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In this episode, Avalaura Gaither, Life Coach, Intuitive Consultant, and Keynote Speaker, say's that before you get into another relationship, you absolutely must go through the healing process. She says the best way to do this is to double down on the self-awareness and reflection and identify the patterns you need to avoid and the habits you should continue. Listen to her story and process and what she believes is the real reason behind divorce and how you can avoid it even before you get married.

Key takeaways:

• Heal before dating again
• Self awareness is critical to the healing process
• Ask yourself
• • What and who am I attracting into my space?
  • Is there a pattern in the type of person that I attract and is it right for me?
  • What is my contribution to what is happening in my life?

Take a listen. Then rate and review this episode.

Find Avalaura at www.avalaura.com and follow her on social by typing in "Avalaura"...she says she's the only one! :)

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Jay Hurt starts some overdue conversations with his question, "do women still want to be married?" We talk through his book, the 9 Tenets of a Successful Relationship and he gives us his perspective on whether or not women really want to be wives. Don't worry, I also challenge that question with a question of my own - "do men still want to be husbands?" 

Follow Jay Hurt on social media - @jayhurtcoaching and listen to his podcast, Love Notes with Jay Hurt, on soundcloud.

Listen to the episode and share your thoughts with me on social. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast. 

Key takeaways and recommendations:

• Be in a relationship for YOU; don't do it for anyone else
• Be clear about your relationship and your relationship goals; be transparent about what you want and where you want it to go
• Work-Life Integration is important for sustaining a healthy relationship
• Book - 9 Tenets of Successful Relationships
• Book - 5 Love Languages - Singles Edition

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Yes! A Valentine's Day BONUS episode!!

Every relationship is different in the details, but every relationship is the same at the core. The Butlers are no different. And, by "the Butlers," I mean me and #husbae. In this episode, we talk about our friends first, lovers later story, the challenges of intercultural dating and marriage, the critical need for a strong support system, and more!

Take a listen. Laugh with us. Laugh at us! Then rate and review this episode.

Key takeaways:

• Our "friends first, lovers" later approach
• Communication in relationships
• Intercultural dating
• Meeting the in-laws
• Building a strong support system

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Instead of jumping into a relationship, our guest expert, Dominique Clark, shares that the most important thing for you to do is check your self-worth first. On this episode, Dominique shares her how she coaches women to step into their fullness by letting go of people and things that do not serve them and embracing exactly who they are meant to be in the world.

Find Dominique at www.dominiqueclark.com and at @iam_dclark on social media

Subscribe to her youtube channel here.

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Alex Merritt, The Love Engineer, talks about why communication really is the key in relationships and why chemistry is not. She drops major gems that will help both men and women truly understand how to better understand and communicate with each other.

Men and women communicate for different reasons, but both sexes love to talk.

What men dont like is criticism. So they may not talk as much or respond as frequently as women would like because they want to avoid feeling like their opinion is not valued by the women in thieir lives.

• They enjoy talking about things that are of interest to them and that welcome them in and allow them to show some levels of vulnerability

Men talk to solve a problem. Women talk to connect.

• For women, the act of talking is solving the problem; they use talking as a way to build connections; they want men to listen...not fix.

Alex's advice to men is, "listening is fixing"...so listen to your women.

Alex's advice to women is, "tell him why he's listening."

We are the first generation where men and women are spending more and more time together as friends. In generations past, this dynamic did not happen as often.

Men do relationships shoulder to shoulder. Women do relationships face to face.

Understand the material you are working with and then you can put it in the best application.

Men and women should be cognizant to not expect the opposite to behave like their friends; they are not built for that

There are fundamental differences in feminine and masculine energy that cause us to respond differently to communication in relationships

• Masculine energy - direct, to the point, problem-solving
• Feminine energy - open, explorative, creative

A lot of times, high-powered, high-performing women women have been trained to be masculine in the workplace and to turn off their feminine energy because femininity is equated with weakness.

Men are not intimidated by high-powered women. They are not attracted to it (because of the masculine energy) so women have to find a balance between the two.

Rapid Love

1. You must love yourself first.
2. You are worthy of unconditional love at all times.
3. Recommendation - read "Love is Letting Go of Fear" by Gerald G. Jampolsky, MD
4. Balance is not equality
5. Self care is meditating, praying, brunching, letting go of toxic beliefs regardless of who taught it.

Find Alex at www.dessertanddiscussion.com and @dessertanddiscussion on social media

The war on love game is there too or on Amazon.

Email her at [email protected]

On this episode, Folashade breaks down why having non-negotiables is important in any type of relationship and why it's important to NOT negotiate them.

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On this episode, learn who Folashade A. Butler is and who inspired her to start the Love & Livelihood podcast. She describes her journey as a love and relationships coach, counselor, and speaker and talks about what you can expect from this podcast. Get ready to do more than find balance. Get ready to find yourself!

Love & Livelihood - the podcast is a podcast for the go-getting, love-desiring person trying their best to figure out what "balance" looks like for them. It's for YOU if all you want is to discover true success in love and in life.

Folashade A. Butler is a wife, mom, technology consultant, entrepreneur, and speaker so she knows fully well the challenges the everyday go-getter faces in the pursuit of success in life. Meet Folashade here each week to learn more about how to do more than find balance. Meet her here to learn more about how to find yourself...because that's the ultimate goal.

This podcast is for you if you are single, married, or somewhere in between and have a goal to achieve success in love and life. Folashade and the L&L guests will share stories, tools, and tips on how to build the life you deserve.

Listen each week as she talks about dating, relationships, career, entrepreneurship, and more!

For more information, visit us at LoveandLivelihood.com and follow us on Instagram @lovexlivelihood and @folashadebutler.