Magnificent Aging Podcast

My guest today is Stephanie Dalfonzo who has spent more than 20 years researching holistic, natural, and scientifically proven ways to more than just manage stress and anxiety but build emotional resilience and truly break free from its vice-like grip. Stephanie is the author of Goodbye Anxiety, Hello Freedom: How to Build Resilience and Overcome Anxiety I thought it was important to speak with her now that stress and anxiety have a tight grip on a lot of us.

"When listening to someone, ask what's going right, right now?" ~Author Stephanie Dalfonzo

Stephanie Dalfonzo- Holistic, Natural Assistance for Anxiety Tips from today:

• Statistic- Prescriptions for anti-anxiety have increased by 34.1 percent in February 2020
• One size anxiety relief does not fit all
• Simple works
• It's a practice; never too late to start reducing anxiety
• Know that you can get past this- it's a rough spot
• When listening to someone, ask what's going right, right now?
• Don't create your own PTSD
• High power, two-minute pose- body language impact
• Smiling creates happy hormones
• Rest, digest and relax

Favorite ice cream: mint chocolate chip and butter brickle

Song that reminds you of your youth and why: Got to be Real

Her book is Goodbye Anxiety, Hello Freedom: How to Build Resilience and Overcome Anxiety found on Amazon.com https://www.amazon.com/Goodbye-Anxiety-Hello-Freedom-Resilience/dp/0999887009/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2HJCQTADA1KD3&dchild=1&keywords=goodbye+anxiety+hello+freedom&qid=1594661766&sprefix=goodbye+anxiety%2Caps%2C195&sr=8-1

To contact Stephanie Dalfonzo: [email protected]

To get in touch with Deirdre at DeClutter By Deirdre, you can email me at [email protected]

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"Don't talk me out of my feelings"~Ethel Anne Roome-Certified Grief Recovery Specialist

Dealing with the loss of a loved one during COVID19

Consider Creating A Second-Best Funeral

Condolences and how to comfort others

Lack of traditional support

Ways to create the 2nd best way to comfort yourself AND honor your loved one

Virtual support or support by mail

How can we lean on others, so many are afraid of grief

Condolences Focusing on positivity- Ethel Anne's take on this

Do hobbies help and how do we determine what benefits us

Favorite ice cream: vanilla with caramel sauce

Song that reminds Ethel-Anne of her youth and why: The Stroll, American Bandstand with her dad

Leisure time: Flower Arranging

Book mentioned: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die, by Karol Kuhn Truman

Ethel-Anne Roome Certified Grief Recovery® Specialist Phone: 203-262-8326 Email: [email protected]

www.GriefRecoveryStartsHere.com

Go to the Grief Recovery Institute website for more information on funerals and other grief topics.

DeClutter By Deirdre

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"When you open yourself up to the possibility of things that could be, and the moments that they appear, there's great joy that comes from that." ~Tim Bailey

Tim explains:

• how empowered he felt doing relief work
• what discoveries he learning from others
• the many facets to the term social work
• the importance of focusing on community efforts in needed areas of the world
• how to open yourself up to things that could be
• appreciate how fate can provide you with opportunities

Understanding a deeper meaning of community, humanity and true connection with others.

Laughter is the universal language

The Power of the Unexpected

Take important risks, not poor ones.

The joy of being open to what could happen instead of sticking to a rigid plan

"The most amazing experiences come from taking a risk."

I feel your experiences make you the perfect person to work with seniors, they too have had the most amazing experiences!!!

Favorite ice cream: pumpkin

Song that reminds you of your youth and why: anything 90's, Counting Crows, Smashing Pumpkins

What do you do with your leisure time? Gardening, being with the dogs, Anything on Candlewood Lake. Dream trip: Drive through Canada and down through Maine

Dream: To own The Dapper Dachshund Inn

To get in touch with Tim Bailey or to visit Church Hill Village:

Tim Bailey

[email protected]

Church Hill Village Premiere Newtown Senior Living

2 The Boulevard

Newtown, CT 06470

This episode is sponsored by DeClutter By Deirdre, A Senior Move Management and DeCluttering for Aging In Place Company. Helping You and Your Loved Ones DeClutter, Move & Live a Fuller Life. Look at my website and contact me to work together at [email protected] www.DeClutterByDeirdre.com

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Call Today: 203-747-8052

"It's time to remodel and redesign your life the stylish, successful, and soul powered way." Kelly Lynn Adams

Together, she helps you design your work, your play, your side projects, and your shoe collection the new haute couture way so you are runway ready without all the drama.

We discuss:

Mindset shifts and how to better manage stress

Tips to make money now

Pivoting your business

How can you serve?

Soul Powered Business: what are you being called to do?

