Do you know what you’re afraid of but aren’t sure how to move forward?

Is your fear living your life for you while you sit in the backseat of life?

Do you feel alone in this journey to live your dreams and overcome fear?

We’ve been discovering what’s stopping you from your goals and dreams or getting what you want. So far, you’ve dug down to your root fear and questioned that fear to see if it’s true, helpful and kind to you. When you see this fear isn’t serving you, it’s time to start generating courage so you can overcome fear.

Today is for you if…

I’m writing a book right now, and it scares me!! But that’s not the root fear. I fear my voice matters enough to share my story with the world. It scares me that it might cause disconnection because people may disagree with or not like my writing. That’s the root fear.

The root fear is at the helm of what stops us from moving forward. It keeps us hiding and not showing up fully ourselves. It keeps us from our dreams.

You discovered your root fear, and we questioned our root fear in the last episode.

I uncovered my root fear is not true, kind or helpful. How about you?

When our fear isn’t serving us and only stopping us from our dreams, it’s time to generate the courage to overcome this fear.

How do you generate courage?

Know Your Why

Why do you want to overcome this fear?

Pick both an internal and external reason.

Make it compelling. It needs to be strong enough to get you through the messy middle.

Get Help

If you need help, get help.

No one knows everything.

And you don’t know what you don’t know because you don’t know.

Where can you find help?

I hired a book coach to walk me through the complex parts and understand the ins and outs I don’t know.

Now, Do it Afraid

Courage is a choice.

You generate courage when you do it afraid.

“We can choose comfort or we can choose courage, but we can’t have both – not at the same time.” –Brene Brown.

Use the 5-Second Rule triggers a change.

All you need to do is count down - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 Go.

It helps you take action before your brain gets to thinking of all the reasons you can’t or shouldn’t do that scary thing or make the change.

If you need help overcoming that fear that gets in the way of what you want in life, we’re here for you. Join me and my podcast friends, Becky Michel and Kat Schudel, for the Your Fearless Journey virtual workshop Saturday, March 11, 2023, from 9 am - 12 pm CT.

Registration is only $47.

So if you’re ready to conquer your fears with confidence and courage, go to yfjpodcast.com to register.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

You got this, and Father’s got you!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

Are you trying to live a life of purpose, but fear stops you?

What did you do when you backed off from doing that scary thing you knew you needed to do? Do you keep moving forward, do something easier or hide in a corner?

How do you feel about yourself? Ashamed or like a loser?

What do you say to yourself? Call yourself names or encourage yourself?

In the last episode, I took you through the Levels of Why to discover your root fear. Because what's stopping us from being all we can be goes so much deeper than the surface issues.

Today is for you if…

You used the Levels of Why tool in the last episode to discover your root fear. How did that go?

My Example of Levels of Why:

I'm writing a book right now and it scares me!! But that’s not the root fear. It's my voice matter enough to share my story with the world. It scares me that it might cause disconnection because people may disagree with or not like my writing. That's the root fear.

The root fear is at the helm of what stops us from moving forward. It keeps us hiding and not showing up fully ourselves. It keeps us from our dreams.

Once you find your root fear, now what?

Question Your Fear

Questioning Your Fear is a tool to see if this fear is helping or hurting you.

It gives you perspective so you can make a conscious decision about what you'll do with this fear.

Ask these three questions:

Is my fear true?

Well, it's what I feel like, but is it true if I don't do an excellent job on my book that, people will be upset with me?

It could be, or they could just move on.

But what's not true is the feeling, "I don't have something worth sharing." I have a gift worth giving, and I need to give it.

Is my fear helpful?

No, this fear causes me to go blank or avoid writing altogether.

Is my fear kind?

No, it's not kind to me. It's harmful.

If I stay on this track, it will cause me to withdraw. And then people will miss out on the message God put in my heart to share.

And I'll be miserable because I missed out on sharing it.

Homework:

Take your root fear and question it. Is it true, helpful and kind? Write down your answers.

Tomorrow, I'll give you tools to generate the courage to overcome that root fear.

If you need help overcoming that fear that gets in the way of what you want in life, we're here for you. Join me and my podcast friends, Becky Michel and Kat Schudel, for the Your Fearless Journey virtual workshop Saturday, March 11, 2023, from 9 am - 12 pm CT.

You'll walk away with more tools like this that will get you unstuck and overcome the fear holding you back so you can live your life courageously and wildly inspired!

Registration is only $47.

