The word "manipulation" has a very negative connotation. But is all manipulation abusive? Does it always have the potential to undermine consent? On ep 158 of American Sex Podcast Kitty Stryker joins us to analyze how manipulation shows up in sex, relationships, and kink. It turns out we manipulate a lot more than we realize and sometimes it can be for noble intentions. But what differentiates positive manipulation from abuse? We discuss what manipulation red flags to look for when vetting potential partners, how to manipulate ethically in BDSM scenes, how to negotiate manipulation in play, how to recognize when it's being used as an abusive tactic, how it relates to brat play, and more.

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