Need vs Want

Rubber band mindset

Favorite ice cream: Cookie Dough

Song that reminds you of your youth: Girls Just Want to Have Fun

Leisure time activities? Meditation, Podcasts and, this week, The Kardashians

Overstressed, overbooked, overworked, overwhelmed…you need Kelly Lynn Adams

How to get in touch with Kelly Lynn for Private Coaching or Speaking: Kelly Lynn Adams

This episode is sponsored by DeClutter By Deirdre, A Senior Move Management and DeCluttering for Aging In Place Company. Helping You and Your Loved Ones DeClutter, Move & Live a Fuller Life. Look at my website and contact me to work together at [email protected] www.DeClutterByDeirdre.com

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"We have to watch the THOUGHT we have about the "things" as we DeClutter." ~Christine Maziarz

3 Areas that people dread and do not know how to deal with:

• Pictures and other memorabilia
• Household Paperwork
• Time Management

Your Empty Nest Coach, Christine Maziarz https://youremptynestcoach.com/blog/

Association of Personal Photo Organizers is now: The Photo Managers and can be reached at https://ThePhotoManagers.com

"This is a gift to your loved ones…to do it the right way."

"Inheritance is a gift, not a right." ~Ann Fowler-Cruz, Attorney

In this episode Deirdre and Attorney Ann Fowler-Cruz discuss:

• How to find the courage to create a will
• How Ann chose her Elder Law career
• Certified Elder Law Attorney explained
• Why people resist created a will
• The reasons you need a will
• Which age you should create a will?
• Intestate explained
• The importance of Title on Asset
• Ways to inform beneficiaries who gets what
• Who holds the will?
• Legal requirements for a will
• Can you appoint someone to be your executor without them knowing?
• If you are the executor of a will is this written in stone?
• Nomination vs appointment
• The importance of a backup
• Creditor period, what is it?
• Do you need just a will or a will and a trust?
• Living Will vs Healthcare Directive vs Power of Attorney vs Trusts explained
• The important reason you need a will or a trust if you have children under the age of 18 years.
• Check your state laws
• Will contests explained
• The reason you should engage a Certified Elder Law Attorney
• What is probate? Delay and cost avoidance.
• What is a creditor period?

Favorite ice cream: Maple Pecan

Leisure time activity: Any water activities, Kayaking

Song that reminds Ann of her youth and why: Nothing But A House Party, J Geils

Call Attorney Ann Fowler-Cruz 203-749-5570 or email [email protected]

"Ann has been a staunch advocate for the elderly and the disabled for more than a decade. She has the distinction of being a Certified Elder Law Attorney (CELA) by the National Elder Law Foundation* and is accredited to practice before the Department of Veterans Affairs. Her extensive knowledge in the area of elder law enables her to assist the elderly and the disabled in realizing the very best quality of life. Her elder law practice focuses on long-term care planning, asset preservation strategies, Medicaid applications, disability planning, utilizing conservatorships/guardianship and special needs trusts. Her estate planning practice includes the creation of wills, trusts, and advance directives. Ann also handles probate administration." Copied from www.CohenandWolf.com

This episode is sponsored by DeClutter By Deirdre, A Senior Move Management and DeCluttering for Aging In Place Company. Helping You and Your Loved Ones DeClutter, Move & Live a Fuller Life. Look at my website and contact me to work together at [email protected] www.DeClutterByDeirdre.com

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"Our resolutions are only as powerful as the ways in which we tackle them. Sitting back and wishing things were different/better/happier/more peaceful doesn't cut it. Digging in an being active participants in creating the changes we aspire to in our lives and our world is the way to make our declarations move from vision to reality." C J Golden, One Pedal at a Time

"No one tells you to care for yourself." C J Golden

"You get bitter or you get better:

It's that simple. Take what has been dealt

to you and allow it to make you a stronger

person, or allow it to tear you down.

The choice is yours. Choose wisely."

~Rehabilitation Gym at Spaulding Hospital

C J Golden relied on her husband Joe to be her caregiver after back pain caused her to be immobile, then the tables were turned. Deirdre talks to author/speaker C J Golden about:

• The balance of caregiving before Joe got ill
• The progression of illness
• Magical Thinking explained
• How a strong person learns to be vulnerable
• Joe and George Clooney
• How CJ handled caregivers stress
• The Cracks
• The importance of asking for help
• The importance of accepting help
• Gratitude & attitude & acceptance
• Anger that tears us down the most
• The large and small ways C J took care of herself
• Do for yourself
• When forgiveness steps in
• Our choice to be a caregiver
• Ways to help the caregiver in your life
• The difference between doing what you want and what the caregiver wants
• The importance of asking for the type of help you need.

C J's Favorite ice cream: Ferris Acres Creamery Pumpkin

Favorite Song: anything by Bobby Darin

Leisure Time: Cabin in the woods, hiking, guitar playing, exercise

"As the author of Tao of the Defiant Woman: Five Brazen Ways to Accept What You Must and Rebel Against the Rest, and its subsequent book for teen and pre-teen girls, Tao-Girls Rule: Finding Balance, Staying Strong, Being Bold in a World of Challenges, Golden has been writing, blogging, speaking and facilitating workshops for national and local women's and girls' organizations. She continues to help women and teens find joy along their life paths despite the struggles they may encounter

Golden's latest writing remains focused on her new life as a caregiver to her husband, Joe. Paramount are the lessons she has learned, the emotional and physical strain upon her heavily-burdened shoulders, and the realization that, while their roles as husband and wife have been altered, their connection and love have grown stronger."