You're meant for more. Don't let fear stand in your way from living your life on purpose with courage.

So if you're ready to conquer your fears with confidence and courage, go to yfjpodcast.com to register.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

You got this, and Father's got you!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

Have you ever tried to do something new but found yourself returning to what you know?

Do you work on being consistent, yet you can only say you’re consistent at being inconsistent?

What’s stopping you?

No, really. What is stopping you? Let’s get to the root so you can do that in your heart.

Today is for you if…

I’ve been talking to you about living a life of consistency and how this helps you get what you want. Yesterday, I shared that sometimes you need to DSD – do something different – when you’re not getting the results you’re looking for.

But trying something new can be scary. Fear creeps in and stops you.

Sometimes that fear is so sneaky you don’t even realize what’s it doing.

It might show up as procrastination, business, or even other good things that pop up.

But what’s really stopping you? What’s the real fear?

Here is one of my favorite tools to start working on your fears so you can get you moving again.

1. Discover the Root Fear

What’s the real fear? Use the Levels of Why tool to discover the root.

Keep asking Why until you get a gut or emotional reaction.

This helps indicate if you hit the root.

It’s like when the dentist hits the root, and the pain radiates through your body.

Example of Levels of Why:

I’m writing a book right now. It’s a DSD. It’s something new I’m doing.

But it scares me!!

Why does writing a book scare me?

It’s new, and doing new things scares me.

I worry that what I say doesn’t matter as much as some big name.

Why does doing new things scare me?

I’m unsure what I’m doing, and it might fail or not be what people are hoping for.

It would just confirm my feeling that my voice doesn’t matter.

Why does failing or not knowing what people are hoping for scare me?

If I fail, I’m failing other people if they don’t find value in it.

Why does failing other people scare me?

I’m not too fond of confrontation with people. It feels like conflict. I like keeping the peace.

And, if they don’t find value in it, I fear they don’t think I’m valuable.

Why don’t I like conflict?

I fear that conflict equals disconnection from people.

Why do you fear disconnection?

My biggest fear is disconnection from others. I’m all about connection. That makes me feel like I’m in harmony and at peace. It makes me feel like I matter.

Tomorrow we'll work through what we need to do next with this root fear so we can keep moving forward.

If you need help overcoming that fear that gets in the way of what you want in life, we’re here for you. Join me and my podcast friends, Becky Michel and Kat Schudel, for the Your Fearless Journey virtual workshop Saturday, March 11, 2023, from 9 am - 12 pm CT.

You’ll walk away with tools like this that will get you unstuck and overcome the fear holding you back so you can live your life courageously and wildly inspired!

Registration is only $47.

You’re meant for more. Don’t let fear stand in your way from living your life on purpose with courage.

So if you’re ready to conquer your fears with confidence and courage, go to yfjpodcast.com to register.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

You got this, and Father’s got you!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

Do you ever feel stuck in a rut? In life or your work or business?

Are you comfortable where you’re at? Like you stopped pushing yourself to grow or improve?

Is what you’re doing stopped working, but you keep doing it anyway, hoping things will change?

We're going to use DSD to get unstuck, become more effective, and create more enjoyment in your life.

Today is for you if…

Yesterday I talked about consistency as a key to getting what you want. And it is. Slow and steady is how you’ll keep moving forward toward your dreams.

But sometimes, you have to shake things up. Sometimes, you must mix up the routine, push yourself out of your comfort zone, or energize your life.

Sometimes you have to…DSD – Do Something Different

I thrive in routine. I like to know what to expect. I enjoy creature comforts. But that doesn’t always get me what I want in life.

I need to DSD to push out of my comfort zone and change my results.

Signs You Need to DSD:

What do you need to do differently?

Examples:

Effects of DSD:

Homework:

Where do you need to DSD in your personal life?

Where do you need to DSD in your career or business?

One last thing…You can explore DSD without commitment. Test it out and see if it works. If not, DSD until you find what works.

Fear will try to stop you from being DSD. It can be scary to step out and try something different.

If you need help overcoming that fear that gets in the way of what you want in life, join me and my podcast friends, Becky Michel and Kat Schudel, for the Your Fearless Journey virtual workshop Saturday, March 11, 2023, from 9 am - 12 pm CT.

You’ll walk away with awesome tools to put in your Wonder Woman tool belt that will get you unstuck and overcome the fear holding you back so you can live your life courageously and wildly inspired!

Registration is only $47.

