This episode is “for you from you!”

That’s right..these are your stories. When you cope with distance there’s bound to be some funny stories. Whether it’s about travel, meeting for the first time, or just coping. If you have a funny story feel free to dm it to us and we will make sure to put it in a future episode about funny stories. Enjoy!

Or should we say Mamily? You’ll have to listen to get this joke. Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss potential struggles with family. Whether it’s your parents not supporting your LDR or maybe you are older and have kids in a commuter marriage. We discuss all areas that this lifestyle with distance has to cope with. This may be a great episode to send to your family or friends because we talk about how they can BEST support you!! And yes even coal miners are welcome in this convo. (another joke you’ll have to listen for!) We love to laugh for sure!! Enjoy guys. We love our LDR family!!

Book for boundaries

Boundaries- by: Townsend and Cloud

Set Boundaries, find Peace- by: Nedra Glover Tawwab

This episode is a fun one that Abe and Elaine hope get your creative juices flowing! Listen, distance is hard and we all know we need daily connections, creative dates in distance but ALSO the occasional surprise gift! Whether it’s for an anniversary, a birthday, or even just a pick me up! We all know distance is hard so now and then we have to keep things FUN and surprise our mates with little gifts!

For care packages check our many ideas on Instagram @commutermarriagesupport

also check out paperpaisley.com for decorating boxes

For picture puzzle try
Shutterfly.com
Snapfish.com

For picture postcards
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ink-cards-send-custom-cards/id477296657

For making videos
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/vixer-video-editor-maker/id1487668791
Vidhug.com

For soup:
https://www.spoonfulofcomfort.com

For ice cream:
https://shop.jenis.com/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI8KW27ZPk8AIVgoNbCh3UtgQTEAAYASAAEgJG5vD_BwE

For succulents:
https://www.succulentlyurban.com/

Abe and Elaine often talk about distance and how it impacts couples in commuter marriage or LDR. This time they discuss their time together! Both the challenges and the good parts. Listen in to hear about how to make the most of your visits together!

Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss attachment styles and how they impact your sense of security in your relationship with distance. Elaine and Abe get a bit vulnerable as they discuss their own attachment styles and how it plays out in their marriage. This lens of understanding your attachment style can validate your needs in your relationship and allow you to better understand the needs of your partner.

Link to Attachment Style Test:https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help you Find - and Keep - Love https://www.amazon.com/dp/1585429139/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_HYFAB9193WQZWVNM3Y8P

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse

Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship https://www.amazon.com/dp/1608820580/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_841MNMHPSACA0B52GYJX

Back by popular demand....join Elaine and Abe for more creative date ideas! A MUST when you are in distance!! Learn to invest in your dates nights apart just as much as your dates when together.



Haunted house story: Frightbytes.com



Puzzle fun:

Jigsawpuzzles.io



Online Cooking class: 100pleats.com



Pancakes and Waffles Game:

https://sites.middlebury.edu/pancakesorwaffles/about-pancakes-and-waffles/



Virtual vacations:

Virtualvacation.us



Questions for Couples:

Datenightquestions.com



Virtual Dates:

Ldrdates.com



Abe & Elaines Guest Episodes:



Revel Revel Podcast-

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Nx07kqdXtjn2dc5ZDfgYL?si=2r7xOGmNTCS0vq8RZLmUdg



Making Love Podcast-

https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5idXp6c3Byb3V0LmNvbS84MDQ2MzgucnNz/episode/QnV6enNwcm91dC04MTc3MTU3?sa=X&ved=0CAYQkfYCahcKEwj46s37veLvAhUAAAAAHQAAAAAQAQ



Real Relationship Talk Podcast-

https://open.spotify.com/episode/59LPobVVqbEtdxR7iOcQR3?si=PGXbzOjoQ4iCzS-O53rtSA

International couples this one’s for you! Abe and Elaine are rooting on any couple in distance separated by travel bans and border restrictions due to Covid. Join us as we hear from international couple Dave and Kaelyn as they describe their challenging yet beautiful love story. This one’s a tear-jerker but inspiring as well.

Dave and Kaelyn’s blog:

Longdistancedateideas.com

Instagram: @longdistancedateideas

https://www.facebook.com/facesofadvocacy

https://www.facebook.com/groups/facesofadvocacy

https://www.facebook.com/groups/letusreunite

https://youtu.be/g2AHxdM1kDY

https://youtu.be/MrmzH8jipk4

https://www.thestar.com/politics/2020/12/23/couples-do-christmas-online-in-person-if-lucky-during-canada-us-border-closure.html?fbclid=IwAR1NBxFs-sdXzhXv4NIcnlQTLp1WjXsB7rhNi5gJMf82TYHFGw_gb1d7MNg

https://petitions.ourcommons.ca/en/Petition/Details?Petition=e-3130&fbclid=IwAR1ZDTheBII8g3_A9bq-6Hv9JEZE6Unh416MoPM2HqQCqMMGTqvQfWJVUnI

Ian’s youtube channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCeHtLM3ecNsy1mgL-ZG0pFA

Instagram: @ESPlifeyt

Cake Idea to Celebrate Strength in distance: @twinflame_ldr

Loveisnottourism.org

Don’t be fooled by Abe and Elaine’s fun banter in their episodes. Like any couple, Abe and Elaine have conflict! However, Elaine who is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist has a secret for you. Conflict isn’t a problem! In fact, research shows happy, thriving couples still have conflict. Thank goodness! To learn more about this and how to handle the unique elements of conflict in distance please tune in!

Kevin Bacon’s teen angst scene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8XGmZ8HDIU

Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)

Emotional Abuse Support: https://leslievernick.com

Help us welcome our dear friends Brian and Tessa in our very first guest episode! We discovered that Brian and Tessa have had to cope with distance FOUR separate times! That’s why we officially named them the DISTANCE NINJAS! A lot of our listeners will relate because this couple learned to cope with the distance in college, grad school, and twice in marriage. Listen and learn how Brian and Tessa conquer distance through multiple seasons of their lives. There are so many couples that cope with the distance that it is important to highlight the different types of commuter marriages and long-distance relationships. They will be the first of many guest episodes! Enjoy!

In this episode Abe and Elaine discuss the importance of making sex a priority in your relationship, whether in distance or together. Of course there are some laughs but some creative ideas too! They introduce you to a fantastic app you may want to hear about!



Elaine and Abe Romero provide support for all commuter marriages and long distant relationships at:

Instagram: @commutermarriagesupport

Facebook: Love is in the Air

Elaine’s practice@ shcounseling.org



Ultimate Intimacy- in app stores

On Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp



Abe and Elaine’s guest interview on Nadege August’s podcast called “What the Fockery” on Spotify @ #58 https://open.spotify.com/episode/7k3AqIL6WPyorDYiQ6ozQN?si=7OopMnM-Tp-5RR4coZflBw



Naa and Nicole’s podcast- Twenty and Some Change @https://open.spotify.com/show/0MeyqqAP3GFKBKgkMZX1RG?si=NSXupda1TjyXQEo8OXhQGQ

On Instagram @twentyandsomechamge