C J Golden books available from Amazon, Barnes & Noble

How to get in touch with CJ Golden [email protected], to learn more https://www.cjgolden.com/

This episode is sponsored by DeClutter By Deirdre, A Senior Move Management and DeCluttering for Aging In Place Company. Helping You and Your Loved Ones DeClutter, Move & Live a Fuller Life. Look at my website and contact me to work together at [email protected] www.DeClutterByDeirdre.com

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Listen in for an explanation of each tip.

Here are your 5 tips to prepare for a move:

1. Assess your abilities
2. Invite a trusted friend or professional to help you
3. Be honest with yourself regarding how much you can handle
4. Start with one very small area of your home, especially if you are decluttering on your own
5. Give yourself double to triple the amount of time you think it will take you

Good luck, contact me if you to want to engage a professional, it will just take a minute to get you set up and on your way to an easy move.

This episode is sponsored by DeClutter By Deirdre, A Senior Move Management and DeCluttering for Aging In Place Company. Helping You and Your Loved Ones DeClutter, Move & Live a Fuller Life. Look at my website and contact me to work together at [email protected] www.DeClutterByDeirdre.com

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"My number one safety tip is being proactive and anticipating and heading off accidents and falls before they happen."

"We sell independence, safety, trust and dignity, keeping someone's dignity is invaluable." ~Marsi Beck

Today I speak with Marsi Beck of On The Mend Medical Supplies and Equipment about

• Safety in the home
• Independence
• Keeping our dignity
• How they help out of state and out of country loved ones
• Who they serve beyond the aging population and how they serve them
• We also chat about the training they receive and the training they provide to their clients, best in home safety tips and safety products.
• How you can get a FREE home assessment
• We both agree on this number one safety tip

Marsi illustrates how much they care about their customers and think outside of the box in order to help them achieve their goals.

"We are honored to be part of the journey and the solutions." ~Marsi Beck

One of Marsi's mantras and acronyms for our business here at On The Mend is:

KIND

Keeping

Independence

Naturally

Dignified

Favorite ice cream: Ben & Jerry's Almond Milk Coffee ice cream

Song that reminds Marsi of her youth: Blood, Sweat & Tears, The Carpenters …

Leisure time: Traveling to see her children, hanging out with family & friends, a healthy fitness lifestyle, working out at the gym

You can contact Marsi at On The Mend Medical Supplies & Equipment

Call: 203-262-0383

Address: 385 Main Street South, Unit 102, Southbury, CT 06488

Website: https://onthemendmedical.com/

Email: [email protected]

Or follow them on Facebook, LinkedIn or YouTube to watch their informative and many times hysterical clips.

This episode is sponsored by DeClutter By Deirdre, A Senior Move management. Helping You and Your Loved Ones DeClutter, Move & Live a Fuller Life. Take a look at my website and contact me to work together. www.DeClutterByDeirdre.com

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"The older women are who sit in my chair, I feel the more confident they are."

"We want to push you out of your comfort box but we don't want you running for the hills either. "

"I'm the type of stylist that encourages people to embrace their hair, I hate when people keep fighting it. It's in your DNA to flatter you." ~Taylor Burke

Hairstylist Taylor Burke gives us lots of hints to take care of our aging hair. Why hasn't someone told me these hints before now???

We discuss women's dirty little secret, the importance of moisture in aging hair and the very eye-opening reason to clean and massage your hairline daily.

Some easy to implement, result-based hints include:

• How many times a week should you wash your hair?
• Why/how to use dry shampoo (did you know it comes in colors?)
• Shampoo or conditioner, which has the most effect on your hair?
• Should you purchase higher-end products from Goldwell or Bumble and bumble for example or do lower-priced or more generic work just as well?
• Should you change your shampoo often?
• How to embrace your hair to flatter you and who you are
• How to prevent breakage
• Which products to use for aging hair?
• Which works best for our aging hair: mousse, gel, oil?
• The best way to treat curly hair
• The most flattering hair length for mid-lifers
• How often should we cut our hair?

Leisure time is spent with her adorable daughter

Taylor's favorite ice cream? Cookie Jar

What song reminds you of your youth and why? Backstreet Boys, Britney Spears, anything 90's

Contact Taylor Burke, TJ Hair Studio, Sandy Hook, CT (203) 304-1362

Website: tjhairstudio.com

This episode is sponsored by DeClutter By Deirdre, A Senior Move management. Helping You and Your Loved Ones DeClutter, Move & Live a Fuller Life. Take a look at my website and contact me to work together. www.DeClutterByDeirdre.com

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