Pele grew up on the North Shore of Hawaii, where love and violence lived side by side. In a world that taught boys to fight first and feel later, he learned to survive by strength, anger, and silence. But survival isn’t the same as peace.

In this episode of Manalizing, Garth Haslem sits down with his close friend Pele — a husband, father, grandfather, and quiet warrior — to talk about what happens when the rules of your childhood no longer fit the man you’ve become. They explore the weight of cultural expectations, breaking cycles of aggression, and what it really means to love your family when you’re still learning to love yourself.

Pele’s story is one of faith, humility, and hard truth — a man raised in war who found his strength in gentleness, his honor in healing, and his purpose in serving others.

If you’ve ever felt like an island — cut off, misunderstood, or carrying a world that no one else sees — this one will hit home.

Pele Manalizing, Polynesian men, North Shore Hawaii, Samoan culture, breaking cycles, fatherhood, men’s healing, trauma recovery, faith and family, masculinity and vulnerability, men’s mental health.

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