We use the words love and hate rather carelessly. Both of the terms are  used to describe our taste in movies, food and relationships. If we do  not love the cheeseburger, the we hate it. If a celebrity does not  entertain us, they may make our most hated list. If a person does enough  for us they are bestowed the "I love you" title, unless they cease  doing these things of course. It is almost as if we are holding people  hostage, threatening them with approval or disapproval, love or hate, at  every turn. How does one manage to have a loving relationship in a  world so obsessed with hatred? This may seem like a daunting task.  Hatred seems to be the opposite of love. But, as per usual, scientific  studied has called this observation into question. It may very well be  that we never just love or just hate the people in our lives. Indeed,  our affection may as fluid as our sexuality. We all have those days  where we just do not get along with each other. We all know that arguing  and disagreement lead to choas and misunderstanding. Therefore, if  hatred is so detrimental to our existence, it would of course behoove us  to completely avoid situations that lead to argument and disagreement;  at least, this is what self-proclaimed experts have posited. However, we  cannot avoid these "negative" feelings. They pop up, at times seemingly  for no reason. Old arguments and disagreements that are still unsettled  do not just go away.We may lose the exact wording of an argument, or even the subject  matter, but the feeling remains hiding beneath the surface, and,  eventually, turns into yet another argument. Of course if we ever want  to be in relationship, we must ask ourselves how we can be ourselves  fully, while not harming our loved ones. If that is not possible then we  probably should not be together in the first place. We all have our own  reasons for loving, and I would argue that one is no better than the  next. However, it is not worth harming others or ourselves to live up to  a standard of love that has been declared by society. We all have our  own idea of love so I will spend very little time trying to define it.  Hatred, on the other hand, is one of those emotions that Sunday morning  psychologists have deemed "negative". Along with anger, fear and  sadness, hatred has been relegated to what I like to refer to as the  demon emotions; in the old days, and I would argue very much still  today, it was not uncommon to refer to a person who was being  overemotional, whatever the hell that means, as being inhabited by some  sort of evil spirit or humor. The answer, or lack there of as I would  put it, became to extract the evil spirit, thus curing the evil that inhabited it. But how does one extract the supernatural? Torture would seem almost  pointless to inflict upon an eternal being that is destined to burn in  hell. There is, after all, supposedly no greater torture than the wrath  of god. So how did we end up tearing out people's entrails, drowning  them in lakes, and boiling them alive in pots, all practiced during the  holy crusades, to try and exercise demons? But we don't have to stop at  religion. That is not what this is about. We could just as easily  discuss the concept of "negativity", and how we simply view ourselves as  the answer to every question. Why do you call people negative? What are  the guidelines?Am I positive if I dislike the right authors? Am I negative if I criticize the wrong celebrity? How do we weigh such things?Are we just chronic fixers, never satisfied with any outcome? Does there  need to be a fixed moral code or is it malleable? Do we love the ones  we hate? Do we hate the ones we love?