The wounds from our childhood and past relationships can affect us in the present day in big and small ways. Understanding your attachment style and how to repair your attachment wounds is a huge part of being able to relate better with those in your life. Listen to today's show for key insights and actionable tools to repair your attachment wounds and love better.
In this episode with Adam Lane Smith we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Understanding the insecure attachment patterns that we can create in relationships and how to heal them

Specific tools for individuals with anxious and secure attachment styles to heal

Learning to create boundaries and keep boundaries for healthier relationships

How to communicate with your partner if you are feeling insecure

How to relate better if you or your partner is anxiously or avoidantly attached

And much more!


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401: Love Better, Repair Your Attachment Wounds

I Do Podcast interviews today’s most successful and inspiring relationship experts, therapists and couples. Hosted by Chase Kosterlitz and produced by Sarah Kosterlitz, I Do Podcast is all about inspiring young couples to create a fulfilling and happy relationship. The weekly podcast will give you great advice to improve your relationship and fun ways to keep the spark alive. Each episode Chase interviews amazing relationship experts who share their knowledge on building successful and lasting love. The guests provide daily tips to improve your relationship, advice for young couples, amazing books and resources and much more.

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Society, pop culture, media and the internet all paint a pretty rosy picture of what a relationship 'should' look like. Unfortunately, these models often don't reflect what a relationship will actually look like nor how to make them work well. Listen to today's show to understand what a healthy relationship actually looks like and requires. 
In this episode with Todd Baratz we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

The harsh reality that our partner's will always frustrate us

Why love is conditional in adult relationships

A healthy approach to using attachment theory to inform your relationship experience 

What to do when the honeymoon phase ends in your relationship

How to navigate a decrease in sexual desire in your relationship

The importance of understanding your partner's triggers and communicating about your own

And much more!

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457: Hard Relationship Truths You Need To Hear

Throughout our lives we will be challenged with relationships, jobs and family among other things. Cultivating a positive mindset with tools to navigate these challenges is an important part of living a more joyful life. Listen to today's show to learn more about the tools to help move through all of life's challenges. 
In this episode with Tammy Mastroberte we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to cultivate spirituality and how to interpret signs the universe may be showing you

What to do when you feel like you're stuck in your life or relationship

How to integrate acceptance and surrender into your life

Exercises to cultivate more gratitude in your relationship

How to infuse your life with more joy

And much more!

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456: Moving Through Challenges

Anxiety, overthinking and our overall mental health has a huge impact on our physical health. It's important to understand just how much our mental and physical health are intertwined. There's no one better than a critical care nurse turned therapist like today's guest to guide us through improving and understanding the link between our mental and physical health. 
In this episode with Denise Schonwald we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to deal with anxiety and how it impacts us physically

How our body interprets anxiety

Tools to interrupt patterns of anxiety and overthinking

How to support an anxious partner

How negative mental health patterns manifest physically

And much more!

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Ro Body provides access to the most popular weight loss shots on the market. Go to RO.CO/IDO and sign up today, you’ll pay just $99 for your first month!
Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!
If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
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455: How To Deal With Anxiety And Overthinking

There are many ways to structure a romantic relationship outside of the traditional monogamous framework. Listen to today's episode to explore the different non-traditional relationship styles and the common issues and benefits people experience in them. 
In this episode with Dr. Joli Hamilton we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

The number one tip to experience a successful non-monogamous relationship

Should you try a non-monogamous relationship to save your current monogamous one?

How to discuss the idea of a non-monogamous relationship when you're currently in a monogamous relationship

How to navigate jealousy in any relationship

Dealing with the discomfort when experiencing jealousy

How to unpack your narrative around jealousy in your relationship

And much more!

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If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
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454: Shifting From Default Monogamous Relating

Loving someone better starts with loving ourselves better. Self awareness, understanding our childhood and being present are just some of the tools to help ourselves along this path. Listen to today's show to learn how to love ourselves and others better. 
In this episode with Dr. Jeannelle Perkins-Mohammad we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Internal acceptance and the "I love you test"

How to increase your self esteem and self compassion

Tests and questions to help unpack the trauma we may have experienced as a child

What to do if your partner does not want to do the work to improve the relationship

The importance of leaving more space for pleasure in the relationship over performance and perfection 

And much more!

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If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
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401: Love Better, Repair Your Attachment Wounds

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