Yeah, that’s tough and I’m not sure there is a single right way to do it. The best person to ask might be Chase Edgar whose wife is a doctor and went back to work.
Annalisa worked some with little ones, but she has been able to work at home with her work, but also working at home with little ones around also means constant distraction. It would be different going to work and also her work schedule would be different (like 3 days per week?)
You’re right that it’s probably best to chat over lunch.
I think historically most women have worked with kids, but also lived in communities where there was lots of help around and usually worked out of home in some way. The 1950s mom at home thing is a really limited experience for most of humanity—but so is working outside the home. I’m not sure we have figured out a better modern alternative yet. My suspicion is that between your parents and some folks at All Souls, you’d have lots of help to draw on.
So I guess I would say that whatever paths are in front of you, there shouldn’t be any guilt tied up with it. Kids are amazingly resilient and you’re just called to figure out the best way forward in the world you were born into and you may find yourself trying different approaches over time. Also, “as your boss” I can promise that we’d do absolutely whatever we needed to do to make your work manageable