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What happens when being responsible, disciplined, and always doing the "right" thing starts getting in the way of intimacy, pleasure, and connection?

In this episode, Dr. Ginger Garner is joined by sex and relationship therapist Dr. Tom Murray, author of Making Nice with Naughty, for a candid conversation about perfectionism, over-control, sexual shame, and the hidden ways they impact our relationships. Together, they explore how cultural messaging, fear of vulnerability, chronic pain, and nervous system protection can shape our experiences of desire, intimacy, and sexual wellness.

If you've ever felt disconnected from pleasure, struggled with performance pressure, or wondered why intimacy feels harder than it should, this episode offers a compassionate and practical perspective on creating more flexibility, curiosity, and connection.

Read the blog post here!

Resources:

1. DrTomMurray.com
2. APathtoWellness.com
3. PracticeMuse.com
4. Email: [email protected]
5. Instagram @drtommurray @apathtowellness
6. Facebook: Dr Tom Murray
7. Youtube: @makingnicewithnaughty 
8. Making Nice with Naughty Podcast
9. Making Nice with Naughty Book
   1. Audible Version
   2. Spotify Audiobook

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