What would it mean to raise a child who never learns to be ashamed of their body?
In this episode, Jessica sits down with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers — licensed sex therapist, bestselling author, researcher, and founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy — for a conversation that every parent needs to hear.
From the definition of sexual shame and how it develops from infancy, to the impact of abstinence-only education on an entire generation, to the practical framework for healing shame and changing your family's legacy — Dr. Tina brings the research, the tools, and the deep humanity that has made her work transformational for thousands of families. She also shares her work with psychedelic-assisted therapy for trauma, and why she's on a mission to make healing accessible to everyone.
This one will change the way you think about your own story — and the one you want to pass on.
MAIN TOPICS COVERED
- Dr. Tina's Swedish upbringing — why she thought every family talked about sexuality like recipes
- The first wave of abstinence-only education and the shame epidemic it created
- The clinical definition of sexual shame — and why it starts earlier than most parents realize
- What to say when your baby finds their genitals for the first time (and why it matters more than you think)
- How sexual shame develops across the lifespan — from infancy through adolescence
- The role of authoritarian religious structures in creating unsafe environments for curiosity
- Religious trauma and sexual shame — how they intersect and where they come from
- The Frame, Name, Claim, Aim model for healing sexual shame
- Practical tools for raising shame-free kids at every developmental stage
- Shameless Parenting — what's in it and how to use it as a roadmap
- The Northwest Institute on Intimacy — training clinicians in sexual health
- Psychedelic-assisted therapy for trauma — the research, the ethics, and the Inana Rising organization
- The patient equity scholarship fund and Indigenous Reparations Fund
- Dr. Tina's offer: free promo codes for her books for anyone who can't afford them
RESOURCES MENTIONED
- Northwest Institute on Intimacy
- Inana Rising (psychedelic-assisted therapy organization) — https://inannarising.org/
- Girls and Sex and Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein — referenced
- Brené Brown's work on shame — referenced
HOW TO CONNECT WITH DR. TINA
- Website: TinaSchermerSellers.com
- Instagram: @drtinashameless (parenting/shame work)
- Shameless Parenting by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers
- Sex, God and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers
This episode is sponsored by Collabs Creative - a boutique digital marketing company helping small business owners and creatives tell their story.
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