Manalizing

Today we’re talking to Paul Gehring — author of Scars You Can’t See — about the kind of pain men carry quietly. Paul is the guy everyone calls “the rock.” Husband. Father of four. Caregiver to a wife who has endured multiple open-heart surgeries and a life-altering stroke.

From the outside, he looks steady. Inside? Anxiety. Panic attacks. Depression. Suicidal thoughts. Burnout. Shame. Self-medication. And the constant pressure to hold it all together. In this conversation, we talk about:

• Planning your wife’s funeral the night before surgery

• Sitting in a hospital wondering if she will wake up

• Being the “strong one” while quietly cracking

• Why men don’t ask for help

• The lie that vulnerability is weakness

• What support actually looks like

• Why depression tells you you’re alone (and why that’s not true)

• And how trauma can either fracture a family — or forge it

Paul shares the moment he nearly ended his life… and the therapy that saved it.

We talk about guilt, resentment, isolation, alcohol, acceptance, and the pressure men feel to be the rock — even when they feel more like a cotton ball underwater.

This episode is honest. Raw. Real. If you’ve ever thought:

• “I should be able to handle this.”
• “I don’t want to burden anyone.”
• “Nobody understands what I’m carrying.”
• “Maybe it would be easier if I just wasn’t here.”

Listen to this one. You are not alone. And the things we don’t talk about own us.

Paul’s book: Scars You Can’t See: Chaos Survived, Fear Faced, and The Will To Fight Found is available on Amazon.

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Adrain Brodeur’s story is one of faith forged in fire. From an abusive childhood to the edge of suicide at eight years old, he found redemption in the belief that his life still mattered — and in time, built a family rooted in love, trust, and faith.

In this conversation, Adrain opens up about what it means to raise strong kids, stay married through every storm, and heal the past by choosing grace over bitterness. You’ll hear about fatherhood, trauma, forgiveness, and the legacy of a man who refused to let darkness define him.

If you’ve ever wondered how to rebuild when the past won’t let go — this one’s for you.

faith, fatherhood, trauma, forgiveness, resilience, legacy, marriage, parenting, men’s mental health, generational healing, Manalizing

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In this unfiltered episode of Manalizing, Nate Shepardson lays bare the battle with pornography addiction and the deeper story beneath it—childhood shame, lost years, financial collapse, and the desperate search for connection. From blowing his net worth on a failed business to staring down unemployment and debt, Nate doesn’t flinch from the “hard.”

But what emerges is not defeat—it’s a system of recovery built on resolve, altered beliefs, daily habits, and the power of phrases like “We don’t do that anymore.” With honesty about relapse, dopamine, and the toxic mix of shame and silence, Nate offers men a way forward: not perfection, but progress. If you’ve ever felt trapped in cycles you can’t break, this conversation will give you tools, language, and hope to rise again.

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He lost a home, broke his body, and nearly ended his life — but somewhere in the wreckage, he found God, purpose, and a new definition of being a man.

Glenn Loveless has lived a life most men couldn’t survive.

He’s a husband of 21 years, father of seven, former bodybuilder, and founder of Your Wingman Coaching.

He’s also a man who has known pain — from losing a home in a lawsuit, to surviving a mountain bike crash that nearly killed him, to facing the moment he held a gun to his own head.

In this conversation, Glenn opens up about what happens when everything you thought made you a man — work, strength, achievement — is suddenly stripped away. He talks about failure, faith, and learning to rebuild when all that’s left is the will to keep breathing.

We explore what it means to heal the boy inside us, and how to forge the man we were meant to become — one scar, one lesson, and one act of courage at a time.

This episode is a raw and redemptive look at what it really takes to grow through pain, not just past it.

Suicidal ideation, accident trauma, faith discussion, family conflict.

