Have you ever grown up struggling in a negative environment or household and told yourself you’d never live like them so you created—or have to tried to create a better life for yourself but every time you’re around them you constantly feel triggered or like an imposter? It’s like you have done so much work to create a better more positive life for yourself where you’re either super balanced, financially stable, successful in your career or thriving in your marriage but when you go home to visit your family for the holidays or in general— you suddenly start noticing that you’re acting like your old self again or like you used to when you lived there. You may start acting out like a teenager or resorting back to your old ways. You may notice you are getting more emotionally reactive, tense or angry and maybe you don’t even feel like that successful, intelligent, confident person you’ve tried to create after all. In this episode, I dive into why this happens and how to become more aware and in control of our own sense of self and emotional state around them. By increasing our differentiation (this concept is explained in the episode), we will be able to have better relationships without becoming so emotionally reactive to loved ones who may trigger us. Sometimes we might not have to immediately cut off family members entirely... but instead find ways to protect our emotions and set healthy boundaries (unless of course it’s completely necessary if they are extremely verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive). Either way— cutting someone off comes with emotional consequences that must be dealt with because if they aren’t— they will lead to resentment, anger and pride issues down the road whether you decide to talk to that person ever again or not. This Holiday season I hope you can go home and find hope and healing instead of hopelessness and hostility. Happy Holidays! Disclaimer: This episode is inspired by the work of Murray Bowen who developed Bowen Intergenerational Therapy in 1985 and quoted from the book, Theory and Treatment Planning in Family Therapy by Diane Gehart

On this episode, I wanted to share my heart with you all as a reminder not to lose yourself chasing after and creating this idea of a distorted, unhealthy version of your reality based on social media/comparison instead of working to love and accept your actual reality now. If you aren’t happy with your actual reality now and you continue to chase after the “potential” of what it could be—make sure you’re not compromising your own values in the process. I challenge you to ask yourselves the questions— Who are you actually living for? Is it for yourself or others? Is it out of greed? Is it for an audience? If it’s for an audience—will all of those people actually be there in the crowd rooting for you when you fail or are they just there to spectate? It’s been a harsh reality I have had to face and I hope that my vulnerability and truth can help one of you if you’ve ever struggled with this. It doesn’t matter who you are, how rich you are or how famous you are... if you struggle with anxiety, depression or wounds you have not yet healed they can catch up to you and you could end up “losing your soul” also. Tune into this episode to understand what I mean by that! Song: Lose My Soul by TobyMac ft. Kirk Franklin & Mandisa

In this episode, we are not talking about y = mx + b here. We are instead talking about “y” and how you can increase sexual intercourse in your own relationship (also disclaimer: I am not guaranteeing anything here). I will provide you guys with two sexual equations. The first equation may help increase sexual temptation and intercourse and the second equation focuses on the “silent killers” of what may easily decrease sexual intercourse. They are generic equations that I have come up based on knowledge, research and the Gottman love languages. Again, they may not be for everyone, so feel free to come up with your own with your partner if not. I also hit on the topic of Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) which is very common and if you have been a victim of IPV or are experiencing it right now in your own relationship, this episode may be triggering so please REACH OUT for help. I hope you guys enjoy! Now... if you’re ready to dive in and find solutions to some of your own “problems” or equations in your sexual relationship...go ahead and tune in now! 💗 Resources: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepartnerviolence/fastfact.html https://www.gottman.com/blog/learn-speak-partners-love-languages/ Music: DriftMaster by Shane Ivers - https://www.silvermansound.com

In this episode, I wanted to shed some light on this idea that many of us still have about “fairytales” and happily ever afters when it comes to ourselves, finding a partner or in our own relationships. Many of us have grown up watching A Cinderella Story, Sleeping Beauty, or The Little Mermaid, where we may have adopted the belief that we need to find someone who who will save us when realistically we could actually save ourselves and turn out to be our own hero. Instead of striving for the happily ever after we can strive for a happily ever effort whether that’s in our relationships or with ourselves. If you’re ready to dive into this topic and hear more tune in now ♥️ Music: DriftMaster by Shane Ivers - https://www.silvermansound.com

