Loss is not easy for anyone to face. But when the enemy has attached a stigma to our suffering, the pain intensifies because this adds shame to our loss.

Satan will tell us such lies as:

It’s not ok, to not be okay

You should just get over this, you are not strong in your faith.

This is all your fault.

God must be really disappointed in you.

But by embracing our emotions and seeking God, we can navigate through our loss with courage and resilience. Even in the darkest moments, there is beauty waiting to be born.

Every goodbye paves the way for a fresh start, a new chapter filled with possibilities and growth.

In today’s teaching message navigating through spiritual pain to heal from shame.

ONWARD,

Aliene

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You cannot simultaneously harbor self-hatred and genuine love for others and God.

When we harbor feelings of shame, it can be challenging to fully embrace love for others and for God. By confronting shame, we create space in our hearts to authentically love and connect with others. 

Just like heavy rocks buried beneath the surface of the soil, shame acts as an unseen barrier that hinders our roots from fully experiencing the depths of God’s love, so we can bloom and bring a harvest to others. 

“Consider how the wild flowers grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these.” Luke 12:27

Wildflowers confidently confront stones in their way because they know it is all a part of growth. They bloom fearlessly amidst the challenges, embracing each obstacle as an opportunity to strengthen their roots and reach for the sky.

Wildflowers dance in the wind, their vibrant colors a testament to resilience and beauty in the face of adversity. Like these courageous blooms, let us too face our shame confidently with biblical truth head-on, knowing that with each hurdle we overcome, we grow stronger and more radiant. 

In today’s teaching message, find biblical principles to confront shame and find strength to bloom.

ONWARD,

Aliene

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Shame is a powerful, painful emotion. Giving rise to a relentless inner critic, shame speaks lies which make it hard to see God’s truth about who we really are.

Our natural instinct is to fight back, relying on our own strength to overcome shame and emerge victorious. We keep pushing, and initially, we may triumph.

However, like a persistent opponent, the inner critic grows louder and that unyielding inner critic makes a comeback.

The truth is, addressing shame without God leads to its multiplication. My codependency set up expectations that resulted in condemnation. Living by my list created a sense of continual failure and inadequacy, breeding more shame. My list-style living extended to relationships, as I felt obligated to meet perceived expectations. 

Trying to resolve shame without God only reinforces it, leading to worry, unbelief, and fear.

Throughout history, self-reliance in combating shame has been prevalent. Just as Adam and Eve tried to cover their shame with fig leaves, humanity has long sought to mask shame independently from God.

BUT GOD! 

Aren’t you so glad Jesus came to take your fig leaves and give you freedom instead? 

In today’s message step into the light, shed those fig leaves and prepare to step into deeper levels of freedom from shame. It’s time for you to shine!

ONWARD,

Aliene

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You deserve to live a life free from shame. Yes, you do!

Shame can obstruct God’s cure for codependency. By addressing shame, you can conquer codependency, trust in God, and embrace true freedom.

For these reasons, Treasured Ministries will be kicking off a teaching series this summer called So Long Shame!, so that every woman can discover how to release shame, God’s Way. Subscribe to our YouTube Channel or Podcast for faith-filled teaching messages to confront the three primary lies that breed shame with Biblical truth.

It’s time to say So Long to Shame!

To get the most out of the So Long Shame! series, become a Treasured Tribe Member. There, you will gain access to corresponding materials for each teaching message. 

In the Tribe, the So Long Shame! Bible study, worksheets, exercises, listening guides, and all teaching messages are housed in one place for easy access to equip you with God’s timeless tools to bid farewell to shame, God’s way, and flourish.

Shame is not a weight that God is asking you to carry. Release that heavy weight this summer and find courage to bloom!

In today’s teaching message discover the three main lies that breed shame.

Let’s do this!

Aliene

To watch this week’s teaching message, click HERE.

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Is your heart thirsty for more?

Today, Lord, I exchange idols for intimacy,
codependency for God dependency,
seeking fulfillment my way for seeking you.
In this divine exchange, I find fulfillment and freedom as you’ve intended.

Codependency, a confusing and exhausting state, ensnares us when we place people at the center of our lives instead of God. In his sneaky ways, the enemy drains us by redirecting our efforts.

We find ourselves cradling the idolatry of others, constantly helping and rescuing, yet never fully quenching our thirst. This perpetual chase creates unhealthy cycles, leading us into bondage instead of God’s freedom, leaving us utterly exhausted.

When we change the rudder of our hearts through our choice to put God first – when we make it a lifestyle declaration – everything changes. Remember, we are all designed to serve something or someone. God wired our hearts this way to lead us to Him.

So, why not choose to serve God with joy? He delights in giving us abundant life.

Serving people, things, or even ourselves will always leave us wanting more. Serving God brings true fulfillment. (Deuteronomy 28:47-48)

It is a daily walk of God dependency that leads us to freedom!

Codependency is not a problem to be solved, but a lifestyle to be replaced with daily God dependency. The antidote for codependency is nourishing your soul daily with God’s spoken Word.

