In this episode of Lynn's Library, host Lynn Dadson sits down with author, therapist, and trauma specialist Adena Bank Lees, LCSW — to unpack her book "Covert Emotional Incest: The Hidden Sexual Abuse — A Story of Hope and Healing" (revised & updated edition).
Adena explains what covert emotional incest actually is — a subtle, non-contact form of sexual abuse within the family system — and how to spot it: triangulation, the "substitute spouse" or confidant role, parentified kids, and the child everyone praises as mature, the hero, the high-achiever. Drawing on 40 years of clinical work and her own healing, she shares how these patterns form, how they pass down through generations, and what genuine recovery looks like.
An honest, sometimes heavy conversation about family dynamics, boundaries, and reclaiming your story — and why "you can't heal what you refuse to name."
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Content note: This episode discusses childhood abuse, disordered eating, and suicidal ideation. If you're struggling, in the US you can call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), 24/7.
Views expressed by guests are their own and do not represent The Lynn Show or its host.