The third and final installment of Boys Don’t Cry. Tom Lutz wrote the book on crying. I say the book because if you’ve read any modern studies of tears, you inevitably come across a reference to his book. And as we near the end of our crying series, we’re going to hear from Tom Lutz himself, speaking about his personal history with tears.

In recent years, we’ve seen politicians cry, many of them men. It makes you wonder: is the Muskie Rule, that there’s no crying in politics, finally dead? In Part II of Boys Don’t Cry, a series Man-ish is doing on men and crying, we find out how much things have changed. If Muskie got into a time machine and traveled to present day, what would happen?

Today’s show is the first installment in a series on men and crying. We will revisit the incident that lead to the Muskie Rule, which is an unwritten maxim in politics that candidates who cry in front of the press will end up like Edmund Muskie, whose 1972 presidential bid imploded when he choked up in public.

Oral history recordings were graciously provided by The Edmund S. Muskie Archives and Special Collections Library. Special thanks to John Milne, Jim Witherell, Emily Palena, Brandon Pascal, and Shoshana Walter.

Correction: An earlier version misstated that Edmond Muskie was the first democratic Governor of Maine since WWI. Although it was unusual for a democrat to win the governorship, there was in fact a democrat elected to the governor's office in 1933. The episode has been updated to reflect this.

Update: No, you're not going crazy. Man-ish (formerly Mannish) got a hyphen. It better captures what the show is about (the social construction of masculinity).

If I say body image, what do you think of? Stomach fat? Thigh gap? Laser hair removal? You probably think of women. And for good reason. Because women get a lot of pressure to look a certain way. But this happens to men, too. And that’s worth talking about. In this episode, we’ll home in on one aspect of men’s body image: hair loss. First, we’ll take a look inside the thriving hair loss prevention industry and then we’ll explore the underlying motivations that drive men to take drastic measures and how the world of psychotherapy might approach this differently.

This episode is a collaboration with the wonderful podcast A Therapist Walks Into A Bar.

Credits:

Produced By:

Lily Sloane & Jesse Rhodes

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Music:

Maruumba, Man of Mystery, The Pieces Fit, Mayday in the Morning by Topher M. Lewis

Lavender White by People Like Us and Old Fashioned Auto Piano obtained via creative commons at FreeSound.org

Additional Music & Sound Design by:

Lily Sloane

Other Media:

WTF am I going bald???!!!!

Special thanks to the strangers at the bar for sharing your stories, Lucky 13 for letting us fraternize with microphones on your patio, and Shoshana Walter for your feedback.

Update: No, you're not going crazy. Man-ish (formerly Mannish) got a hyphen. It better captures what the show is about (the social construction of masculinity).

If I say body image, what do you think of? Stomach fat? Thigh gap? Laser hair removal? You probably think of women. And for good reason. Because women get a lot of pressure to look a certain way. But this happens to men, too. And that’s worth talking about. In this episode, we’ll hone in on one aspect of men’s body image: hair loss. First, we’ll take a look inside the thriving hair loss prevention industry and then we’ll explore the underlying motivations that drive men to take drastic measures and how the world of psychotherapy might approach this differently. This episode is a collaboration with the wonderful podcast A Therapist Walks Into A Bar.Credits:Produced By:Lily Sloane & Jesse Rhodes​Music:Maruumba, Man of Mystery, The Pieces Fit, Mayday in the Morning by Topher M. LewisLavender White by People Like Us and Old Fashioned Auto Piano obtained via creative commons at FreeSound.orgAdditional Music & Sound Design by: Lily SloaneOther Media:WTF am I going bald???!!!!Special thanks to the strangers at the bar for sharing your stories, Lucky 13 for letting us fraternize with microphones on your patio, and Shoshana Walter for your feedback.

Internet porn. We’ve all seen it. It’s popular and loved. And yet, for fairly obvious reasons, it’s also reviled for its misogyny, as something that perpetuates cycles of violence against women. In this episode, we wade into the murky waters of sexual fantasy. In part one, we hear from a sociologist who went into men's homes and watched their porn. In part two, we try a different approach - we hear from porn users themselves. In this electronic opera, porn users interact with pundits and music in an amalgam of sounds composed to form a larger conversation about porn.