• Losing everything — and learning to start again
• The mountain bike crash that changed his life
• “I had a gun in my hand on Christmas Eve” — how emotion suppression nearly killed him
• The truth about men, emotion, and real stoicism
• What his broken body taught him about identity
• How pain refines a man instead of defining him
• Fatherhood, faith, and asking for help when you never have before
• The story behind Heal the Boy, Forge the Man
• “Every man breaks. What matters is how we rebuild.”
• “I’d never been a man before — of course I was going to screw it up.”
• “The more fractures you have, the more valuable you become once you’re whole again.”
• “The Lord left me in the fire long enough not to be destroyed.”
• “When you share your mess, it becomes your message.”
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Glenn Loveless, Your Wingman Coaching, Heal the Boy Forge the Man, men’s mental health, suicide prevention, masculinity, stoicism, vulnerability, faith, fatherhood, trauma recovery, emotional intelligence, Garth Haslem, Manalizing podcast

• Heal the Boy, Forge the Man — by Glenn Loveless
• Your Wingman Coaching — yourwingmancoach.com
• Promise to Live / I Love You Bro Project
• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (U.S.) — dial 988
• Manalizing.com — where men talk about what men don’t talk about

If Glenn’s story speaks to you — if you’ve been through the fire, or you’re still in it — share this episode with a man who needs to hear that healing is possible.

Then visit Manalizing.com and find your brothers.

You don’t have to rebuild alone.

He’s a soldier, survivor, and straight shooter. But behind the humor and grit is a man who’s been choked, stabbed, and nearly took his own life — and lived to talk about it.

🎧 Episode DescriptionWyatt Black is the kind of man who’s seen both sides of the line — the uniformed world of order and the private world of chaos.

A U.S. Army veteran and tech entrepreneur, Wyatt opens up about the night his wife tried to kill him, his struggles with PTSD, and the moment he almost ended his life in a bathtub with a bottle of vodka and a handful of razor blades.

In this brutally honest conversation, Wyatt shares how one unexpected phone call saved his life, why men are terrible at talking about emotions, and what it really means to “man up.” He and Garth talk about military culture, manipulation, divorce, and the unspoken pain that drives too many men to silence — and sometimes, to suicide.

But this isn’t a story of despair. It’s a story about redemption, honesty, and how learning to speak your truth can literally save your life.

Domestic violence, suicide attempt, PTSD, alcohol abuse, and trauma discussion.

• The night his wife stabbed him — and what he learned from it
• Why “man up” is the worst advice men ever got
• Emotional manipulation and the blind spots men don’t see coming
• What the Army taught him about communication and accountability
• How one phone call — and one hug — saved his life
• Learning to be valuable again after losing everything
• Redefining strength, vulnerability, and self-worth
• Why violating the man rules might be the only way to survive
• “If you’re not violating the man rules, you’re doing life wrong.”
• “I laid there and told her, if you’re gonna do this, then kill me.”
• “Every man breaks. What matters is how he rebuilds.”
• “I wasn’t valuable — not to myself, not to anyone. So I had to start being valuable.”
• “Sometimes, the most masculine thing you can do is pick up the phone.”

Wyatt Black, military PTSD, domestic violence survivor, suicide prevention, men’s mental health, vulnerability, masculinity, emotional intelligence, Army veteran, Sentinel AI Security, tech entrepreneurship, Manalizing podcast, Garth Haslem

• Sentinel AI Security — sentinelaisecurity.com
• Manalizing.com — where men talk about the things men don’t talk about
• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (U.S.) — dial 988

If you’ve ever been told to “man up,” or felt like no one would understand what you’re fighting, listen to this one.

Wyatt’s story is a reminder that you don’t need to be perfect — you just need to stay.

Then visit Manalizing.com and join a tribe.

You don’t have to fight alone.

He was a linebacker for the University of Utah — strong, driven, and unstoppable. But the real story started after the lights went out and life got quiet.

Boo Anderson is a man who’s lived both power and pain.

A former University of Utah linebacker and now a successful financial planner, husband, and father, Boo opens up about what happens when life doesn’t go according to the playbook.

In this episode, he shares his story of chasing dreams, tearing his ACL, watching the NFL slip away, and going through divorce and fatherhood from a distance. He talks about the dark stretch that followed — living with his parents, wondering who he was — and how humility, faith, and fatherhood slowly rebuilt him from the inside out.

