A popular book put it that men are from Mars and Women from Venus suggesting they are worlds apart.  But that is an oversimplification of course. At the same time men and women do differ and not simply because of cultural or societal norms.  Alvean and Doug talk about the differences and how they can strengthen a relationship when properly understood and addressed.  Fr a full transcript, click here: LL30-How Men and Women Differ

Money, power, politics, child rearing, control: the list of things which can divide couples is nearly endless.  Why does this happen and how can you avoid conflict without ceding principles?  Alvean and Doug talk about conflict resolution--the power of listening and the ways in which you can agree to disagree.  For a full transcript, click here: LL29-Why Do Couples Quarrel?

Alvean and Doug talk about the healing power of love and the ways in which we can perform acts of extraordinary grace through the power of love.  For a full transcript, click here: LL28-Can Love Heal?

We are familiar with the song that tells the story about those who are torn between two lovers, but is this really a situation many find themselves having to address?  Alvean and Doug talk about the conflict that arises when individuals turn to another either out of frustration with their relationship or emotional immaturity.  For a full transcript, click here: LL27-Can you love two people equally?

Some relationships are balanced and some are not but those in which one partner makes themselves the entire focus are destined to end badly.  Alvean and Doug talk about how to recognize the signs of a narcissistic partner and how to restore balance if possible.  For a full transcript click here: LL26-It is all about me

Being solitary can be a trial for those who gather their energies from frequent and lively interaction while a balm for more introverted individuals.  Alavena and Doug talk about ways we can learn from and increase our sense of well being from those periods in our lives when we are alone and lonely.  For a full transcript of this episode, click here: LL25-Savoring Loneliness

A struggle for control is a common issue in relationships.  In some cases it results in a divisive and destructive sundering of the bonds between individuals but others find their way through this thicket of emotion.  Alvean and Doug talk about strategies for giving and taking, for learning to see control as a double edged weapon that can harm those who wield it even as they attempt to assert their will on others.  For a full transcript of this episode, click here:LL24-You're not the Boss of Me

It is often said that having opposite interests and qualities makes for a lively relationship. But others suggest that to sustain a relationship you and your partner must have a lot in common.  Which of these perspectives is true?  Are either of these views supported by fact or experience? Alvean and Doug talk about the myths and the reality in this episode.  For a full transcript, click here: LL23-Do Opposites Attract

One of the most corrosive and difficult emotions to overcome, Jealousy can be the seed of disunion in any relationship. Where does this emotion come from and how can we learn to control it?  Alvean and Doug discuss the green eyed demon and strategies for unwinding this destructive emotion.  For a complete transcript, click here: LL22-Jealousy

Is it possible for two people who have parted to reunite successfully, or is that only in the movies?  Alvean and Doug talk from their personal and professional experience about the enduring power of attraction and the issue of timing and personal, emotional maturity as it bears on the question.  For a full transcript of this episode, click here: LL21-Getting Back with Your Ex