The lights get brighter, the music gets softer, families start gathering, and everywhere you look people seem to be holding hands, smiling, or talking about love. And for many of us, that’s when the longing hits the hardest. We want love. We want connection. We want someone to hold us, appreciate us, and choose us. But on her “Bedtime Talk” podcast, Ya Girl Renae shared a truth that hit deep:

Before you ever receive love from another person, you have to know and trust that you are loved by God first. This message is powerful. And for some people, it’s exactly what their heart has been needing to hear.

  Why We Search So Hard for Love During the Holidays The holiday season has a way of magnifying everything—your joy, your memories, and yes, even your loneliness. You start reflecting on who’s missing, who you lost, who walked away, or who never showed up. Social media makes it even harder because you see couples posting pictures, families laughing together, and people opening gifts with big smiles. But God wants you to understand something important: Your value is not measured by who chooses you.

Your worth is not decided by who stays or who leaves.
You are already loved. You were loved first by God. God’s Love Comes Before Any Other Blessing Ya Girl Renae explained it beautifully:
Before God gives you a spouse, a relationship, a blessing, a friendship, a new opportunity, or anything valuable — He wants you grounded in His love first. Why?
Because if you don’t know who you are in God…
If you don’t know how loved you already are…

If you don’t understand your value… Then you will attach your heart to anybody who shows you a little attention.
You’ll settle for relationships that drain you.
You’ll stay in situations where you’re tolerated, not valued.

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