We believe dominance is about leadership just as much (if not more) than it’s about power and control. John Brownstone considers himself a servant leader. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about what servant...

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Call it submissive training or behavior modification (or something else) but trying to change someone’s behavior (yours or a partner’s) isn’t always easy. While a lot of people use discipline and punishment, it’s not...

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Can anyone else believe we reached episode 273 before devoting an entire episode to impact play?! Neither can we! But here we are! Warning, this is a loooong episode because even with an attempt...

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BDSM checklists are great for figuring out what kinks you want to try, what you don’t want, and what you’re not sure about. Because they get recommended so often (especially to newer kinksters), we...

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We want everyone to have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. But we also know that not every relationship is meant to last. Staying in one that doesn’t serve you or the other person doesn’t...

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Spend any amount of time online or in some local kink communities, and you’ll come across someone with an opinion of what makes you a “real” kinkster. Or someone who devises ridiculous hoops to...

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In this week’s episode, we’re taking inspiration from YouTube — and reacting to your unpopular opinions! We asked for these opinions on Instagram, YouTube, and Patreon. In this episode: Enter the BDSM Contracts giveaway!...

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Humiliation play is a mutual kink of ours, though we tend to stick with the lighter end of the spectrum. We’ve discussed it in detail in past episodes, but this week, we’re sharing five...

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In this week’s episode, we’re reacting to survey results on the secret desires and kinks of 2000 Americans. We thought it would be different and fun — and something lighthearted. Of course, you know...

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Not every kink scene feels the same as the one before. One time you might hit Dom or sub space, and the next time, maybe not. That doesn’t mean anything is automatically “wrong” or...

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