What happens when a man wakes up and realizes he’s been living on autopilot—running the same patterns, reacting the same way, and never truly steering his own life?

In this episode, Wes Earls joins Garth Haslem for a raw, winding conversation about loneliness, control, and the patterns that keep men stuck. From childhood abuse to school bullying, from suicidal thoughts to spiritual awakening, Wes shares how he finally learned to stop living as a passenger and start driving his own life.

Together they explore isolation, masculinity, and the deep power of self-awareness—the moment a man realizes he can choose how to respond, rather than simply react. This is a story about forgiveness, humility, and the long road back to self-respect.

Highlights:

• Breaking free from autopilot and the illusion of control

• The loneliness every man feels but rarely names

• From being bullied and beaten down to building strength

• “Nothing happens to me; everything happens for me” — a new life mantra

• Learning that healing means helping someone else

• Why every low point can become the beginning of purpose

If you’re struggling: In the U.S., call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

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Manalizing: where men talk about the things men don’t talk about.

Keywords / Tags:

men’s mental health, childhood trauma, loneliness, isolation, bullying, healing trauma, depression recovery, emotional growth, forgiveness, self-awareness, purpose, overcoming abuse, suicide prevention, resilience, vulnerability for men, masculinity, spiritual awakening, manhood, personal growth, emotional intelligence, Manalizing podcast, Wes, Garth Haslem

Hashtags:

#MensMentalHealth #Loneliness #Healing #Resilience #DepressionRecovery #Autopilot #SelfAwareness #Forgiveness #Manalizing

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As I write this, I'm looking for words. This is one of the most powerful interviews you'll hear. Not just on Manalizing - anywhere. Enrique appears to have it all - the looks, the health, the cars and toys, the intelligence, the money, the athleticism - all of it.

But his demons are dark. They know him and how to get to the inner core of him - just like the rest of us. This is one of the most memorable interviews ever for Garth.

AI's take on the interview

At 25, Enrique Cahua has already lived a lifetime—immigrating from Peru, fighting stereotypes, earning a 4.0, building real-estate and business empires, and hitting rock bottom after a painful divorce.

In this raw conversation, Enrique shares how success and pressure pushed him toward suicide—and how one small act, a stubborn dog blocking a garage door, and a literal punch in the face saved his life.

He and Garth talk about depression, ambition, culture, masculinity, family, faith, and what it means to rebuild when the light seems gone. Boxing becomes Enrique’s therapy, metaphor, and medicine—proof that every man can get hit, stand back up, and still fight for purpose.

Highlights:

• Immigrating from Peru and breaking stereotypes in Utah

• Achieving early success—and the cost of it

• Depression, divorce, and the night everything almost ended

• The dog that saved his life

• How boxing brought feeling back

• Finding purpose through pain and rebuilding faith

If you’re struggling: In the U.S., call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

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Manalizing: where men talk about the things men don’t talk about.

Keywords / Tags:

men’s mental health, Latino men, immigrant stories, suicide prevention, depression recovery, divorce recovery, faith crisis, boxing therapy, jiu-jitsu for men, resilience, overcoming darkness, rebuilding life, purpose, family strength, vulnerability for men, masculinity redefined, Peruvian immigrant, Dirty Dough franchise, entrepreneurship, Manalizing podcast, Enrique Cahua, Garth Haslem

Hashtags:

#MensMentalHealth #SuicidePrevention #BoxingTherapy #Resilience #Faith #DivorceRecovery #ImmigrantStories #Manalizing

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What happens when a man walks through war, loss, and darkness—and decides to build instead of break?

In this powerful episode, Air Force veteran and real estate broker TJ McClellan shares how losing his bunk mate to self inflicted termination in Afghanistan shattered his world—and how that pain became the turning point for living fully, loving deeply, and creating connection wherever he goes.

TJ and Garth dive into the things men never talk about: guilt, numbness, faith, brotherhood, and how physical strength can become emotional therapy. From the battlefield to the gym to the dojo, TJ learned that movement and discipline can heal what silence cannot. Together, they explore martial arts, mentorship, and the vital need for safe spaces where men can be real, be seen, and belong.

Highlights:

• Life on base: fear, desensitization, and finding meaning in chaos

• The suicide that changed everything

• Coping vs. connecting—why most men implode instead of heal

• The gym and martial arts as emotional therapy

• Becoming the man who listens, teaches, and lifts others

• “Drink a cup of badass” — the daily choice to live with light and purpose

If you’re struggling: In the U.S., call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

men’s mental health, PTSD, veteran stories, Afghanistan deployment, suicide prevention, brotherhood, martial arts therapy, jiu-jitsu for men, gym therapy, resilience, men’s groups, vulnerability for men, fatherhood, purpose and meaning, Stoicism, mindset, fitness and real estate, tribe, connection, authenticity, coping vs connecting, lighthouse leader, Drink a Cup of Badass, Manalizing podcast, TJ McClellan, Garth Haslem

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Manalizing: where men talk about the things men don’t talk about.

