In addition to the many joys of authentic relating and abundant love, polyamorous relationships can also bring up challenging feelings, like jealousy, insecurity and fear of missing out. There are as many ways of dealing with these feelings as there are relationships, including a range of relationship hierarchies, rules, communication strategies, or preferences, and the underpinning of all effective strategies including honest, open, non-judgemental communication. 

In this episode, Josh talks about a component of managing jealousy that’s less often discussed, perhaps because it’s less comfortable for the jealous partner. He takes us through steps he’s taken to manage his own emotions and grow into confidence, secure attachment and healthy interdependence. His reflections range from big picture questions of self-worth to day-to-day strategies of distraction.

The idea that we are all responsible for our own happiness can be understood as a source of liberation: we have the keys to unlock the kingdom for ourselves. Although communication in a relationship is of course important, learning and developing strength as an individual is also a critical part of making polyamory a more life-giving experience. 

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