Credits:

Special thanks to Alex Klein, Florian Voros, and Derek Wilson for speaking with me on tape. To read the full letters from Susannah Breslin’s project, "Letters from Men who Watch Pornography," go to:

http://lettersfromwatchers.blogspot.com/

Also, thank you to all the readers who volunteered their voices: Brandon Pascal, Cliff Casablancas, Ken Look, Christopher Rhodes, Rachel Rhodes, Gregory Palena, Anthony Corey Chan, Ryan Hardiman, Nick Koch, Tony Ta, Shoshana Walter, Alan Walter, Nihal Oztek, and Simon Lam.

Music licensed under Creative Commons:

Minden - On Assignment http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Minden/Instrumentals_1967/On_Assignment_Instrumental

Josh Spacek - Gotta Keep Moving http://freemusicarchive.org/music/The_Losers/Start_Over/Gotta_Keep_Moving

Super Sigil - Bohemia Groove http://ccmixter.org/files/Super_Sigil/41167

Chris Zabriskie - Readers! Do you Read? http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Chris_Zabriskie/Reappear/02_-_Readers_Do_You_Read

Podington Bear - Lleb http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Podington_Bear/Marimba_Vibraphone_Chimes__Bells/Lleb

Kevin MacLeod - Club Driver https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MhsrR_uvJ7M

Kevin MacLeod - Cut and Run https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1mVzSlddPo

Kevin MacLeod - Lightless Dawn https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6E5uY08HThc

Morgantj - Granular Erotic 1 http://ccmixter.org/files/morgantj/21123

Morgantj - Granular Erotic 2 http://ccmixter.org/files/morgantj/21125

Williamberry - Beepish 1 http://ccmixter.org/files/williamberry/5987

Williamberry - Beepish 2 http://ccmixter.org/files/williamberry/5988

Williamberry - Time to Take out the Trash http://ccmixter.org/files/williamberry/6855

Nelas - Backnoise http://ccmixter.org/files/NeLaS/8026

Kentbye - Group Om http://ccmixter.org/files/kentbye/8981

PorchCat - Nym Junglist Drums http://ccmixter.org/files/PorchCat/5252

Tonux_gix - Turbulence http://ccmixter.org/files/tonux_gix/48835

Arcadian Burn - Killa Beat no link

Fourstones - Hip Hop Etude http://ccmixter.org/files/victor/8453

Djolliej - Don’t Run on Drugs http://ccmixter.org/files/djolliej/33710

Scottaltham - Slap a Lard Ass http://ccmixter.org/files/scottaltham/19319

My Free Mickey - First Place http://ccmixter.org/files/myfreemickey/44325

Stellarartwars - Love Liberation http://ccmixter.org/files/stellarartwars/43500

Soundeffectsfactory - FM Radio Tuning #1 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EzBq5faeoKY

Update: No, you're not going crazy. Man-ish (formerly Mannish) got a hyphen. It better captures what the show is about (the social construction of masculinity).

Growing up, my family played a lot of music. We also performed... mostly funerals. The driving force behind it all? My dad. So, in order to better understand my dad, I revisited the audio cassettes of those funerals and the deaths that prompted them.

Music Credit:

"Upbeat" by Jon Luc Hefferman is licensed under a Attribution-NonCommercial 3.0 International License.

http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Jon_Luc_Hefferman/Production_Music_1841/Upbeat

Based on a work at http://needledrop.co

All other songs were by the family funeral band and were recorded by my dad, Ted Rhodes.

Update: No, you're not going crazy. Man-ish (formerly Mannish) got a hyphen. It better captures what the show is about (the social construction of masculinity).

A preview of Mannish: a show that explores the meaning of masculinity through storytelling.

Song Credit:

"Netherland" by Podington Bear, Attribution-NonCommercial 3.0 International License, http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Podington_Bear/Curious/Netherland