How much time do you spend in the future? I put dates in my diary but other than that I spend little time in the future these days but that wasn't always the case. I used to be a virtually full time worrier. I would make up scenarios in my head and then try to reassure myself that it would be okay. It was exhausting but I know I am not the only one.

Here's the challenge with the future and you might need to read this sentence a few times. We cannot guarantee to the mind that the things we are fearing in the future are not going to happen. But we try don't we. So what is actually happening is that we are making up the future and then trying to manage the thing we made up. It's like trying to run an APP from the future on our 2022 mobile phone. It just doesn't work.

Waking up from this is actually easier than you think. It's all in the feeling. Your off feeling is not telling you about the future scenario, but it is telling you about your thinking about the future scenario. Off feeling comes from off thinking. Realising this in the moment can help that future thinking to make a lot less sense.

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