So if you’re ready to conquer your fears with confidence and courage, go to yfjpodcast.com to register.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

You got this, and Father’s got you!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

Do you have a dream in your heart, but it feels like you're moving through molasses to get there?

Ever wished you were more disciplined to do it?

Or do you look around you and think, "everyone is so much further along in life than me?"

We're discussing the key to getting more of what you want in life.

Today is for you if…

I have a dream to help women overcome fear and fulfill their purpose. Somedays, it feels like it's a million miles away. I feel like I'm slow at everything. I look at others, and if I'm not careful, I'll get into comparison mode, thinking everyone is much ahead of me.

It reminds me of a story - The Hare & the Tortoise

The moral of this story is: The race is not always to the swift. Or slow and steady win the race.

When I feel like my progress is so s.l.o.w., I remind myself the tortoise wins the race.

So did Paul…

1 Corinthians 9:24-27 NASB

…26 Therefore I run in such a way as not to run aimlessly; I box in such a way, as to avoid hitting air; 27 but I strictly discipline my body and make it my slave, so that, after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified.

Paul lived his life in a way to fulfill his God-given calling.

What's the key?

Every person I've seen fulfilling their purpose has this in common…consistency.

Here are five steps to creating more consistency in your life.

1. Where are you consistent now?

Are you consistent at being inconsistent?

Are you consistent with scrolling social media?

We say we're not disciplined, but we're really just consistent at the wrong thing most of the time.

Knowing this also shifts your mindset from I'm not consistent to I need to be consistent at the right thing.

2. Where do you need to be consistent?

List where you need to be consistent in your life.

3. Pick one thing.

Pick one thing to get consistent at to start.

You'll get overwhelmed and quit if you try to do everything at once.

Add on as you get consistent with that one thing.

4. Do something

Do something towards that one thing every day.

"We can't do everything at once, but by God, we can do something at once!" – Andy Andrews, The Seven Decisions: Understanding the Keys to Personal Success

5. Schedule Consistency

Make room on your calendar for consistency.

You'll never do it if you don't plan on doing it.

Slow and steady win the race!!

Fear comes up on our journey and tries to stop us from being consistent.

So if you're ready to conquer your fears with confidence and courage, join me, Becky and Kat at the Your Fearless Journey workshop Saturday, March 11, 2023, from 9 am - 12 pm CT.

Registration is only $47.

For more details and to sign up, go to yfjpodcast.com.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

You got this, and Father's got you!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

What do you do when a close friend or spouse shares what they need? Embrace and love unconditionally? Or, Dismiss and get defensive?

Have you ever struggled with what someone else needed when it conflicted with what you needed?

Do your closest friends' and family’s personalities rub you the wrong way?

I’ve been discussing what you need with those closest to you. But what happens when the tables are turned, and your spouse or friend needs to share with you what they need or have that difficult convo? What do you do? How do you respond? Let’s break it down.

Today is for you if…

Communication is a two-way street.

We must share what we need with those closest to us. We talked about that in episodes 178 & 179. But what about when our loved one needs to share what they need with us? Or if they need to have a difficult conversation with you?

How you respond to their needs determines whether that conversation goes well or terribly wrong.

Proverbs 15:1 AMP

A soft and gentle and thoughtful answer turns away wrath, but harsh and painful and careless words stir up anger.

Listen

Listen with an open heart and don’t get defensive.

Walls block relationships and make people feel unappreciated.

See their side

Step into Their Shoes

More arguments could be avoided with this one.

There are always three sides to every story. Your side, my side and the truth somewhere in the middle.

It’s okay to meet in the middle.

Accept and Appreciate

What you need and someone else needs most likely will be different because we’re all different.

There’s a variety of personalities and nuances of those personalities.

Remember what you appreciated in your spouse or friend when you started hanging out?

If you’re having difficulty accepting what they need, ask yourself why.

Fear is one of the biggest blocks when it comes to knowing ourselves, communicating that with others and receiving what others have to say.

If you struggle with overcoming fear in any area of your life, My friends Becky Michel and Kat Schudel and I created a workshop just for you.

The Your Fearless Journey workshop is Saturday, March 11, 2023, from 9 am - 12 pm CT.

You’ll walk away with real-world tools to get you unstuck and overcome the fear holding you back so you can live your life courageously and wildly inspired!

We’re offering it for only $47.

So if you’re ready to conquer your fears with confidence and courage, go to yfjpodcast.com to register.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

You got this, and Father’s got you!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

Are your relationships thriving, surveying or dying?

