your extraordinary life.

Here are a few questions to prompt your imagination:

2. What’s prevented you from creating your extraordinary life in the past? 

What’s gotten in your way?

What’s getting in your way right now?

3. What do you need to change now to make life happen on your terms? 

What shifts do you need to make?

In the next episode, we’ll delve into what can hinder you from going to the next level in your extraordinary life and how to change that.

As you work through these questions, you’re becoming aware of how to experience an extraordinary life instead of only getting to experience it at the whim of your circumstances.

If you’re enjoying this podcast, please share it with a friend who could use some help creating an extraordinary life.

You’ve got this, and Father’s got you!

Thanks a Bunch for listening!

Until next time, Live Fearlessly Free