You first have to love yourself. 

When you love yourself you increase your self-esteem, you accept who you are exactly where you are.

From that you get self-care. Self care is the action demonstrating how you love yourself. 

Don't get confused with self-care. Self-care can mean many different things to different people.

A massage, a manicure or even an oil change. Anything that you do to ease the stress and chaos in your life is self-care.