This is the most challenging and important episode that I've done so far. What is unique about this episode is the way it deals with conflict. Sometimes, among my friends, there is a tendency to 'cancel' people for crossing boundaries. The person who I interviewed, Ralph, crossed a very sensitive boundary in the interview; I was made to feel silenced on the topics of Colonialism and Race. However, instead of this becoming a point of tension between us, we explored its nuances with the help of a close friend of ours called Oliver (who was present for the interview). Together, in light of a resounding example of how NOT to talk about Colonialism and Race the three of us searched for the safest and most respectful avenue to discuss these heavy topics. This episode is structured to capture the journey from upset and discomfort to acknowledgement of wrongdoing and collective support. Here's how it's structured: In the first part of the interview, you will hear the challenging and upsetting final few minutes of the original conversation with Ralph. Ralph is my housemate. He is also a close, supportive and honest friend of mine. The conversation took an uncomfortable turn and we ended up having a very uncomfortable and one-sided conversation about Colonialism. I was very upset and ended the interview early.In the second part of the interview, you will hear a discussion of what went wrong, why I felt the way I did, and how 'Colonisers' and the 'Colonised' can have safe and respectful conversations about Colonialism and Race. Oliver, who also lives in the same house as Ralph and I, was present for the first interview and will contribute to the second part of the episode. He provided a unique perspective on how Ralph's behaviour may have been harmful, and helped me articulate how I want to be listened to on such delicate and poignant topics. Thank you for continuing to show interest in this podcast. This episode was extremely difficult for me to record and edit. Conversations like these can re-open inherited wounds. Conversations like these can also promote reconciliation, respect and harmony.Please take care of those around you. Please listen to your friends. Please create space for those around you to speak. Protect the voices of the marginalised. Listen before you share. Today, my heart beats for my family, my friends and those are who are willing to respectfully engage in dialogue about matters.Enjoying Aleks Listens? You can support it on Patreon, https://www.patreon.com/join/alekslistens — for more of my work, visit https://www.aleks.co — or follow me on instagram @alekslistens https://www.instagram.com/alekslistens — or subscribe on YouTube ~~~~ sending love your way, Aleks