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He’s a mechanic. He’s got the truck, the tools, the house, the wife, and the kid.

From the outside, Devin Westover looks like every man’s definition of “doing it right.”

But inside? He was a trash compactor.

Stuffing down pain from miscarriages, exhaustion, a broken family, and a near-suicide no one knew about. Until one day, the bag split open.

In this episode, Garth sits down with Devin Westover — a man who’s lived the hard road from pressure to peace. They talk about growing up without hearing “I love you,” watching his parents’ marriage crumble, the weight of miscarriage, and the brutal honesty of admitting “I almost ended it.”

You’ll hear how the right woman, the right questions, and a quiet act of courage turned everything around.

This isn’t a story about fixing cars — it’s about fixing a man’s soul.

Real men. Real pain. Real healing.

💡 Episode Summary (Show Notes Style)

• Devin’s story: the hard-working mechanic with the perfect life — on paper.
• How the “trash compactor” mentality destroys men from the inside out.
• The invisible pain of miscarriage and the silence men carry.
• When success turns toxic: chasing hours, losing home life, and missing family.
• The suicide attempt that jammed — literally — and how that moment changed everything.
• The woman who refused to give up on him, and how her one question — “What’s wrong?” — cracked the shell.
• The real work of rebuilding marriage, family, and self-worth.
• Why men need each other, and how to finally know who’s really in your corner.

men’s mental health, suicide prevention, miscarriage grief, mechanic life, fatherhood, marriage recovery, depression, manalizing, garth haslem, devin westover, masculinity, emotional healing, purpose, authenticity, self-worth, trauma recovery, real men talk, trash compactor metaphor, dark twenties, resilience

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He was bullied as a kid, chased approval through bars and bad choices, lost his marriage, lost his job, and nearly lost his life.

But in the silence after the storm, he heard a different voice — one that said, “You’re not done yet.”

In this episode, Garth sits down with Pauric (Rick) Walsh, an Irish immigrant who went from construction worker to lawyer, from alcoholic to advocate, and from “not enough” to a man who is. Rick shares how bullying, divorce, and near-suicide shaped his purpose: helping fathers who are fighting for their children and themselves.

They talk about the darkness men face when the noise stops, the myth of success, and the courage to say “I am enough.”

Real stories. Real men. Real change.

💡 Episode Summary

• Rick’s journey from rural Ireland to America — chasing approval and success for all the wrong reasons.
• How childhood bullying created a lifetime of pretending and performing.
• The crash: divorce, financial ruin, isolation, and suicidal thoughts.
• A near-death experience that whispered, “You’re not done yet.”
• Rediscovering purpose through law, fatherhood advocacy, and authenticity.
• How psychedelics, mindset work, and brutal honesty helped him heal.
• Garth and Rick on what enough really means, why service is the highest form of greatness, and how men can learn to stop faking and start being real.

men’s mental health, fatherhood, divorce recovery, authenticity, Irish immigrant story, suicide prevention, addiction recovery, self-worth, masculinity, trauma healing, purpose, law, mindset coaching, the legal dad, manalizing, garth haslem, pauric walsh, jesse elder, power of now, psychedelics healing, real men stories

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This one is different. It’s not theory — it’s survival.

In this episode of Manalizing, host Garth Haslem sits down with Kateri Reyes, a woman who spent 15 years in an abusive marriage and somehow came out stronger, wiser, and full of light.

What started as a story of pain becomes a masterclass in healing, self-worth, and divine partnership. Ari tells the truth about physical and emotional abuse — the fear, the shame, and the lies that keep people trapped. But she also shows the way out: reclaiming sacred ground, retraining the nervous system, and rediscovering that strength isn’t found in fighting harder — it’s in learning when to walk away.

“No one is coming to save you. That’s when I realized I had to.”

Episode Highlights

• Reclaiming sacred ground — finding safety after trauma
• The night she sat alone on the beach, realizing she might die
• How her abuser’s wounds became her prison — and her teacher
• What it means to feel instead of suppress
• Why “truth requires action” — and how it changed her life
• The difference between rescuing and allowing
• How men can learn from her story about emotion, honesty, and letting others in

domestic abuse recovery, trauma healing, women’s empowerment, men and emotions, emotional intelligence, divorce and faith, nervous system healing, trauma-informed relationships, Manalizing podcast, Garth Haslem, Ari story, reclaiming sacred ground, truth requires action

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What if your biggest flaws were the keys to your greatness?

In this Manalizing episode, host Garth Haslem sits down with Eddie Villa — speaker, author, strengths coach, and one of Garth’s closest friends — for a powerful, raw conversation about becoming the man you were created to be.