This is why we equip women with the Nourish Bible Study Method in the Treasured Tribe – so they can exchange codependency for God dependency and thrive. 

 “Man does not live by bread alone but by every Word that comes from the mouth of God.”
– Matthew 4:4

As Paul David Tripp wisely said, “God uses a picture of physical food to point us to universal, spiritual hunger. Life is all about what we look to fill us”

In today’s message, discover the motivator to turn your heart’s rudder, to seek God first and satisfy your soul. 

ONWARD!

Aliene

To watch today’s teaching message, click HERE.

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In past podcasts, I’ve discussed boundaries as beneficial to put God first. But have you ever thought about how boundaries prevent others from trying to make YOU their god? 

Relationships can contain a hidden, unhealthy power struggle, producing unhealthy worship on both ends. 

Walking on eggshells to keep abuse at bay, prevent rejection, or maintain the peace, has the potential to position YOU as their god – holding you responsible for their emotions, actions, and comfort. 

Falsely believing you must never let others down by always being there for them, rescuing or fixing them, steps into God’s shoes. 

Has someone blamed you for their ugly words or actions towards you? Did you shoulder unnecessary shame because you mistakenly thought it was your responsibility? 

While we can appreciate and admire, only the Almighty is worthy of worship.

This spiritual boundary set by God is a vital reason to set boundaries with others. When you don’t communicate limits, others could see you as limitless and lean on you in a way that only God is worthy to bear. 

In today’s teaching message, we are diving into how the blood of Jesus provides spiritual boundaries, inviting us to trust God and lead others to do the same.

ONWARD!

Aliene

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God is NOT calling you to be a doormat. 

In a perfect world, people respect boundaries. But we all know that life doesn’t work out neat and tidy. 

People are messy.

Just because we set a boundary does not necessarily mean people will respect that boundary. 

Boundary pushers show up in different ways. They display traits like narcissism, immaturity, entitlement, selfishness, privilege, desperation, cluelessness, or a toxic mix of any of these. 

For the love of Pete! These people pursue their desires regardless of your boundaries, often disregarding them completely!

Has someone blown off a boundary you set and you’re looking for how to navigate the situation with wisdom?  In today’s teaching message, discover Biblical strategies to deal with boundary disrespect, God’s Way. 

Much Love,

Aliene

To watch today’s teaching message, click HERE.

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You know I am your biggest cheerleader when it comes to setting boundaries. YOU GO GIRL! 

But… have you ever taken a courageous step to set boundaries and experienced frustration instead of freedom, leading to these doubtful thoughts? 

Now, hear this brave soul. Your desire to protect your heart, mind, body, time, and other sacred trusts from the Lord is NOT selfish, wrong, or shameful. 

Sometimes when we set boundaries, the right motive is combined with the wrong methodology, and we wind up wounded instead of free.

The real peace your heart craves comes from setting boundaries, God’s way. 

In our teaching message today, discover and gain the skills you need to set boundaries God’s way and live in freedom as he intended.

ONWARD!

Aliene

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Saying “no” carries its difficulties for everyone.

If you are a codependent, then saying no is especially challenging.

Codependency causes you to become externally referenced, meaning that you look to outside sources to navigate life, find your identity and validate your worth. Seeking this outside input causes a lot of static that can distract you from the Holy Spirit’s leading in your life.

These distractions are like waves that turn your eyes away from the Way Maker. 

Idolatry creates indecision that can impact your confidence to set boundaries. 

The enemy will use your idolatry of man to create confusion and doubt with these racing thoughts…  

Are you sinking in thinking instead of soaring by putting God first? 

God wants to be first in your life. The real you will SHINE out of that relationship!

In today’s teaching message, discover how idolatry brings indecision. Intimacy with God brings confidence in EVERY area of your life, including your confidence to say “no”, so you can put God first! 

It’s time to put God back in the center and live with the joy that flows from putting Him first and becoming who He created you to be. 

ONWARD!

Aliene

To watch today’s teaching message, click HERE.

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You matter. Your life matters.

And when you own that truth, you can live treasured and walk in the light, to be a light, so that others can live cherished too (Exodus 19:4-5, Peter 2:9).  

God has a perfect boundary system designed to protect what is precious to his heart and this includes YOU! But what is precious to God, Satan loves to attack with his destructive lies.

Do you ever hear thoughts like: 

I have heard all of these lies…and they reinforced my codependency!  Why would I want to depend on God if I believed these lies deep in my heart?  

When I started spending time in God’s Word for myself, I saw everything differently….. because I was looking through the lens of truth with eyes of faith. Here’s what the Holy Spirit has written and sealed so strongly in my heart is that I can live in confidence, security and best of all GOD-DEPENDENCY!

God’s boundary system puts me in the security of his care and protection but most of all, it LIBERATES me to live a fulfilled life and become the woman he created me to be. 

Do you want to live in this freedom too?  

Listen to today’s teaching message and open the gift of God’s boundary system to live in freedom as God intended.

ONWARD!

Aliene

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