We talk about manhood, accountability, and how God refines us in the fire — not to break us, but to make us whole.

This is one of those conversations that starts with football but ends in something deeper: peace, purpose, and the kind of strength that only comes from surrender.

Divorce, loss, parenting struggles, faith transitions.

• Growing up shy — and learning to speak up
• The dream of the NFL, and what happens when it slips away
• Divorce, disappointment, and the slow rebuild
• Learning humility through failure
• Fatherhood from a distance — and how to keep showing up
• Finding Christ and discovering real freedom
• Why trials are the refiner’s fire, not punishment
• “Your life is not just for you — it’s about who you help.”
• “The Lord left me in the fire just long enough to not be destroyed.”
• “The hardest part of losing wasn’t football — it was being away from my kids.”
• “You can’t change the event. You can only change your response.”
• “Life isn’t about you. It’s about who you help.”
• “The Lord won’t let you ruin your spiritual self chasing the wrong dream.”

Boo Anderson, University of Utah football, faith after failure, divorce recovery, fatherhood, humility, refiner’s fire, LDS Church, men’s mental health, accountability, self-worth, Garth Haslem, Manalizing podcast

• The Optimistic Child — Martin Seligman
• The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
• Financial planning through Diversify.com
• Manalizing.com — where men talk about what men don’t talk about

If Boo’s story reminds you of your own — chasing dreams, falling hard, and finding faith again — share this episode with someone who’s rebuilding.

Then visit Manalizing.com — find a tribe, tell your story, and see who you really are.

He’s buried six friends to suicide, lost his dad, his marriage, and nearly himself — but learned how to turn pain into peace and struggle into strength.

Adam Sharp knows loss.

In the past eight years, he’s buried six people to suicide, lost his dad unexpectedly, and watched his marriage of seventeen years dissolve. Yet somehow, he’s not bitter — he’s grounded, grateful, and wiser than most men you’ll ever meet.

In this powerful conversation, Adam talks about grief, guilt, and the impossible moments that break a man down. He shares how a tough-as-nails counselor helped him face the truth, how the gym and a stack of books rebuilt his mind, and how accountability became the backbone of his healing.

From Spherical Man to family tragedies to finding real love again, this episode is a masterclass in what it means to grow stronger instead of harder.

Adam reminds us that you can’t save everyone — but everyone can save someone.

Suicide, grief, loss of family members, divorce, substance mention, trauma recovery.

• Six suicides in eight years — and the guilt that follows
• What “man up” really does to men
• How one counselor “Betty White’d” him into growth
• The marriage that turned into roommates
• Learning to forgive, to love, and to let go
• Raising kids after divorce — without weapons drawn
• The two books that changed his life
• “You can’t save everyone — but everyone can save someone.”
• “Quit chasing happiness. Just be content.”
• “The hardest thing in life is to forgive the people who’ve hurt you.”
• “When you’re in your weakest moment, find peace in the pain and joy in the struggle.”
• “Sometimes the best way to help is just to give someone your time.”

Adam Sharp, men’s mental health, suicide prevention, grief, divorce recovery, accountability, self-improvement, forgiveness, fatherhood, Spherical Man, Extreme Ownership, therapy for men, Letting Go by Hawkins, Hole in My Love Cup, masculinity, vulnerability, Manalizing podcast, Garth Haslem

• There’s a Hole in My Love Cup — Sven Erlandson
• Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender — David R. Hawkins
• Extreme Ownership — Jocko Willink & Leif Babin
• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline — dial 988 (U.S.)
• Manalizing.com — where men talk about what men don’t talk about

If Adam’s story hit you, share this episode with a friend who’s carrying too much.

Then visit Manalizing.com — join a tribe, tell your story, and be heard.

You can’t save everyone, but you can save someone.

He looks like he has it all — talent, brains, creativity — but inside, he fights the same voices every man does: lazy, useless, not enough.

Jeff Beck is the kind of guy who seems to have it all figured out.

