Is checking your partner's phone ever ok?  Should married couples share their location?  Can you have a best friend of the opposite sex when you're married?  When does a friendship cross the line, and what constitutes an emotional affair?  Do you really have to tell your spouse everything?  Is flirting cheating?  So many questions...

Brian and Jamie discuss all these questions, and they believe, it all boils down to trust.  Our culture would have us believe we can't trust anyone anymore.  And yes, our trust has been broken.  Many of us have been victims of betrayal, sometimes in previous relationships, and sometimes by our spouse.  Navigating rebuilding trust can be extremely challenging, and many times, these questions come in to play, especially in light of betrayal wounds.  

Healing is possible, trust is essential, and many of the questions around appropriate boundaries with co-workers and friends become clearer, the more invested you are in your marriage.

We hope you enjoy the roadcast!

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As we settle back in for another season, we wanted to talk about Belief, vs, Hope, specifically, how they differ, but more importantly, how to choose a life of hope, when beliefs (on any topic) might seem less than certain at best, or downright bleak at worst.

Beliefs drive everything in life, and in our marriages.  How we choose to show up, regardless of how our spouse is "treating us," is our choice.  When we learn to "de-personalize" our spouse's sin, (whenever and however they miss the mark), and stay true to ourselves, and our own identity, we are released to be benevolent toward them, giving them the space to soften their hearts on their own.  

And regardless what we believe to be true in our lives, in our marriage, about our kids, our jobs, our faith, or even ourselves, choosing to ACT hopeful, is doing the very thing that Christ meant by "daily carrying our cross."

We hope you enjoy our conversation today!  Welcome back.

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After hearing Tucker Carlson's recent reaction to the statement from Father Stephen De Young that marriages that have been blown up, and almost destroyed, can truly be saved and transformed, Jamie and I wanted to discuss and EMPHASIZE that yes, we see troubled marriages transformed ALL THE TIME!  I've witnessed it, first hand, for 30 years.  That's why we do what we do.  With two willing partners committing to change, doing the hard work, and staying consistent - with the power of God infusing the whole process with the Holy Spirit, we see it - and, in fact, we've lived it!

Today, we discuss what is at the root of many of the eventual bombs that blow up a marriage, and the necessary work to heal previous trauma, and the lies that the wounds bring, before marriage restoration can occur.  And many times, it's not a restoration of the old, but a building of a brand new marriage, on a new foundation with two people that are living in their true identity in Christ, rather than the broken one that life has given them.  

We are here for you, no matter what state you find yourself or your relationship in.


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After several recent conversations with young couples about all the uncertainty in today's world, and the sometimes crippling anxiety it produces, Brian and Jamie talk about a mindset shift, and several life hacks that will help mitigate the stress and anxiety, if not totally wipe it out, completely!

Acknowledging that life is hard, and yes, the world is a crazy place - perhaps like never before - Brian and Jamie are choosing to practice another way of thinking, trusting that God really does have their backs, no matter what.

We hope that today's episode encourages you in your struggles, no matter what they are!

We love you and are here for you.


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Happy belated Mother's Day to all you moms!  (And Happy Birthday to Jamie!! 5/11)

In today's abbreviated episode, Brian and Jamie discuss the value in celebrating our loved ones - taking the time and effort to make feel special, those who are special to us!  It doesn't take booking a trip to Greece or Paris (although, 'she' wouldn't mind those at all!), to make your spouse feel seen, appreciated, and loved.

Many of us grew up in homes where we celebrated big - all the things.  And some of us learned that celebrations are for other families.  Many of us shy away from anyone "making a big deal" of us, perhaps fearing that we're not worthy of the fuss.  Wherever you find yourself, it's never too late to add the practice into your life of celebrating those you love - the big stuff, and even the small stuff.  We can never be celebrated too much!

Plan your next celebration today!  In the words of Kook and The Gang, "Celebrate good times, come on!"


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In today's episode, Brian and Jamie discuss the concept of MARGIN in our lives.  They admit to not always having enough, and the battle it is to truly add it into the rhythm of our busy, hectic schedules.  Jamie shares her mental struggle of always feeling like she needs to be "doing something else," robbing her of truly settling in, enjoying whatever activity she's doing in the moment.  She talks about practical ways of "practicing" saying no to the pesky inner voice that is urging her to get on to the next thing, learning the way of valuing what she's chosen to do (or who she's with) enough to stay with it, not feeling pressure or guilt to move.  We hope you can all learn to enjoy life, allowing yourself to be content in the moment, saying no to all the competing voices clamoring for your time and attention, practicing PRESENCE as you build margin into your life.


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It's definitely storm season in North Texas, but it's also potential storm season in your marriage, no matter what season you find yourself in.

In today's episode, Jamie is inspired to talk about the unforeseen storms that crop up, and many times, catastrophically hit out of nowhere in our marriages, and in our lives.  She and Brian discuss the importance of preparing BEFORE the storms hit, as best you can, and then the best way through once they are on your doorstep.  

They give practical tools that helped them when they faced some of the unpredicted storms in their marriage, as well as good advice on how to create safe spaces for everyone in your family to grieve how they need to grieve, and how to honor the different ways we all handle challenging times.

Be listening near the end of the episode for when Jamie gets caught off guard, overwhelmed with emotion as she recalled a memory of a thoughtful friend 27 years ago, and the impact that had, and is obviously, still having on her to this day.  This is a great reminder that Christ doesn't always protect us from the storms, but he wants us to have such a perspective, that we can sleep peacefully in the midst of the worst of them!


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In today's episode, Brian and Jamie share some thoughts about the value of friendship, and having couple friends.  They talk about some very special friendships that they've formed in their lives, and how thankful they are for them.  They challenge us all to be intentional about forming new relationships, stretching beyond our comfort zones, and being the couple to reach out first.  They ecourage meeting in your home - (people really couldn't care less about what it looks like) - heck, meet in the backyard - just get together!  We need each other!

**Info about the marriage workshop that Brian mentioned:
When: Fri and Sat, Apr. 17-18.
Where: Eagle's View Church, 5440 W Bailey Boswell Rd, FW
Registration Link Below:

https://evc.churchcenter.com/registrations/events/3477925


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In this week's episode, Jamie and Brian Good Wedding Friday, Jammin Saturday, Easter Sunday, and Excellent Monday.  They talk about their love for family time, especially when everyone hangs up, and hangs out!!  Jamie talks about her love of hosting family, and the PERFECT day Easter Sunday was.  Brian eventually shifts the conversation to what it means for us that "the tomb is empty."  So, Jesus is Risen - what does that mean for us?  If eternity has already begun, what does a risen, living Jesus mean for our lives right now?  Tune in and hear their answers to these questions, and their challenge to answer them for yourselves.

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When's the last time you read the Ten Commandments?  (Have you seen the movie 100 times like Brian?)  Are you keeping the commandments?  When's the last time you broke one?

In today's episode, Brian and Jamie discuss the ten commandments from the Old Testament (in the Bible), in the context of marriage.  It's a fun episode where Brian reads the commandment, and throws it to Jamie to discuss how that commandment would apply in marriage - not just the ones about marriage (like "thou shall not commit adultery"), but all of them!  

Join the conversation, and make sure and comment if you think of any good examples that they left out.  We always love reading your comments, and so do other listeners.


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