Liz Yaps

In this episode, we’re breaking down the pervasive issue of online abuse within religious and post-religious spaces—specifically targeting Muslim women. From Dawah bros and "unpaid security guards of the patriarchy" to digital gang stalking, DARVO, dog-whistling, and honor-based cyber violence, we examine how religious texts are weaponized and how abusers exploit public humiliation for clout and control.

Plus, my proposal for a collective legal fund and professional network to help women protect themselves against online harassment, slander, and doxxing.

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In this episode, I’m tackling one of the biggest talking points thrown around in dawah spaces: the claim that "Islam gave women the right to divorce 1,400 years ago." But is conditional permission really a "right" when a man can end a marriage with three words, while a woman has to buy her freedom or prove extreme suffering to a male judge?

I’m breaking down the actual legal mechanics and societal stigmas surrounding divorce—from unilateral talaq and the financial ransom of khul' to court-ordered faskh and post-divorce custody traps. We’re cutting through the apologetic spin to look at the massive power imbalance built into these contracts, why you shouldn't need a catastrophic reason to leave a relationship, and why true autonomy is an inherent human right—not a privilege granted by an institution.

Takeaways

• Divorce is stigmatized in Muslim communities
• Men hold more power in divorce proceedings
• Divorce processes differ significantly between the genders
• Women's rights in divorce are limited

Chapters

• 00:00 Introduction to Feminism in Islam
• 02:43 Divorce in Islamic Context
• 06:26 Stigmatization of Divorce
• 11:51 Secular vs. Religious Divorce
• 13:35 Men's Control Over Divorce
• 22:21 Patriarchal Collusion in Counseling
• 29:18 Hadith and Women's Rights
• 35:31 The Replaceability of Women in Marriage
• 39:15 Divorce in Islam: A Closer Look
• 46:47 The Process of Divorce: Men vs. Women
• 01:03:24 Understanding Khula and Tafwid al Talaq

Wow this was a huge yap session! Today I discuss smear campaigns, the lies spread by Inayah Beldeen's slander, Fatima Begum/Besobeti. We also talk about my brief journey through islam, reclaiming my blackness, and take a peek into the Quran to remind everyone of how to properly find and disseminate information about others. This one is a wild one so buckle up!

Some Key Highlights

• 00:00 Introduction to Cultural Exposures
• 02:19 The Smear Campaign Incident
• 04:31 Understanding Hadith Rejection
• 08:15 The Role of Women in Religious Discourse
• 12:01 Emotional Responses and Racial Dynamics
• 18:08 Discourse vs. Echo Chambers
• 24:00 The Impact of Social Media on Influence
• 25:31 Debating the Hijab's Significance
• 27:12 Community Projection and Emotional Responses
• 28:53 Navigating Identity and Acceptance
• 30:42 Performative Islam vs. Genuine Belief
• 32:32 Critique of Hadith and Scholarly Discourse
• 35:26 Personal Journey and Spiritual Disillusionment
• 39:49 The Role of Discourse in Islam
• 40:11 The Impact of Social Media on Perception
• 42:45 Addressing Personal Attacks and Integrity
• 46:40 Cultural Expectations and Ageism
• 49:57 Body Image and Self-Acceptance
• 53:23 Functional Fitness and Health Goals
• 55:21 Unmasking Online Personas
• 59:05 The Dangers of Doxxing and Stalking
• 01:02:01 The Impact of Honor-Based Violence
• 01:05:41 The Role of Healthcare Professionals in Community Safety
• 01:12:58 Community Responsibility and Women's Safety
• 01:15:10 The Illusion of Feminism in Religious Contexts
• 01:22:02 Empowering Women Against Misogyny
• 01:31:14 Slut Shaming and Its Consequences
• 01:32:14 The Role of Theatrics in Islam
• 01:34:18 The Quran's Warnings Against Misleading Others
• 01:36:30 Gratitude and Its Importance
• 01:39:30 The Dangers of Comparison and Envy
• 01:42:40 Reclaiming Identity and Culture
• 01:48:43 The Journey of Leaving Islam
• 01:51:44 The Impact of Reputation and Slander
• 01:56:25 Taking Action Against Online Harassment

The conversation delves into the complex relationship between religion, particularly Islam, and the entitlement men feel towards women's bodies. It explores how religious texts and teachings contribute to the subjugation of women, the concept of marital rights, and the implications of these beliefs on women's autonomy and rights. The conversation delves into the themes of ownership, sexual relations, and the treatment of women in Islamic texts, highlighting the dichotomy between Muslim and non-Muslim women. It emphasizes the need for deconstructing patriarchal structures within religious contexts to empower women and challenge misogyny.

Chapters

• 00:00 The Entitlement of Men's Bodies in Religion
• 02:57 Islam's Role in Women's Subjugation
• 05:54 Divine Authority and Marital Rights
• 08:46 The Concept of Mehr and Ownership
• 11:59 Marital Rape and Religious Justifications
• 15:12 The Intersection of Religion and Women's Rights
• 18:02 Modern-Day Slavery and Women's Ownership
• 21:21 The Ethics of Slavery in Islam
• 31:46 Exploring Ownership and Sexual Relations
• 34:41 The Role of Women in Islam
• 39:02 Dichotomy of Muslim and Non-Muslim Women
• 46:14 Concubinage and Financial Independence
• 51:29 The Treatment of Women in Islamic Texts
• 01:01:00 Deconstructing Patriarchy and Religion

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"It's kind of chic to never let a man see your body." "Woke up one day and decided to never let a man see my hair again." In this episode of LIZ YAPS, we're discussing the trend where muslim creators rebrand hyper-modesty as a flex. Hosted from an ex-revert perspective, we unpack why slapping an aesthetic onto religious compliance is lowkey a cope sis—and why hiding your body under threat of social and divine pressure can never be "chic." Or can it?