Living Aware Parenting

In this second episode of the series in The Living Aware Parenting podcast where I talk about Aletha Solter's books, I focus on her third book, Tears and Tantrums, which was first published in 1998.

Her second book, Helping Young Children Flourish, was replaced by Cooperative and Connected, which is why I have skipped to Tears and Tantrums.

I explain why, if I only ever recommended one book for all adults, not just those who are parents or care for children, it would be this book.

I also talk about why it can be particularly helpful for parents practicing Aware Parenting to give to grandparents and others in our circle.

I outline the book’s four parts, including key ideas such as how crying and raging are stress-release mechanisms, the physiological and psychological benefits of crying, the “broken cookie phenomenon", creating emotional safety, control patterns and dissociation, supporting restful sleep without leaving babies to cry alone, and how parents can work with their own painful feelings and find support.

Thank you so much for listening to this episode.

If you'd like further resources, here's a summary of the details.

Here's the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LivingAwareParentingPodcast

As of September 2026, Aletha Solter, PhD. has seven published books, which you can find on her website, https://www.awareparenting.com/books.htm

As of September 2026, I have four solo published books for parents, and three for children, with more coming soon. You can find out more on my website, https://marionrose.net/books/

You can find my Aware Parenting free PDFs and online courses here: https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-courses/

You can sign up for my newsletters here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list

I offer 1:1 mentoring. Details are here: https://marionrose.net/mentoring/

Here are my Instagram pages:

Podcast: http://instagram.com/thelivingawareparentingpodcast

Aware Parenting: https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/

My Facebook personal page: https://www.facebook.com/marion.badenoch

Here are all the Aware Parenting instructors in my region: https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-instructors-in-australia-and-new-zealand/

Here's how to become an Aware Parenting instructor in my region:

https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-certification/

I do have another podcast, The Marion Rose Podcast, where I talk about all my other interests and offerings. It includes The Marion Method work, which consists of reparenting, as well as what I call reculturing: reclaiming our yeses and noes, getting free from Disconnected Domination Culture conditioning such as guilt and coercion, and lots more.

You can find The Marion Rose Podcast on all the usual podcast platforms, and on YouTube, here:

https://www.youtube.com/@TheMarionRosePodcast

See you in the next episode!

Love,

Marion

xoxo

In this second episode of the series in The Living Aware Parenting podcast where I talk about Aletha Solter's books, I focus on her first book, The Aware Baby.

I love sharing how much I love this book, and my experience of it as a concise, research-backed “treasure trove”.

I also talk about how my understanding of Aware Parenting expands and deepens every time I read this book, even after decades of practicing and teaching Aware Parenting, and having read the book about 25 times!

In the episode, I read reviews from Thomas Verny, David Chamberlain, and William Emerson, and then I go through the book, talking about each chapter, key themes, and reading out some excerpts.

I finish this episode with an inspiring quote from Aletha Solter, and I preview the next book of hers that I'll be talking about on this podcast, Cooperative and Connected.

00:00 Welcome

00:40 Why The Aware Baby

04:56 Reviews

08:35 Chapter One, Beginnings and Love

13:42 Chapter Two and Crying

21:40 Introduction and the Cultural Lens

31:40 Food and Feeding Cues

35:10 Sleep and Rest

37:38 Play and Learning

42:13 Conflicts and Respect

45:56 Attachment and Safety

49:05 Conclusion and the Next Book

Thank you so much for listening to this episode. I'm so willing for you to have found it helpful.

If you'd like further resources, here's a summary of the details.