Eddie’s journey goes deep: a rough childhood, absent father, ignored son, early fatherhood, and a life spent searching for meaning. But through all that pain, he learned one life-altering truth — we are infinitely unique, and when we finally stop running from who we are, everything changes.

“Once this guy in my head got on my side, the whole world could say ‘screw you,’ and I’d still be okay.”

This episode is a masterclass in authenticity, faith, and learning how to love the man in the mirror — flaws, failures, and all.

Episode Highlights

• What “infinitely unique” really means — and why your flaws matter
• How childhood denial becomes adult perfectionism
• Turning your inner critic into your greatest motivator
• Raising yourself after being unseen as a child
• The spiritual power of self-acceptance and surrender
• Why failure is the best teacher a man can have
• The moment Eddie made peace with his past — and found purpose

Eddie Villa, strengths coach, authentic masculinity, men’s self-worth, father wounds, childhood trauma, inner critic, men’s mental health, vulnerability, purpose, faith, healing, personal growth, Manalizing podcast, Garth Haslem

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When everything falls apart — your marriage, your finances, your health — what keeps a man going?

In this Manalizing episode, host Garth Haslem talks with John Emmanuele, a Wisconsin dad who’s lived through just about every kind of storm: divorce, false accusations, custody battles, and even his wife’s cancer diagnosis.

Through it all, John never stopped fighting for what mattered most — his kids, his marriage, and his peace.

This is a story about endurance, fatherhood, and the quiet kind of faith that only shows up when everything else is stripped away.

“You’re gonna struggle every day. That’s what life is. But stay the course. Believe. The hard moments are what make the good ones mean something.”

Episode Highlights

• How to survive when the system feels stacked against you
• Balancing court battles, money stress, and real life
• Loving your kids through manipulation and chaos
• The cancer diagnosis that changed everything
• “We’re not doing this without the kids” — how family became his center
• What it means to stay faithful when everything’s uncertain
• “If you give up, who raises them?”

divorced dad, father’s rights, custody battle, co-parenting, men’s mental health, family court, false accusations, stepfather, breast cancer support, emotional endurance, masculine faith, resilience, Manalizing podcast, Garth Haslem

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Sometimes the moment that saves your life looks like a beer can flying through the air.

In this episode of Manalizing, host Garth Haslem sits down with Ray Rocha — a salesman, drummer, father, and 31-year sober alcoholic who learned how to rebuild his life one brutally honest day at a time.

Ray’s story starts in chaos: a broken home, addiction by 14, and years of denial. But the turning point came when his mother hurled a six-pack at him and said, “Here’s your beer, asshole.” The next morning, Ray walked into his first AA meeting — and never had another drink.

This conversation dives deep into what it means to own your pain, raise a daughter through divorce and distance, and redefine masculinity through humility.

Ray’s honesty is hard-won, his laughter disarming, and his story unforgettable.

Episode Highlights

• The beer-throwing moment that changed everything
• “Don’t be a victim” — how to stop making excuses for pain
• Sobriety, fatherhood, and faith through the hardest moments
• The custody fight that nearly broke him — and made him
• Why men need to ask for help (and what happens when we don’t)
• Turning the lowest moment into a gift
• “You’re not a loser for going to AA. You’re a loser for pretending you don’t need it.”

alcoholism recovery, sobriety, AA story, men’s mental health, father’s rights, custody battle, addiction, divorce recovery, single father, emotional healing, resilience, masculinity, Manalizing podcast, Garth Haslem

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Tegan Peterson looks like life’s been easy — clean-cut, confident, and now engaged to Garth’s “bonus daughter,” Mandy. But behind that smile is a story of deep hurt, early responsibility, and the kind of maturity that only comes from pain.

In this Manalizing episode, Garth Haslem sits down with Tegan to talk about growing up through divorce, being told by his mission president that “you can’t change,” and learning the hardest lesson a man ever faces — forgiveness.

This is a conversation between two men who understand what it means to be let down by those you looked up to… and to rise anyway.

Tegan’s wisdom at 20 goes far beyond his years:

“If you’re always waiting for the other person to fix the problem, it’s never going to happen.”

Episode Highlights

• How a missionary learned “discipline beats motivation”
• The boy who felt abandoned and the man who learned to forgive
• Facing down betrayal and anger toward a father figure
• Healing through understanding — not justification
• The gift of a tough, forgiving mother
• “Are you willing to let other people be imperfect?”
• How forgiveness stops the poison from spreading

men’s mental health, father-son relationship, forgiveness, divorce recovery, LDS mission, emotional healing, masculinity, young men, discipline vs motivation, personal responsibility, Tegan Peterson, Garth Haslem, Manalizing podcast

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