Have you ever struggled to share your thoughts, opinions or needs with those closest to you?

Do you feel others should know what you need, and it bothers you that they don’t get it?

Communication is the lifeblood of relationships, and it determines whether relationships thrive, survive or die. In the last episode, you learned that you must know yourself first to that communicate with others. Today, I’m sharing how you can communicate what you need.

Today is for you if…

Communication is the lifeblood of every relationship you’ll experience.

It’s time to communicate your needs to others.

No one is a mind reader. You must speak up and express what you need.

James 4:2 says, “You have not because you ask not.”

“Hello, my name is Heather, and I’m a stuffaholic.”

No, I’m not a hoarder, although I live my life in piles.

I’ve struggled to speak up for myself and share my thoughts, opinions and needs.

The problem with stuffing it is I built up resentments through the years with many of my closest relationships. This strains the relationship and builds an unseen wall that keeps us from getting closer.

It wasn’t until we were at the point of bankruptcy that I finally freed myself of this stuff-it addiction.

I finally shared my real feelings about the financial decisions. And then, I shared I need a safe space to help me be open and honest.

Over the next few years, I’ve worked through my fears and now share what I need when I need it.

Five guidelines to help you share what you need:

Be Brave

Do it afraid. It gets easier the more you do it.

Be Honest

First, share that you need a safe space to share. Then, share what you need.

Be Clear

Don’t beat around the bush. Say it clearly so the other person understands.

Be Respectful

You can be honest and straightforward and not a jerk. Watch your tone and body language.

Be Open

Be open to hearing what the other person needs. It’s very likely the opposite of you.

If they don’t respond as you’d hoped, don’t get defensive; that will only heat up the conversation. Stay open to seeing their side and receive what they may need.

These guidelines work for any difficult conversation you need to have.

Remember, communication is the lifeblood of your relationship. If you want healthy, thriving ones, you’ve got to nurture those relationships through healthy communication.

Homework:

Decide what difficult conversation you need to have, and then go have it.

Fear is one of the biggest blocks when it comes to knowing ourselves and communicating that with others.

If you struggle with overcoming fear in any area of your life, join me at The Your Fearless Journey workshop is Saturday, March 11, 2023, from 9 am - 12 pm CT.

You’ll walk away with real-world tools to get you unstuck and overcome the fear holding you back so you can live your life courageously and wildly inspired!

We’re offering it’s only $47.

So if you’re ready to conquer your fears with confidence and courage, go to yfjpodcast.com to register.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

You got this, and Father’s got you!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

Are your closest relationships thriving, surveying or dying?

Have you had a seemingly simple conversation go south and turn into world war 3?

Do you wish your spouse or best friends knew what you needed and communicated that to you?

We're beginning a new series on communication. Communication affects every relationship and determines whether it thrives, survives or dies.

Today is for you if…

Stats say most divorce is over Sex and Money. I believe that communication or lack of communication around sex and money is really at the root.

Think about any disagreement you've had.

Think about the most beautiful moments with others you've had.

What is the common denominator? Communication or lack of it.

Communication is the lifeblood of every relationship you'll experience.

To communicate with others in a healthy way, we need first to know ourselves.

A couple of weeks ago, my husband, Bob, asked if I was ok. Was anything bothering me?

I was quieter, and he knew I was contemplating.

I sat for a moment and thought about what I was experiencing.

I'd been watching a Tony Robbins event for the last two days. Over three hours of content each day.

I realized a pattern.

When I am in learning mode and trying to absorb a lot of content, I need extra energy to process it all. When that happens, it sucks the energy from me, so I look like I'm down or sad.

I shared this pattern with Bob, and he completely understood.

Knowing myself and communicating that with my husband saved us from some crazy cycle of Bob thinking I was mad at him and me trying to convince him otherwise.

What do you need to flourish?

When you're stressed, how can your spouse or friend help?

What's really bothering you?

I want to use the Enneagram to help you uncover what you may need to communicate so your relationships can go from surviving or dying to thriving:

To get the break down of what each Enneagram type needs, head over to https://heatherbunch.com/blog/2023/2/22/podcast-episode-178-to-communicate-or-not-to-communicate-pt-1-know-yourself

Homework:

Look through the nine types and see if they align with who you are and what you need.

Write down what you need communication to look like to thrive in a relationship. It may be what I've said here, something you figure out yourself, or a combination of both.

There's no right or wrong answer here. You just need to be honest with yourself.

Now, next episode, we'll talk about how to communicate your needs to others.