Here's the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LivingAwareParentingPodcast

As of August 2026, Aletha Solter, PhD. has seven published books, which you can find on her website, https://www.awareparenting.com/books.htm

As of August 2026, I have four solo published books for parents, and three for children, with more coming soon. You can find out more on my website, https://marionrose.net/books/

You can find my Aware Parenting free PDFs and online courses here: https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-courses/

You can sign up for my newsletters here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list

I offer 1:1 mentoring. Details are here: https://marionrose.net/mentoring/

Here are my Instagram pages:

Podcast: http://instagram.com/thelivingawareparentingpodcast

Aware Parenting: https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/

Aware Parenting and The Marion Method: https://www.instagram.com/marion_rose/

My Facebook personal page: https://www.facebook.com/marion.badenoch

Here are all the Aware Parenting instructors in my region: https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-instructors-in-australia-and-new-zealand/

Here's how to become an Aware Parenting instructor in my region:

https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-certification/

I do have another podcast, The Marion Rose Podcast, where I talk about all my other interests and offerings. It includes The Marion Method work, which consists of reparenting, as well as what I call recultuiring: reclaiming our yeses and noes, getting free from Disconnected Domination Culture conditioning such as guilt and coercion, and lots more.

You can find The Marion Rose Podcast on all the usual podcast platforms, and on YouTube, here:

https://www.youtube.com/@TheMarionRosePodcast

See you in the next episode!

Love,

Marion

xoxo

Welcome to Season Four, which is all about Aletha Solter’s books. Aletha Solter is the founder of Aware Parenting.

I recorded the first two episodes in May, just after The Aware Baby came out in digital version.

In this first episode, I show and share about all of Aletha Solter's seven books, with information about each one of them.

Then, in the rest of the series, I will devote each episode to each one of the books, in order of year of publication.

I share who Aletha Solter is as the founder of Aware Parenting, and I introduce my role as a Level 2 Aware Parenting instructor and regional coordinator for Australia, New Zealand, and Indonesia.

I overview each book’s focus and age range:

The Aware Baby,

Cooperative and Connected,

Tears and Tantrums,

Raising Drug-Free Kids,

Attachment Play,

Healing Your Traumatized Child, and

Raising Joyful Lifelong Learners,

and I invite you to explore them via awareparenting.com

00:00 Welcome to the Series

01:28 The Aware Baby Overview

03:42 Inside The Aware Baby

07:02 Cooperative and Connected

09:44 Tears and Tantrums

12:58 Raising Drug-Free Kids

16:34 Attachment Play

19:32 Healing Your Traumatized Child

26:11 Raising Joyful Lifelong Learners

30:04 Summary and Links

Thank you so much for listening to this episode. I'm so willing for you to have found it helpful.

If you'd like further resources, here's a summary of the details.

Here's the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LivingAwareParentingPodcast

As of August 2026, Aletha Solter, PhD. has seven published books, which you can find on her website, https://www.awareparenting.com/books.htm

As of August 2026, I have four solo published books for parents, and three for children, with more coming soon. You can find out more on my website, https://marionrose.net/books/

You can find my Aware Parenting free PDFs and online courses here: https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-courses/

You can sign up for my newsletters here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list

I offer 1:1 mentoring. Details are here: https://marionrose.net/mentoring/

Here are my Instagram pages:

Podcast: http://instagram.com/thelivingawareparentingpodcast

Aware Parenting: https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/

Aware Parenting and The Marion Method: https://www.instagram.com/marion_rose/

My Facebook personal page: https://www.facebook.com/marion.badenoch

Here are all the Aware Parenting instructors in my region: https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-instructors-in-australia-and-new-zealand/

Here's how to become an Aware Parenting instructor in my region:

https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-certification/

I do have another podcast, The Marion Rose Podcast, where I talk about all my other interests and offerings. It includes The Marion Method work, which consists of reparenting, as well as what I call recultuiring: reclaiming our yeses and noes, getting free from Disconnected Domination Culture conditioning such as guilt and coercion, and lots more.

You can find The Marion Rose Podcast on all the usual podcast platforms, and on YouTube, here:

https://www.youtube.com/@TheMarionRosePodcast

See you in the next episode!

Love,

Marion

xoxo

Join me as I welcome Katie Fusco, an Aware Parenting instructor in the U.K., to the Living Aware Parenting Podcast in celebration of Aletha Solter's 80th birthday.

Katie discusses the profound impacts of Aletha Solter's Aware Parenting philosophy on her life and professional practice.