If you are wondering whether or not you should commit to your partner or try and figure out if they are truly the one for you—this episode may be for you. The point of this episode is to strictly look deeper into yourself and your relationship if you have been feeling stuck lately. It is also to help you understand that every partner will come into the relationship with their own baggage but it’s about figuring out how to work on your own while also helping your partner lessen the load of theirs. The true question for you to explore here is whether or not you think your partner is truly worth the weight. Music: DriftMaster by Shane Ivers - https://www.silvermansound.com

In this episode, we explore how our partner’s needs may look a little different but instead of focusing on communicating those needs to each other, sometimes we end up blaming it on a symptom instead...which in this case was zucchini boats. It is a personal but laughable story that will help you understand how one small event can easily get blown out of proportion. And let me just tell you, if someone ever tells you they broke up over zucchini boats...it probably wasn’t the zucchini boats. To understand what I mean...tune in now 💗 Music: DriftMaster by Shane Ivers - https://www.silvermansound.com

This episode is about how to find ways to quarantine with love, positivity, and kindness either with your partner, spouse, or children. I provide tips and ideas to help you and your partner stay in tune with each other, spice things up, or even stay balanced. There are also some helpful tips for couples with children including a guided imagery meditation at the end which will help them establish their “safe/calm place” in their minds since nowhere may feel safe in the world right now. I am sending all my love and prayers to everyone during this time. I believe with quarantine comes creativity and I respect everyone out their who is using their platforms for the good right now.

On today’s episode of “Single and Getting Serious About the Mingle,” I’m going to be introducing you to 3 different women of different ages, generations, and stages of life to talk about what the dating life is currently like with specific topics including dating apps/websites they are on, what the rules are in their stage, struggles they have or have not overcome dating, setbacks that may contribute to them being single, influence/pressure from seeing others in their stage married, engaged, or with children, current expectations they have for their future partner or themselves, and any advice they can share for others! The point of this podcast is to have a better understanding of what the crazy dating life looks like while also keeping it real and fun! Disclaimer: this episode does have occasional profanity and vulgarity but it just gives you a taste of what some single women are really thinking out there! So if it’s not your cup of tea please don’t listen. By the way, if you’re interested in any of these beautiful women let me know hehe and no we do not sponsor Taco Bell so I’m not sure why we kept using that place as an example 😂

This podcast will be a little different since I will be reading an excerpt I wrote several years ago on the topic of infidelity. As you are listening, I want to remind you all that as humans we make mistakes sometimes and there can be hope in repairing marriages and relationships afterwards, but there are many factors that play into that which will have to wait for a whole other podcast. However, this one highlights the true impact of some symptoms or effects you or your partner may be experiencing if one has engaged in infidelity to become more aware and shed some light, give clarity, or help you feel like you are not alone. If you are also experiencing intimate partner violence or domestic abuse please reach out to any of the following resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1(800) 799-7233 Tri-County Crisis Services: (800) 659-6994 Montgomery County Women’s Center: (936) 441-7273 Montgomery County Youth Services: (888) 756-8682 Suicide Hotline: (713) 970-7000 CHI St. Luke’s Hospital: The Woodlands: (936) 266-2000 Memorial Herman Hospital: The Woodlands: (713) 897-2300 Methodist Hospital: The Woodlands: (713) 790-3333

This podcast is dedicated to all my people pleasers, caretakers, and empathetic souls. Taking care of others and pleasing everyone else constantly can get exhausting so who is actually taking care of you? If that is a hard question to answer, this may be the episode to listen to. Sure some of us may have partners, but what if they can’t be the ones to take care of our every single need? This podcast is all about diving into the importance of our own personal self-care this season.