Lunchtime in Rome

Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight is episode 157 entitled “Amy Rayman.” We do our very best to help everyone to not feel alone. Who's more alone than someone with a sick child? Not many. THAT is one of the many great things about Amy Rayman who will be with us at The Table this week. Amy has spent much of her career raising funds for families undergoing the worst life has to offer.

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Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight is episode 156 entitled “Spring Springs Hope.” What are you looking forward to in the coming weeks? What is something that you are striving for and feels like it is, oh so, close? What is the carrot dangling in the near distance that keeps you taking the next step forward? That is what we will be discussing this evening.

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How to break the cycle
Seek God’s input on the matter
How does He feel about what you’ve done?
How does He feel for the other person?
Listen!!
Understand where the hurts go and be mindful/loving with that knowledge
Avoid directing anger/fear AT the other person
Try not to have your guilt/self condemnation cloud the truth
What are their hurts, what needs were not met or taken from them?
How do you like that need to be met?
How can you meet their need while your need(s) are also met?
Realize that meeting another’s needs is loving them
Be aware of your and their emotional needs (as compared to the hurts)?
Commit to being OHV
Be very careful if THIS has been a problem
If both people are not committed to this, many future hurts will be created
Heal all hurts
Outside - Heal old wounds
Attach comfort one on one
Have others comfort if needed
Seek outside counsel in navigating this if neccesary
Inside - Confess, Understand, Forgive
Seek WISE counsel
An outside perspective is valuable
Do not seek an echo chamber
Do not simply vent/gossip/disrespect
What’s next?
Replace bad patterns with good
Regular check-ins in regards to needs and hurts
Spending time building the relationship outside of needs and conflict
Allow for grace within the relationship

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Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight is episode 154 entitled “Bad Patterns in Relationships.” We all fall into bad patterns in our relationships. Why does that happen? What is really behind it all? How can we possibly break that destructive cycle? Is there hope?

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Bad Patterns

What are they?
Cyclical conflict in a relationship
Having the same fight over different details
What are their characteristics?
Every decision/conflict is handled the same way and it is not productive
Every major conflict is about the same “thing” with different causes for the incident
What causes it?
General - conflict between where hurts go
Anger/Guilt
Anger/Self Condemnation
Fear/Guilt
Fear/Self Condemnation
Anger & Fear look outward, Guilt & Self Condemnation inward’
Procedural
Conflict between emotional needs
Opposite “need” of needs in general
Respect vs. Security
Affection vs. Security/Respect
Encouragement vs. Support
Attention vs. Acceptance


Not being open, honest and vulnerable
Not communicating the need - open
Stealing the need - honest
Being afraid (perhaps rightfully so) that the need won’t be met - vulnerable
Not mutually giving - one or both of the people are not loving the other by meeting an OHV communicated need.
Unresolved Hurts
Past hurts outside of a relationship that have not been comforted
Past hurts within a relationship that have not been confessed, understood and forgiven
Inhibits intimacy which prohibits the meeting of other needs
Reduces the impact of other needs being met
Clouds or diminishes an altruistic attempt to meet a need

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Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight is episode 153 entitled “Affection.” Do you love a hug? Do you need your loved ones to say, "I love you" every time you hang up the phone? How much do you need affection? Where did it come from? Did you always get it? Have you never had it? What do you do when you don't get that need met?

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Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight is episode 152 entitled “Ashley Cesaratto.” Ashley is a proud Penn Hills Alum, amazing musician, appreciated teacher, creator of the GIANT Pittsburgh Foodies Facebook page, and regular at The Table with us!

Eric is having a good week with Amy and Mags, Brian celebrated Lex's birthday, and Jay was super busy but in the moment.

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Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight is episode 151 entitled, “Alone but not Lonely.” Are you surrounded by people but have no one to REALLY talk to about your hurts?

Do you have many conversations but find yourself NOT talking about what you really want or need to talk about?

Are you both connected to lots of people and yet, at times, feel like you're on an island emotionally?

If so please know that you're not the only one. This week at The Table we'll be talking about a new idea that might help many people just like you, maybe even you.

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Eric is proud of Mags, Jay had a rough week, but went to Wheeling with Rachel and eats at Rachel’s on 16th while his Rachel almost beats a billiard pro at pool, and Chris is suffering from allergies.

Have you ever had an interaction with a (or some) friend(s) that left you hurt or at least not comforted? Have you ever had a friend have unrealistic expectations in your relationship that left you feeling judged?

Of course you have, we ALL have. Tonight, the boys will be going over an illustration/application of this exact same thing that just happened between them.

Tonight's podcast will be a perfect example of many of the principles that they talk about every week at The Table.

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Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight is episode 149 entitled, Acceptance. What is the emotional need of Acceptance? How do we get it met? How are we hurt when we are not accepted? This is what we’re talking about tonight.

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Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight is episode 148 entitled “What is Joy?”. Joy is something separate from happiness. How is it different? What is joy vs. happiness? What is true joy? If what we talked about two weeks ago was specific to what makes us happy or brings us "joy", tonight we will be talking about joy in general. What is it? Why is it different than happiness? How can we attain it? How can we maintain it? These are all things we will go over this evening at The Table.


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