How often do you choose yourself—until choosing yourself makes someone else uncomfortable?

In Episode 5 of Love, Lies & Bullsh!t, we're talking about one of the quieter ways we can betray ourselves: abandoning our own needs, feelings, boundaries and truth just to keep other people happy, comfortable or around.

We say yes when we mean no.

We silence ourselves to avoid conflict.

We accept things we know don't feel right.

We make ourselves smaller so someone else doesn't have to make room.

And sometimes, we don't even realise we're doing it.

But self-love isn't just about affirmations and feeling good about yourself. Sometimes it's the very uncomfortable decision to stop leaving yourself behind.

This episode is an invitation to ask:

Where have I been choosing everyone else at the expense of me?

And what would happen if I started choosing myself—not selfishly, not cruelly, but honestly?

Towards the end of the episode, I also share a little invitation for anyone who wants to take this work further: a 21-Day Affirmation Exercise, personally tailored to you and the areas of your life you're intentionally working on.

If that sounds like something you'd like to explore, find me on Twitter/X or TikTok: @sassybigma and let's create something specifically for you. ❤️‍🔥

Because sometimes self-love begins with one very simple decision:

I'm not abandoning me anymore.

Sometimes the person we need to forgive isn't someone else.

It's us.

In Episode 4 of Love, Lies & Bullsh!t, we're talking about the mistakes, choices, regrets and versions of ourselves we've been carrying around like permanent sentences.

The things we wish we'd done differently.

The people we hurt.

The times we ignored our intuition.

The choices we made while we were simply trying to survive.

But is holding onto guilt the same thing as taking accountability?

Maybe forgiving yourself doesn't mean pretending it didn't happen. Maybe it means acknowledging it, learning from it, and finally giving yourself permission to stop reliving it.

Because you cannot change the person you were.

But you can decide how gently you treat her now.

This episode is for every version of you that deserves to be released. ❤️

What if you are not broken?

In Episode 3 of Love, Lies & Bullsh!t, we're questioning the endless pressure to fix, improve, heal, optimise and reinvent ourselves before we feel worthy of love, happiness or acceptance.

Because somewhere along the way, "self-improvement" became synonymous with there's something wrong with me.

And yes, growth is beautiful. Healing matters. We should absolutely evolve.

But there's a difference between growing because you love yourself and constantly trying to change because you don't.

So let's talk about the uncomfortable question:

Can you want more for yourself without believing that who you are right now isn't enough?

Maybe you don't need to fix yourself.

Maybe you need to understand yourself.

Maybe you need to accept yourself.

Maybe you need to stop treating yourself like a problem.

And maybe... just maybe... you're already enough. ❤️

At some point, many of us learned to believe that something about us made us difficult to love.

Maybe we were told we were too loud. Too sensitive. Too needy. Too emotional. Too independent. Too complicated. Maybe nobody actually said it—but we learned it from the way we were treated.

In Episode 2 of Love, Lies & Bullsh!t, we dig into the stories we carry about ourselves and ask an uncomfortable question:

Who told you that you were hard to love?

Because sometimes the things we call personality flaws are simply wounds. Sometimes the voice telling us we're "too much" isn't actually our own.

And maybe self-love begins with questioning the beliefs we've spent years accepting as truth.

Let's unpack the labels, the rejection, the conditioning and the bullshit—and figure out what actually belongs to us.

And, as always, we'll end with a little reminder to ourselves about the kind of love we deserve. ❤️‍🔥

Love, Lies & Bullsh!t — Season 2, Episode 2.

What can a TV show about the Devil possibly teach you about love?

Apparently… a lot. 😂

Welcome to Season Two of Love, Lies & Bullsh!t — a new chapter, a new journey, and a deeper exploration of what it truly means to love.

In this spontaneous season opener, inspired by the series Lucifer, I talk about one of the most important lessons I've been learning about love and relationships: before we can truly understand how we love others, we have to understand who we are.

Our relationships can reveal the parts of ourselves we've ignored, denied, judged, hidden, or simply refused to accept. And sometimes, what we call a search for love is actually a search for someone else to validate the parts of us we haven't yet learned to hold with love ourselves.

So, who are you when nobody is telling you who you should be?

And more importantly…

Can you acknowledge that person, accept that person, and love that person?

Let's talk about it.

Welcome to the self-love journey. Welcome to Season Two.

Season one comes to a close with honesty, reflection, and hard-earned clarity.

In this finale, we zoom out and look at the patterns that kept showing up—who we chose, what we tolerated, what we mistook for love, and what we finally learned to let go of. From mixed signals and misalignment to chemistry traps and the myth of closure, this season wasn’t just about relationships—it was about self-awareness.

This episode is an invitation to pause, integrate the lessons, and ask yourself the real question: What pattern am I ready to break for good?

If this season mirrored your experiences, challenged your beliefs, or helped you see your love life more clearly, this conversation is for you.

Thank you for listening, reflecting, and doing the inner work.

Season one ends here—but the healing continues.

🎧 Press play.

✨ And choose better—starting with yourself.

That spark you feel?

The butterflies. The late-night conversations. The magnetic pull.

Yeah… that’s chemistry.

And it’s not the same thing as compatibility.

In this episode of Love, Lies & Bullsh!t, we unpack how intense attraction can keep you stuck in relationships that look good on the surface but fall apart in real life. We talk about why chemistry feels addictive, how it masks misalignment, and the hard truth about choosing what’s healthy over what’s exciting.

If you’ve ever said “it felt right, but it never worked” — this one’s for you.

This episode invites you to pause, reflect, and ask yourself the questions chemistry never wants you to ask.

🎧 Listen, breathe, and choose clarity over chaos.

Follow the clarity → @llbpod

We’ve been taught to believe that closure comes from conversations, apologies, or explanations.

But what if it doesn’t? What if it never does?

In this episode of Love, Lies & Bullsh!t, we’re dismantling the myth of closure and exploring why waiting for answers from people who hurt you can keep you emotionally stuck. From unanswered questions to endings that never made sense, this episode is about reclaiming your power — even when the story feels unfinished.

If you’ve ever waited for an explanation that never came, this one is for you. Because healing doesn’t begin when they speak — it begins when you stop waiting.

🎧 Now streaming on Spotify & Apple Podcasts

✨ Follow the clarity → @llbpod

Sometimes the love is real…

but the alignment is not.

In this episode of Love, Lies & Bullsh!t, we’re unpacking the painful truth nobody wants to face: you can love someone deeply and still not be able to build a healthy relationship with them.

From mismatched values and inconsistent effort, to emotional unavailability, timing, and the version of someone you wish they were — we’re diving into the subtle signs that a connection is beautiful, but not sustainable.

If you’ve ever asked yourself,

“Why isn’t love enough?”

…this episode will give you clarity, closure, and the courage to stop forcing what’s not flowing.

🎧 Now streaming on Spotify & Apple Podcasts

✨ Follow the clarity → @llbpod

Why does modern texting feel like a full-blown sport? One minute they’re replying in 0.2 seconds, the next minute… radio silence. In this episode, we explore the games, the confusion, the overthinking, and the emotional cardio that comes with trying to decode someone’s messages (or lack of).

From hot-cold energy to perpetual “good morning” texts that lead nowhere — we’re unpacking the psychology, the patterns, and the red flags hidden right there in the chat bubbles.

If you’ve ever caught feelings over a paragraph text or spiraled over a one-word reply… yeah, this one’s for you.

Press play. Let’s laugh, drag, learn, and heal.