Why is it that some friendships don’t survive divorce?

When a marriage ends, some friends feel like they have to take sides. Others are overwhelmed and simply don’t know what to say. But if you’re willing to move through a little awkwardness, you can keep the friendships that matter to you after a divorce.

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW, is a licensed therapist with an expertise in supporting children, adults, couples and families through divorce recovery. She is also the founder of Moving Past Divorce and author of The Remarriage Manual: How to Make Everything Work Better the Second Time Around, the 2020 winner of the American Book Fest’s Best Book Award for Self-Help: Relationships.

On this episode of the podcast, Terry joins Katherine to share the four key reasons why some friendships don’t survive a divorce. She discusses the common misunderstanding that life is ruined by divorce, describing what it looks like to reclaim aspects of yourself that you abandoned in an unhappy marriage. Listen in for Terry's insight on finding a new partner post-divorce (without repeating the same mistakes) and learn how to maintain the friendships that are important to you after a divorce.

Topics Covered

How Terry got interested in the work of divorce recovery and remarriage

The common misunderstanding that your life is ruined by divorce

What it looks like to reclaim aspects of yourself that you abandoned in an unhappy marriage

The top 4 reasons why some friendships don’t survive divorce

What it’s like for Terry to compare her personal experience with that of her clients

How to maintain the friendships that are important to you after a divorce

Why people self-isolate to avoid pity or social awkwardness during a divorce

Best practices for finding a new partner after divorce (without repeating the same mistakes)

Why intentional communication is crucial in creating a successful stepfamily

Terry’s best advice for practicing positive communication

Connect with Terry Gaspard

Moving Past Divorce:

https://movingpastdivorce.com/

Moving Past Divorce on Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/movingpastdivorce

Moving Past Divorce on Twitter:

https://twitter.com/movepastdivorce

Terry on LinkedIn:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/terry-gaspard-28738b4a/

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/

Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/

Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246

Email: [email protected]

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

The Remarriage Manual: How to Make Everything Work Better the Second Time Around by Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW:

https://movingpastdivorce.com/the-re-marraige-manual/