Physical, verbal, or any kind of abuse is unacceptable in your relationship. For you are not only destroying your marriage, but your spouse, and any kid(s) present in that marriage. More so, that can also affect negatively your spouse, plus any kid(s) future and your kid(s) marriage when they get married someday because it’s how you have lived in your marriage as the abuser they feel is how to live in their own marriage too as an abuser. Now, that’s a no no, a RED flag we don’t want to see or hear! You can change that to a loving marriage and home for you, your spouse and any kid(s) in it.