"Never Be Defined By Your Past, It Was a Lesson, Not a Life Sentence" - unknown Do you find it hard to just "move on" from your past or feel your trauma from the past is affecting your professional and personal life?

In this season finale episode I speak with Landis Graden. Landis is an entrepreneur, father, and author of the memoir “Bent Not Broken” in which he uses his own stories of hardships and battles to encourage all people, but particularly men who have fallen victim to “strong stereotyping” to lean into the idea of vulnerability and continuous healing.

We all have a past and you are more than what you've gone through. It doesn't have to define who you are in your future. Through his incredible journey, Landis shares how we can overcome the impact of childhood traumas, re-learn to love ourselves, and stop relying on external validation. He also provides valuable advice on how to break free of the false facades we carry and effectively use therapy as a tool to embrace your true self.

More about Landis: Landis Graden is a successful entrepreneur, author, father, and Founder of DCG Strategies, Inc that focuses exclusively on providing real estate consulting and development solutions for community-benefit organizations such as faith-based entities, public-school districts and non-profits. Landis also sits on the board of Covenant House CA and Oakland Exchange.  Show Links: https://landisgraden.com/   IG @ landisgraden 

“All battles are first won or lost, in the mind” - Joan of Arc Do you find it hard to change your mindset or struggle with inner thoughts that are holding your back? In this episode we speak with educator, coach, consultant, and owner of Avra Coaching Sara Mirza. Sara shares her journey in going from working in corporate HR to starting her own coaching practice including the obstacles she had to overcome. She explains why it can be hard to let go of limiting beliefs and offers tips on how to stop letting your inner thoughts hold you back. Sara also shares insights regarding how to ignite your “lost” passion and start owning your greatness.

More about Sara Mirza: With over a decade of experience in HR, Higher Ed, and Coaching, previously leading HR and People & Culture functions in various organizations across different sectors, in 2024 Sara launched her own coaching & consulting business Avra Coaching.  As a Gallup certified Strengths Coach, Enneagram Accredited Practitioner, Designing Your Life coach, and trained Hypnotherapist, Sara incorporates the use of these tools to help her clients become more aware of their natural talents, enhance employee/team engagement, navigate change management, and design their lives and careers with more intentionality, mindfulness, and alignment. In addition to her work as a Coach and Consultant to individuals, teams, and organizations, Sara serves as a Psychology Instructor as she holds a BA and MA in Psychology. Show Links: https://avracoaching.com/ IG @ avra.coaching

In this episode I speak with certified sex addiction therapist and certified clinical partner specialist Bill Herring LCSW, CSAT.

Bill offers insights regarding whether sex addiction is real or an excuse for bad behavior. We discuss the Problematic Sexual Behavior (PSB) framework he created. He also explains the damaging impacts of betrayal trauma on a partner and recovery from infidelity including deciding whether to stay or move on.  

Bill also discusses how a person can take accountability for their deceptive sexual behavior and work to heal the pain it has brought to themselves and others. 

More about Bill Herring: Bill’s mission is to help people make sense of their destructive sexual behavior including chronic infidelity, porn struggles and sex addiction and develop the tools and skills to improve their lives and heal their relationships. Additionally Bill is deeply committed to helping partners of chronic sexual betrayal heal their lives from the pain of complex betrayal trauma. Show Links: www.billherring.com

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“The greatest battle we face as human beings is the battle to protect our true selves from the self the world wants us to become.” - E.E Cummings

As shared by writer & speaker Jonathon Seidl, the truth is that we all wear masks. We pretend. We fake it. We try to be someone or something we’re not. Or we hide. We’re ashamed to reveal our true selves, our true identity because we don’t think we’ll be accepted. We want to be loved for who we are, but we tell ourselves that “who we are” isn’t what others want to see.

In this episode I discuss the masks we sometimes wear to help us navigate through life. While it might serve a survival purpose in the short-term, long-term we lose ourselves in the process of trying to please others. I also share personal insights regarding how to remove your masks and live your authentic life.

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“No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again.” Buddha

There comes a time in all our lives where we feel like we need a fresh start or life creates one for us. Whether that be a job, relationship, finances, wellness habits, or other situation. In this Season 9 kickoff episode we discuss the benefits of creating a fresh start and I explain why starting over is not a setback.

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“It takes a dream to get started, desire to keep. It takes a dream to get started, desire to keep going, and determination to finish.” Eddie Harris

In this season finale episode we’ll reflect on this season’s guests and discuss why your past or current limiting beliefs do not have to determine your future. 

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In this episode I discuss ways to embrace change and transition and how learning to simplify can elevate the quality of your inner (and outer) life.

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Book - Inner Simplicity by Elaine St. James

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“Life is lived in time. Therefore he who wastes time, wastes life.”  -  Vincent Okay Nwachukwu

Do you ever get the feeling that you should be doing more or that you’ve fallen into the trap of living someone else's life—chasing the wrong goals or dreams of others?

In this episode I speak with Best-seller author, writer, coach, and Tedx speaker Ayodeji “Ayo” Awosika. Ayo shares his reinvention journey of  going from being broke with $147 in his bank account to making over $1,000,000 with his online business.

Ayo provides honest insights regarding the cost of procrastination and how to overcome the regrets of wasted time.  He also offers some valuable business advice to creators regarding embracing rejection, selling your services, and ensuring you’re not quitting too soon. 

More about Ayo:

Ayodeji “Ayo” Awosika. Ayo is a three-time best-selling author, one of the top writers on Medium with 106K followers on Medium, TEDx speaker, and writing coach.

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In this episode I speak with Julie Randall. Julie is a coach, speaker, and best-selling author of the memoir Patient 71 which is the powerful story of a mother and wife who simply refused to take no for an answer when faced with a  life changing cancer diagnosis at the age of 50. Julie shares her incredible story including how we can learn to discover our inner strength and find hope in the face of adversity. She provides valuable advice regarding how to support someone going through a difficult time. Julie also explains why you’re never too old to reinvent yourself and start living life to the fullest.

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https://julierandall.com.au/ 

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“If your identity is broken, your life is broken.” - Mike Foster 

If you’re tired of feeling unfulfilled or lost in the direction you’re going, self-discovery can be the key step to reimaging your life.

In this episode I speak with Wellness Program Director for Create The Space and Founder of Barbershop Yoga Rondy Isaac. Rondy is a certified Yoga Instructor and co-Leader of Black to Yoga, and trauma-based yoga trainer with the Art of Yoga Project.

Rondy shares his journey into adulthood including how the practice of yoga served as a path to self-discovery & achieving clarity in life. Rondy explains the transformative benefits of yoga beyond the physical and why more men should do it.

We discuss why some men struggle in their maturation journey and how men can learn to drop the mask and become comfortable in their own skin.  Rondy also discusses the power of community support in healing.

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