Nobody wants to talk about dying. But what happens when we do?
On August 5th, 2025, New York becomes one of only a handful of states where Medical Aid in Dying (MAiD) is now legal. For people living with incurable or terminal illness, this isn't an abstract policy debate — it's a deeply personal question about autonomy, dignity, and who gets to decide how life ends.
In this first episode of On Our Own Terms, Victoria Goldberg sits down with two remarkable voices:
Dr. Yesne Alici, psychiatrist at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center and chair of MSKCC's Medical Aid in Dying Advisory Council, walks us through what New York's new law actually requires, how MSK is preparing to implement it, and what the psychiatric evaluation process looks like for patients who inquire.
Elizabeth Armijo, National Director of Legislative Advocacy at Compassion & Choices, shares what a decade of state-by-state advocacy looks like — and what 85 million Americans now have access to that they didn't before.
Together, they explore the questions most of us are afraid to ask: What is medical aid in dying, and what isn't it? Who qualifies? What does "peaceful" really mean — and who gets to define it?
"The goal is neither to steer a person toward or away from medical aid in dying. It's to make sure that everybody's heard, fully informed, supported, and never abandoned." — Dr. Yesheene Aleje
Topics covered:
- Medical Aid in Dying (MAiD) vs. euthanasia — what's the difference?
- New York's MAiD Act: eligibility requirements and safeguards
- How MSK is building its clinical MAiD team
- The top three reasons people pursue MAiD worldwide: loss of autonomy, loss of dignity, loss of meaningful activity
- Opposition from faith communities and disability advocates
- What Compassion & Choices does in states where MAiD isn't yet legal
- Resources for patients, caregivers, and families
Resources mentioned:
- Compassion & Choices: 1-800-247-7421
- The Academy of Aid-in-Dying Medicine (formerly the American Clinicians Academy on Medical Aid in Dying)
- Five Wishes advance directive planning
- Death Cafe
This episode is for informational purposes only. Nothing shared here constitutes medical or legal advice. Please consult your own medical team regarding any end-of-life decisions.
On Our Own Terms is a series from Live from Stage Four, hosted by Victoria Goldberg with co-hosts Abigail Johnston and Dr. Ellen Landsberger.
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