Fear is one of the biggest blocks when it comes to knowing ourselves and communicating that with others.

If you struggle with overcoming fear in any area of your life, My friends Becky Michel and Kat Schudel and I created a workshop just for you.

The Your Fearless Journey workshop is Saturday, March 11, 2023, from 9 am - 12 pm CT.

You'll walk away with real-world tools that will get you unstuck and overcome the fear holding you back so you can live your life courageously and wildly inspired!

It's only $47.

So if you're ready to conquer your fears with confidence and courage, go to yfjpodcast.com to register.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

You got this, and Father's got you!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

Do you want to live a life of significance?

Are you ready to make a difference?

Do you desire to leave this world better than you found it?

When we started this personal growth series, I shared we must master the skills and gain experience. To do that, you learned six keys to personal growth so you can fulfill your destiny. Today it’s time to talk about your destiny.

Today is for you if…

“Your beliefs become

Your thoughts.

Your thoughts become

Your words.

Your words become

Your actions.

Your actions become

Your habits.

Your habits become

Your values.

Your values become

Your destiny.”

–Mahatma Gandhi

Destiny is a grand-sounding word.

What does destiny mean?

Some think destiny is:

What is our destiny?

It’s our God-given purpose.

What is God calling you to do?

If you’re not sure, here are some questions to help you get the process going:

What mess have you overcome or are you overcoming in life that you can bring to others?

Many times our destiny comes out of our mess.

What do you love to do?

What lights you up and makes you feel fulfilled?

Here are two podcasts that can help you discover your destiny:

Podcast Episode 091 - Six Questions to Discover Your Zone of Genius

https://heatherbunch.com/blog/2022/10/24/podcast-episode-091-six-questions-to-discover-your-zone-of-genius?rq=zone

Podcast Episodes 138 to 140

https://heatherbunch.com/blog/2022/12/28/podcast-episode-138-whats-your-biggest-wish-for-the-new-year

Your Destiny is More than a Destination.

Our God-given purpose is also a journey, not just a destination.

It’s what we do and who we become on the way to where we’re going.

“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” –Tony Robbins.

Our moments are made up of our beliefs, thoughts, words, actions, habits and values.

“Whatever you consistently think about and focus upon you move toward.” –Tony Robbins.

As you move in your destiny, continually manage your beliefs, thoughts, words, actions, habits and values.

That will keep you on the right track, and you’ll enjoy the journey on the way to where you’re going.

Fear comes up on our journey and tries to stop us. Fear can even show up as procrastination.

So if you’re ready to conquer your fears with confidence and courage, join me, Becky and Kat at the Your Fearless Journey workshop Saturday, March 11, 2023, from 9 am - 12 pm CT.

You’ll walk away with real-world tools that will get you unstuck and overcome the fear holding you back so you can live your life courageously and wildly inspired!

Registration is only $47.

For more details and to sign up, go to yfjpodcast.com.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

You got this, and Father’s got you!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

If you were standing before God, what would you tell Him what’s important to you?

Do you value love, generosity, joy or gratitude? Or maybe it’s hard work, integrity, belonging or community?

Whatever you value, are you living out those values in your everyday life?

Your beliefs are connected to your thoughts, words, actions, and habits. And our habits become or reveal our values and what we stand for.

Today is for you if…

“Your beliefs become

Your thoughts.

Your thoughts become

Your words.

Your words become

Your actions.

Your actions become

Your habits.

Your habits become

Your values.

Your values become

Your destiny.”

–Mahatma Gandhi

Your habits reveal your values and what really matters to you.

Your values are what you stand for.

There was a time when I said I valued love, but my habit showed that I was holding unforgiveness and wouldn’t deal with it because I really valued keeping the peace and avoiding conflict at all costs.

Look at values and ask yourself:

Am I living out these values with my beliefs, thoughts, words, actions and habits?

Will my values lead me to the destiny I want? Will my values help me become the kind of person that can sustain and support that destiny?

If you answered no, what values would lead you to the destiny you want and become someone who can sustain and support that destiny?

Pick ten values that stand out to you.

You can also pick a value I didn’t list at heatherbunch.com/blog, podcast episode 176, or create your own.

Now, narrow down your values to your top 5

Write a statement that you can keep in front of you.

Here’s mine as an example:

I am a loving, gracious, clever, joyful and courageous woman of God.

I’ve listed the entire list at heatherbunch.com/blog. Then, click on podcast episode 176.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

You got this, and Father’s got you!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!