Katie shares her personal journey of discovering Aware Parenting, the pivotal moments in her work, and transformative client stories.

We also delve into Aletha's premise of 'it's never too late' for emotional healing and discuss broader applications beyond childhood.

This heartfelt conversation concludes with a beautiful tribute to Aletha Solter and a shared vision for the future of Aware Parenting.

00:00 Welcome to the Living Aware Parenting Podcast

00:18 Celebrating Aletha Solter's 80th Birthday

02:56 The Impact of Aware Parenting on Katie's Life

10:56 A Pivotal Moment in Katie's Aware Parenting Journey

26:42 The Transformative Power of Aware Parenting

46:29 A Story of Trust and Play

49:32 The Magic of Child-Led Play

52:26 Rupture and Repair in Relationships

55:33 Healing Across Generations

01:01:07 The Vision for Aware Parenting

01:07:16 The Broken Cookie Phenomenon

01:16:25 A Tribute to Aletha

You can find out more about Aletha Solter and Aware Parenting at The Aware Parenting Institute website: https://awareparenting.com/

You can contact Katie on Instagram at: @thecryingclinic

In this episode of the Living Aware Parenting Podcast, I am joined by Maru Rojas, an Aware Parenting mentor originally from Mexico and now living in London.

We celebrate the 80th birthday of Aletha Solter, the founder of Aware Parenting, and discuss the profound impact her work has had on our lives.

Maru shares aspects of her own journey with Aware Parenting, including pivotal moments with her daughter and the transformative effects of attachment play.

This conversation highlights the importance of attachment play, awareness, and the potential for future generations to profoundly benefit from Aware Parenting.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:27 Guest Introduction: Maru Rojas

01:35 Effects of Aware Parenting

04:33 Aletha Ahead of her Time in Not Using the Terms "Regulation" and "Co-Regulation"

07:31 Pivotal Moments in Aware Parenting

11:43 Effects of Practicing Aware Parenting

14:25 Attachment Play and Awareness

19:10 Vision for Future Generations

23:32 Final Thoughts and Gratitude

25:18 How to Connect and Closing Remarks

You can find out more about Aletha Solter and Aware Parenting at The Aware Parenting Institute website: https://awareparenting.com/

Maru says: "I'm an Aware Parenting mentor (Level 1), EC and potty learning consultant. Originally from Mexico, I’ve lived in the UK for 17 years and have two energetic kids, aged 7 and 5.

I’m passionate about trusting children’s innate goodness and honoring their true nature. My work focuses on our physiological needs, ancestral habits, and healing from stress and trauma stored in the body."

You can find out more about Maru and her work here:

Instagram: _maru.rojas_

Website: https://parenttogether.co.uk

In this celebratory episode of the Living Aware Parenting Podcast, I'm joined by Linde Lambrechts, a psychologist, psychotherapist, and Aware Parenting mentor.

We discuss the profound impact Aware Parenting has had on our lives and work, especially in transforming our perspective from one of pathology to one of compassion.

Linde shares powerful stories about how this approach has changed her parenting, including a moving experience with her son.

She also explores the broader implications of Aware Parenting principles for future generations and the sense of hope they bring.

Join us for an inspiring conversation filled with deep insights and practical wisdom.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

01:17 The Impact of Aware Parenting

04:34 Linde's Personal Transformation Through Aware Parenting

05:36 Looking Behind the Behaviour with Aware Parenting

10:32 Practical Applications and Real-Life Examples

18:11 Children's Unique Expressions and Growth

26:25 A Turning Point

28:11 Emotional Release and Healing

29:53 Linde Reflects on Parenting Challenges

32:52 Core Principles of Aware Parenting

36:50 Linde's Personal Journey and Vision

44:16 Gratitude and Future Aspirations

About Linde:

Linde has a Psychology and psychotherapy degree.

She is passionate about walking mothers home to theirselves so that their kids never need to abandon themselves!