Brilliant, creative, successful — a photographer, game designer, podcast host, and comedian. But what happens when the man everyone admires starts wondering if any of it matters?

In this honest and raw conversation, Jeff opens up about ADHD, imposter syndrome, and the late-night voices that whisper, you’re not enough. He shares how he went from failure and layoffs to rediscovering purpose through creativity, connection, and brutal self-honesty.

This episode hits deep for every man who’s ever looked successful on the outside but felt broken on the inside.

Mental health struggles, ADHD, self-loathing, suicidal thoughts (non-graphic).

• Growing up as “the smart kid” — and what happens when it stops being easy
• Why being fired can be the best thing that ever happens to you
• The ADHD double life: visionary and chaos
• What it’s like to be a connector, not a star
• How men mistake “what I do” for “who I am”
• The quiet truth behind talent: constant self-doubt
• Learning to own your holes instead of hiding them
• The creator’s curse — and why making things still saves him
• “I’m brave in the daylight and a coward at night.”
• “I don’t trust myself. That’s the scariest part.”
• “I’m not lazy — I’m overwhelmed.”
• “When I make something, it’s the one time I feel like I matter.”
• “We all have holes. The trick is to stop pretending we don’t.”

Jeff Beck, ADHD, creativity, depression, imposter syndrome, men’s mental health, purpose, burnout, entrepreneurship, self-doubt, perfectionism, Manalizing, Garth Haslem podcast

If you’ve ever looked like you’re winning but felt like you’re falling apart, this episode is for you.

Share it with a man who creates, who questions, or who’s quietly fighting himself.

Then join us at Manalizing.com — where men talk about the things men don’t talk about.

He was homeless, drunk, and ready to end it all — until he learned that real freedom isn’t doing whatever you want. It’s becoming who you’re meant to be.

At twenty-six, Sean Van Brent has already lived a lifetime.

Marine veteran, roofer, and entrepreneur, he’s been homeless, addicted, and suicidal. He’s also been sober, successful, and at peace — and the gap between those two worlds came down to one word: freedom.

In this raw conversation, Sean opens up about being kicked out of the Marines, losing his sense of worth, and spiraling into isolation and alcohol. He talks about the night he almost didn’t make it, the cops who showed up at just the right time, and how “extreme ownership” pulled him back from the edge.

This episode is a study in rebuilding — from rock bottom to redemption.

If you’ve ever wondered what keeps a man alive when everything’s gone, listen to this one.

Alcoholism, drug use, suicidal thoughts, military trauma, homelessness, recovery.

• The Marine Corps and the moment everything fell apart
• Homeless in a Mitsubishi — and how he survived it
• Abandonment, betrayal, and the dark side of discipline
• “I drank so I wouldn’t dream.”
• Why taking away someone’s gun doesn’t fix the pain
• What does save a man: brotherhood and honesty
• From victim to ownership — how Sean found purpose again
• What freedom really means (and what it doesn’t)
• “I drank so I couldn’t dream.”
• “When the Corps kicked me out, it felt like the world did too.”
• “You can’t escape what’s in your head by changing your location.”
• “Freedom isn’t anarchy — it’s loving yourself enough to do good.”
• “Stop being the victim. Own it. Change it.”
• “Love what you’re doing, love the people around you, and truck forward.”

Sean Van Brent, homelessness, addiction recovery, Marine veteran, military trauma, suicide prevention, men’s mental health, freedom, self-ownership, accountability, extreme ownership, vulnerability, abandonment issues, Garth Haslem, Manalizing podcast

• Extreme Ownership — Jocko Willink & Leif Babin
• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (U.S.) — dial 988
• Local addiction-recovery or veteran-support groups
• Manalizing.com — where men talk about what men don’t talk about

If Sean’s story hit home, share this episode with a man who’s fighting alone.

Then visit Manalizing.com — join a tribe, find your brothers, and start living free.

No one climbs out of the dark alone.

Adam is an unassuming veteran who is both a regular guy and the salt of the earth. Here is a man with great wisdom and great humility. This is a very impressive man. Here's his interview