Churches used to talk about lust all the time. Now they don't — and PF has a theory about why. In this episode, PF, Esther, and Tunde tackle the conversation most pastors and podcasters won't touch: sexual desire, attraction, what both men and women are responsible for, and why being honest about biology doesn't make you a bad person.

PF gets into why he'd rather preach about redemption than catalogue sins, what happens when desire becomes "inordinate," and the uncomfortable reality that human biology hasn't caught up with modern expectations. This one will make you think — and probably make you uncomfortable. That's the point.

In this episode:

- Why churches stopped talking about lust (and what replaced it)

- PF's definition: "Lust is desire that has become inappropriate"

- The honest conversation about attraction most men are afraid to have

- What you lead with is what you attract — and that applies to everyone

- Practical advice for managing desire without pretending it doesn't exist

- Why God doesn't remove sexual desire — and what He does instead

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Cold Open: "Christ Is Doing a LOT of Work"

00:28 - Introduction: Esther, Tunde & PF

01:44 - Why Don't Churches Talk About Lust Anymore?

04:25 - PF: Why I'd Rather Preach Redemption Than Catalogue Sin

06:01 - "Lust Is Desire That Has Become Inappropriate"

07:00 - Appropriate Desire vs. Inordinate Desire

12:47 - Does Physical Attraction Have to Come First?

15:00 - The Difficulty of Managing Desire in Relationships

16:55 - "If You Lead With Your Body, You Attract Men Interested in Your Body"

20:07 - "Don't Put Meat on the Table and Beat the Dog for Salivating"

21:56 - "Society Has Evolved. Humanity Has Not."

23:05 - What 99.9% of Men See (And Won't Admit)

25:20 - Why Men Won't Be Honest About This

29:30 - Sports, Music & Media: The Constant Trigger

34:00 - Practical Advice: How to Actually Manage Desire

39:30 - Why God Didn't Design You to Marry at 35

40:35 - "God Doesn't Remove Desire. He Gives You Strength."

42:30 - Both Sides Must Own Their Part

This one's going to spark debate. Where do you land — is this a men's problem, a women's problem, or a everyone problem? Comment below.

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PF Unfiltered is a Christian podcast exploring faith, relationships, and culture through honest, unfiltered conversations. Led by Pastor Femi Omotayo of New Covenant House Dallas, each episode tackles the questions African Christians and believers worldwide are actually asking about lust, sexual desire, purity, dating, modesty, attraction, spiritual growth, and living authentically in modern culture. Real Talk. Real Faith. Real Life.

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