Website: https://www.lindelambrechts.be

Instagram: @lovinglimits

YouTube: https://youtube.com/@lindelambrechts?si=5EeuEvf4pCDYjW_C

You can find out more about Aletha Solter and Aware Parenting at The Aware Parenting Institute website: https://awareparenting.com/

In this episode of the Living Aware Parenting Podcast, I'm celebrating Aletha Solter's 80th birthday with my dear friend and colleague, Nic Wilson, who is an Aware Parenting instructor and Marion Method Mentor.

We delve into Nic's journey with Aware Parenting and how it transformed her life from challenges with sleep and feeling exhausted to finding deep connection as well as sleep.

Nic shares moving stories, including pivotal moments that highlight the effects of Aware Parenting, not only on her relationship with her daughter, but on her overall perception of human relationships.

Join us as we discuss the profound changes and ongoing gifts of this compassionate approach to parenting.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:20 Expressing Gratitude to Aletha

00:51 Nic's Journey with Aware Parenting

02:13 Challenges and Breakthroughs

06:40 Pivotal Moments in Parenting

12:34 Impact of Aware Parenting on Relationships

17:11 Compassion and Empathy in Parenting

21:24 Empathy and Compassion in Children

23:44 The Ripple Effect of Parenting

24:45 The Third Way of Parenting

26:34 The Power of Attachment Play

28:44 The Joy of Parenting

32:25 The Future of Aware Parenting

37:46 Gratitude and Reflections

You can find out more about Aletha Solter and Aware Parenting at The Aware Parenting Institute website: https://awareparenting.com/

You can find out more about Nic and her work here:

Instagram: @peacefulparenting

Website: https://www.peacefulparenting.com.au/

Welcome to the Living Aware Parenting Podcast!

I'm Marion Rose, and I'm recording this special series in celebration of Aletha Solter's 80th birthday.

In this episode, I reflect on how Aware Parenting has profoundly impacted my life and the lives of my children.

I share deeply some of my own stories about the transformation we experienced through the practice.

I also discuss the beautiful teachings and qualities of Aletha Solter that have influenced me as well as many others around the world.

Join me as we delve into these insights and express immense gratitude towards Aletha for her powerful and revolutionary work.

00:00 Welcome to the Living Aware Parenting Podcast

00:15 Celebrating Aletha's 80th Birthday

03:30 The Effects of Aware Parenting

05:51 Challenges and Realisations

10:17 The Power of Community

13:25 Influence of Aletha's Work

16:43 Qualities of Aletha Solter

19:33 Stories of Presence and Connection

25:09 Ahead of Its Time

27:59 Personal Reflections and Gratitude

39:34 Final Thoughts and Resources

You can find out more about Aletha Solter and Aware Parenting at The Aware Parenting Institute website: https://awareparenting.com/

Marion Rose’s books: https://marionrose.net/books/

My Free PDFs & Online Courses: https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-courses/

Sign up for my newsletters: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list

1:1 Mentoring with me: https://marionrose.net/mentoring/

Here are my Instagram pages:

Podcast: http://instagram.com/thelivingawareparentingpodcast

Aware Parenting: https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/

Aware Parenting and The Marion Method: https://www.instagram.com/marion_rose/

My Personal Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/marion.badenoch

In the Living Aware Parenting Podcast, I share about Aware Parenting by Aletha Solter, PhD, to support parents to understand the philosophy, practices, and embodiment of this groundbreaking and life-changing approach.

In this episode, I delve into the distinctions between Aware Parenting, created by Aletha Solter PhD, and the Marion Method, which incorporates additional elements and nuances from my own journey.

I clarify terminology specific to Aware Parenting and then to the Marion Method, to maintain accuracy and integrity in the teachings of each.

This episode highlights the importance of deep self-compassion in the learning journey, including about terminology.

00:00 Introduction to the Living Aware Parenting Podcast

01:19 My Personal Journey and the Evolution of Aware Parenting

05:27 The Marion Method and Aware Parenting

07:24 Clarifying Terms and Concepts

13:24 Acknowledgments and Final Thoughts

16:53 Resources and Closing Remarks

Thank you so much for listening to this episode. I'm so willing for you to have found it helpful.

