Make it Mentionable with Alyssa Kulesa (formerly Alyssa Patmos)

Self-help can feel like a public bathroom. You know you have to go, but you don’t really want to use it. Change is easier when it elicits positive emotions like joy, pleasure, or hope. It’s harder when it elicits criticism, judgement, shame, and guilt. Self-help can quickly leave us feeling like there’s a laundry list of things to “fix” about ourselves. Pivot your perspective from self-help to self-growth to make the progress you’ve been longing for and watch your changes stick.

The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/episodes/pivot-from-self-help-to-self-growth

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Resilience is a life changer, shaper, and saver. In this episode, I’m dishing my top tip for how to become more resilient. All throughout I’m rooting for the expansive life. The kind of life where you bounce back from challenges quicker, and choose expansion over constriction. Pivoting to resilience will help you get there.

The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/episodes/my-top-tip-for-becoming-more-resilient

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This week I’m coming to you from my hotel room in Greece with 3 insights I’ve been reminded of for more presence. We can never reduce all the things that take us out of the present moment, so what do we do instead? These insights will help you reclaim more presence, whether you’re at home or traveling.

The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/episodes/3-insights-for-more-presence

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Changing directions can feel daunting at times. It’s like one part of you knows you need something new, but another part may be freaking out at the thought of switching things up. In this episode, Stephanie King joins me to co-host a conversation about how to change directions—especially if it feels overwhelming. 

ABOUT STEPHANIE

Stephanie King is a long time entrepreneur and organic Skincare and Sugaring expert based in Parma, Italy. After almost a decade of running her brick and mortar businesses in the US she relocated abroad to start her training academy and skincare distribution business in the UK and EU. Stephanie is a champion for small business and bootstrap start ups in the beauty space and always on the look out for the next up and coming trend in the industry (and beyond). She happily resides in beautiful northern Italy with her husband and son but enjoys traveling back to the US as much as possible. 

The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/when-you-want-to-change-directions-with-stephanie-king

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Ever feel like there isn't enough time? This week I'm talking about the power of our attention. If we want to reclaim our time, we have to reclaim where our attention flows. Because if we aren’t intentional about our attention, everyone else is happy to claim it for themselves. Our attitudes, thoughts, and actions get an upgrade when we're conscious of where our attention is going. I share three questions to reclaim your agency around your attention so you can experience your peace, joy, and creativity more deeply. 

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The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/whos-in-charge-of-your-attention

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Sometimes conflict in relationships feels like a tsunami, flooding our systems. Other times, it feels like the tide going in and out—inevitable, but gentle. In this episode, I’m riffing on 5 perspective shifts that transform triggering moments in relationships before they turn tsunami status. I’m cheering for less turmoil and more peace in your life. 

The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/5-perspectives-for-more-peace-in-life-and-love

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Conflict gets a bad rap. When conflict is handled with care it can lead to greater intimacy time and time again. In this episode of Make it Mentionable, I’m sharing a new way to handle conflict so you can let go of emotional whiplash and experience more peace.

The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/Relationship-Ruptures-Wild-Emotions-and-Inner-Peace

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I’m fascinated by the ways we can resolve conflict faster, navigate conversations with more elegance, and go from rupture to repair with less disruption. But how do we do all that? Behavioral flexibility. (Ability to do the splits not required).

Tune in to hear:

💋🎙 Why you don’t need to be the smartest person in the room (and what to strive for instead) 

💋🎙 Why behavioral flexibility is a superpower and how to cultivate it

💋🎙 3 tips to become a better communicator immediately

You’ll walk away a more empowered communicator. 

The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/Become-a-More-Powerful-Communicator

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This week I’m diving into competition, comparison, and the courage to be yourself.

Are you playing in a league of your own? Or are you playing in the muddy waters of someone else’s desires?

Hit play for a conversation on: 

💋🎙How comparison traps us in discontent and how to stop it

💋🎙The downsides of focusing on your competition

💋🎙Why knowing what we want sets us free (in all areas of life)

💋🎙The perspective shift that allowed me to escape the traps of comparison

You can find the email I read from Cole Schafer here: https://coleschafer.com/works-in-progress/66

The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/Escape-the-Comparison-Trap

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If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, this episode’s for you.

What’s in store...

💋🎙 Discover the two critical factors that lead to overwhelm

💋🎙 The two questions you can ask yourself to stop overwhelm in its tracks

💋🎙 Why constraints are are the antidote to overwhelm

💋🎙 How to create constraints that expand instead of constrict

Did this episode spark a clever constraint? Share it with me in the comments. The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/feeling-overwhelmed-try-this

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