Lives of the Party: A Jalen Gonel Show

You could make all the right decisions and still lose. That's not failure, that's life.

Nico Maciel is a young, ambitious, serial entrepreneur in the making. His ambition is unparalleled. He is the CEO and founder of Kratos Consulting, an engineering consulting company. He is also part of a DJ collective based in Boston. The world is his for the taking.

Listen to us talk about taking on risks, our fears, failures, and how to bounce back.

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Timestamps:

3:17 topic of failure

10:32 Western culture of being overly positive

13:18 Men’s mental health

14:30 Men have unrealistic expectations in society

16:12 Hustle Culture

19:58 How are you supposed to provide to a mentor who has more than you everywhere?

29:04 Kratos Consulting - Nico's failures

38:24 Why do you think you’re going to make it Nick?

48:40 I’m sure the sacrifice includes your social life

53:20 People are too soft today

1:01:05 Participation trophies aren't supposed to feel good

1:01:32 We're all experts at something

1:11:20 People need to understand what is and isn’t in their control

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A lot has happened in the last few weeks. It was my birthday, Holi, and I only have a few more weeks in San Fransisco.

As you can see, we have a new logo and title. I go in-depth about the process. A new episode drops tomorrow, Sunday.

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Timestamps:
3:23 -So why Lives of the Party?
11:26 My Birthday
16:18 - Holi
18:10 A story about learned helplessness
19:33 How many things in our life do we condition ourselves to fear?
21:20 Main Takeaway from episode

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This one’s a fever dream.

Imagine being a wildlife conservationist to save the turtles.

Now imagine having to walk 6 miles through the jungle fighting insect stings, wild dogs, and swimming through a crocodile infested river, armed with a stick- all while dodging armed poachers trying to take those precious turtle eggs.

Now imagine being alone. A woman. 19 years old. 4 hours from the nearest town by car. Doing it every night.  

Yes. This is real. I couldn’t believe it either.

This is Josie’s story.

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Timestamps:
1:30 intro

5:10 How Josie ended up in Costa Rica

8:36 Red Flag #1

10:02 Red Flag #2

11:20 Where she lived

14:30 A day in the life in the hut*

18:22 Sea Turtle Patrols

22:40  The many life-threatening obstacles on the way to save the turtles

22:27 How she did it unarmed

25:16 Between all these dangers how did it feel? 

26:30 “Safety is different here”

27:55 Swimming in crocodile-infested waters

31:22 Why she stayed

33:30 Starving for food

38:50 Organization denies that she’s starving

40:14 Turning Point, Drunk Men With Guns

44:15 “come here senoritas”

47:06 Calling parents after the ordeal 

49:00 Parents show up

50:30 Man’s search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl parallel | Josie is no longer living, "just existing”

1:00:12 Parents, NEU, everybody gets involved

1:02:40 Stranger pulls up a photo of her alone, Josie realizes she’s being spied 

1:03:40 “Here’s your picture”

1:03:59-1:04:30 - Josie explains picture, no protection”

1:07:27 “no you don’t understand”

1:10:40 Kidnapped for real (almost)

1:12:55 A night in the jungle (literally)

1:14:20 “I still can’t get over you slept on the fucking jungle floor; That was the safest plan”

1:15:02 Aftermath coming home

1:19:06 Mental health & PTSD going forward 

1:31:40 Josie's journal entry

1:34:00 How do you keep going on?

1:37:00 Advice for others

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The title says it all. My friend Rachel and I talk about what we did over spring break.

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Sasha is a native Ukrainian and 3rd-year student at Northeastern University. A longtime resident of Kyiv, she has since had to flee her childhood home. At the time of this episode's release she resides in The Netherlands, forced to leave her country without her parents.

There is the story we hear on the news. And then there are the stories of those truly affected,  the millions we'll never get to know. Sasha's is one of them. Some photos of the things we talk about, with captions for reference.

While you may not be on the front lines, providing disaster relief, or making Molotov cocktails like some badass grannies are for Ukraine, there is still a lot that can be done.

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Timestamps: 

• 5:00 Start of Interview, Sasha's introduction
• 10:15 Did constant sirens/invasion warnings sow doubt in Ukrainians
• 12:46 What is the Russian-Ukraine language barrier and cultural relationship like?
• 14:16 Riddles to tell if people are Ukrainians vs. undercover Russians
• 22:40 Sasha’s own interpretation of Ukraine-Russia conflict
• 29:25 As Putin targets civilian areas, how has that affected your friends and family?
• 32:30 Sasha's escape to Western Ukraine and what she saw evacuating
• 40:03 A difficult choice of having to leave her family behind
• 43:30 Grandmas making Molotov cocktails
• 46:20 What is life like under martial law?
• 48:20 Social media and the role it plays in war
• 48:50 Kyiv mall potentially bombed due to TikTok video
• 55:00 Her thoughts on immigration
• 59:03 How she sees the war ending, and what she’ll do after
• 1:03:22 What Sasha wants Northeastern to know
• 1:12:50 Sasha’s emotions throughout the conflict
• 1:19:48 Survivor's guilt
• 1:21:00 A real life game of battleships
• 1:22:12 Siren sounds
• 1:24:45 What can regular people do to help?

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Just a little update of what I've been up to. This podcast ain't stopping anytime soon! 

Some recent developments:

• Access to high-quality music and sound effects (with a showcase)
• Higher quality episode formats coming soon

Upcoming episodes

• Interview with Northeastern University student and Ukrainian native Sasha
• Northeastern University student Josie's story of almost getting kidnapped in a Costa Rican jungle 
• My diss track produced by Saturn (drops April 8)
• Log of getting stranded and hitchhiking at the Muir Woods
• And much more!

Be sure to follow me on Instagram @jalengonel and check my website for more updates on the podcast at www.jalengonel.com.

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Jalen rambles about the week he's had, living in a van, and going on a ride-along.

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No Music. No guests. Minimal editing. 

This is my life story up to now. It’s definitely not everything, but what I could say in 35 minutes or less. 


More episodes coming weekly. 

2:24 - What’s a value proposition

4:44 - Life story 

4:46 - Childhood 

7:08 - The adventures of a hopeless childhood romantic

7:30 - Middle School

9:00 - High School

10:42 - Life lessons from Grand Theft Auto Online

13:33 - Programming VR games and other coding projects

14:52 - HS romantic adventures

15:37 - The greatest single decision I made in my life 🦞

17:15 - College: what it led to

18:18 - My first cry of pure happiness

18:56 - An arrogant freshman year in college

20:08 - Heroines were my heroin

21:21 - Emotional wisdom I learned from joining a fraternity

22:17 - Back to the heroin

22:54 - A free trip to Israel and the story of a massacred village

25:42 - A paradigm shift and making the most of quarantine

26:47 - The realization I’m ✨stupid✨

29:55 - 3rd & 4th year of college

31:54 - Me today

33:01 - Why I’m making this podcast

34:35 - Thank you and the road ahead

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The friend zone-- a dreaded place of unrequited love so many of us hope to never be.  Or is it really that bad?

I interviewed my friend Trevor Condon-- a man who by his own claim is an expert at getting caught in the friend zone. So stuck is he in the friend zone that he and his current best friend,  Abby Cossette, do all the things you would think couples do.

They post photos of themselves together on social media, make flirty comments on public posts, and MAKE OUT AT BARS? They say they're just friends.

And the funniest thing? I believe them.

Hear about Trevor's trials and tribulations caught in the friend zone, our thoughts on the topic, and Abby's thoughts.

Yes, we called her on the podcast to explain this situation. It was definitely something.  

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