Part 1 on a 4 part series on deciding "It's OK for people to be wrong about me."  Sometimes we have a massive craving to explain ourselves.  To explain why life is more difficult for us, to explain why it's not fair to judge based on our current performance, to explain why even if we just do the minimum, everyone should be impressed.  Why do we do that?  ...and more importantly, how do we snap out of it?

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There's something about standing on a trail and looking ahead at a cliff that is 2000 feet high.  You can't see where the trail goes, the cliff looks impossible to climb, and you can't see how the trail will get you up there ...but you continue to walk and your perspective begins to change.  There are a lot of lessons learned in the mountains that can help us climb the mountains in our lives back home.  Jason, Renee, Gary, Jen, Whitney, and Jake want to share their Lessons from Langley

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The 4th or our 4 part series on stopping that negative self-talk.  In this episode, Whitney and I share stories of people who are doing it right.  YES - you read that right, WHITNEY makes a voice appearance on this one. You'll also learn one more tool to become the master of your own self talk.

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I have heard this expression from coaches all my life ..."Take pride in the process"  It is the antidote for "should" because it allows you to be where you are on your personal journey instead of worrying about your progress.  When you pride yourself on your willingness to take the next step in the moments when its most difficult, then the difficult moments take on a whole new meaning.  They become just another opportunity to show your strength.

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We've all tried to think positively.  We KNOW it's not good to think negatively about that bad thing that just happened, so we decide to think positively about it.  We try to convince ourselves that we're happy about something negative ...it doesn't work.  Let's talk about a POWERFUL difference - it was never a "bad" thing that happened in the first place.  That one awareness is key that unlocks powerful thinking.

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Isn't it cool how "bandwagon fan" is a negative term - we literally discourage becoming a fan of teams because they've been successful.  What if we could apply the same logic to ourselves - "Oh you like me now that I've accomplished my goals - well you're not a "real" fan because I've been faithfully rooting for myself since the 80's when I was losing at everything."  Probably sounds pretty foreign, but why?  Let's find out in our next four part series on stopping that negative self-talk.

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What if you thought you were just going to spend one night away from home, so you packed a little stuff and left ...then never saw anything you owned again?  Matt and Nikki lived is and instead of beating them down, it is making them strong.  Check out their story as we wrap up our series on emotional adulthood.

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In Part 3 of our 4 part series about Emotional Adulthood and taking responsibility no matter what.  There are some pretty natural questions that come up:

• If I take responsibility when the other person was in the wrong doesn't that let THEM off the hook? 
• Doesn't it prevent me from teaching them a lesson? 
• Doesn't it prevent justice? 
• Won't it make it seem like I think what they did is OK? 

Basically - NO ...because it's not about them, its about YOU!

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"Adulting" is hard - so why on earth would we WANT to do it?  When someone wrongs me it feels good to blame them.  I feel justified when I "make them pay."  It's comfortable to know that THEY are the ones to blame and I am the innocent victim ...but what is that comfort causing me to miss out on?

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"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." - Viktor E. Frankl

Viktor Frankl is the proof that sometimes our circumstances are so extreme that the only thing we can do is endure them, but when we choose to show up the right way, we can still achieve fulfillment.  Our experience of our life does not come from the events, but from how we respond to those events.  In this episode, we begin to unpack the incredible power of our response. Find out how to know when you're doing it well.

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