What if your patterns in love aren’t bad luck—they’re breadcrumbs pointing you to what needs healing? In this raw and empowering conversation with Holly Hartman, we unpack toxic dynamics, codependency vs. narcissism, and the surprising dating strategies that actually lead to healthy, lasting love.Clarity on toxic patterns — how codependency can mimic narcissism, why labeling isn’t always necessary, and the simplest way to spot when a relationship isn’t healthy for you.

What's in this episode?

• Practical dating strategies — including rotational dating (yes, even seven dates in a weekend!) and how to use it to filter fast, practice confidence, and discover what you really want.
• How to reframe blind spots — from not writing someone off too soon (like Sandy’s story of almost missing out on 25 years of love) to realizing how our fantasies can fill in blanks that aren’t true.
• Energy dynamics that matter — what it means to lean back into healthy feminine energy, how to allow a high-value partner to lead, and why this creates safety in love.
• Action steps for reinvention — making a “didn’t work / opposite” list, dating outside your usual type, and using curiosity instead of judgment to disrupt old patterns.

Hope + inspiration — real-life proof that it’s never too late to rewrite your story and create a relationship where you finally feel safe, cherished, and deeply seen.