If you'd like further resources, here's a summary of the details.

Here's the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LivingAwareParentingPodcast

As of November 2025, Aletha Solter, PhD. has seven published books, which you can find on her website, https://www.awareparenting.com/books.htm

As of November 2025, I have four solo published books for parents, and two for children, with more coming soon. You can find out more on my website, https://marionrose.net/books/

You can find my Aware Parenting free PDFs and online courses here: https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-courses/

You can sign up for my newsletters here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list

I offer 1:1 mentoring. Details are here: https://marionrose.net/mentoring/

Here are my Instagram pages:

Podcast: http://instagram.com/thelivingawareparentingpodcast

Aware Parenting: https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/

Aware Parenting and The Marion Method: https://www.instagram.com/marion_rose/

My Facebook personal page: https://www.facebook.com/marion.badenoch

Here are all the Aware Parenting instructors in my region: https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-instructors-in-australia-and-new-zealand/

Here's how to become an Aware Parenting instructor in my region:

https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-certification/

I do have another podcast, The Marion Rose Podcast, where I talk about all my other interests and offerings. It includes The Marion Method work, which consists of reparenting, as well as what I call recultuiring: reclaiming our yeses and noes, getting free from Disconnected Domination Culture conditioning such as guilt and coercion, and lots more.

You can find The Marion Rose Podcast on all the usual podcast platforms, and on YouTube, here:

https://www.youtube.com/@TheMarionRosePodcast

See you in the next episode!

Love,

Marion

xoxo

In the Living Aware Parenting Podcast, I share about Aware Parenting by Aletha Solter, PhD, to support parents to understand the philosophy, practices, and embodiment of this groundbreaking and life-changing approach.

In this episode, I share some of the parts of Aware Parenting that are forefront of my consciousness at the moment.

I emphasise deep understanding of what babies and children need for optimal development, and how Aware Parenting helps us understand cultural beliefs about babies and children.

I also talk about how children are never "bad".

I share about how surprised most parents are about how natural it is for babies and children to have a huge amount of painful feelings, even if we do everything we can to meet their needs.

00:00 Introduction to Aware Parenting

01:20 Personal Insights and Current Focus

03:09 Understanding Children's Needs and Behaviours

04:22 The Importance of Connection

06:08 Healing and Emotional Expression

11:15 Summary and Final Thoughts

11:49 Additional Resources and Offerings

Thank you so much for listening to this episode. I'm so willing for you to have found it helpful.

If you'd like further resources, here's a summary of the details.

Here's the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LivingAwareParentingPodcast

As of November 2025, Aletha Solter, PhD. has seven published books, which you can find on her website, https://www.awareparenting.com/books.htm

As of November 2025, I have four solo published books for parents, and two for children, with more coming soon. You can find out more on my website, https://marionrose.net/books/

You can find my Aware Parenting free PDFs and online courses here: https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-courses/

You can sign up for my newsletters here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list

I offer 1:1 mentoring. Details are here: https://marionrose.net/mentoring/

Here are my Instagram pages:

Podcast: http://instagram.com/thelivingawareparentingpodcast

Aware Parenting: https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/

Aware Parenting and The Marion Method: https://www.instagram.com/marion_rose/

My Facebook personal page: https://www.facebook.com/marion.badenoch

Here are all the Aware Parenting instructors in my region: https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-instructors-in-australia-and-new-zealand/

Here's how to become an Aware Parenting instructor in my region:

https://marionrose.net/aware-parenting-certification/

I do have another podcast, The Marion Rose Podcast, where I talk about all my other interests and offerings. It includes The Marion Method work, which consists of reparenting, as well as what I call recultuiring: reclaiming our yeses and noes, getting free from Disconnected Domination Culture conditioning such as guilt and coercion, and lots more.

You can find The Marion Rose Podcast on all the usual podcast platforms, and on YouTube, here:

https://www.youtube.com/@TheMarionRosePodcast

See you in the next episode!

Love,

Marion

xoxo